Got back together with my GF and realized how bad in bed she was after a fling

So my GF of about a year or so broke up with me after she moved back home across the country to be closer to a parent with health issues. I couldn't leave, as I'm a business owner, and while it was a tough decision, we called it quits.

She ended up moving back about 3 months later after her mom unexpectedly passed away, and we got back together. We are now living together, as she temporarily has moved in until she can get into an apartment. There's a rental crisis where we live, and it can take several months to get into a decent place.

During the time she was gone, I had a fling with a woman in my pool league I've known for years. It was not a relationship, just a bunch of sex. Long story short, she invited me over after dropping her off from league one night, and we hooked up. I thought it was a one and done sorta thing, but it turned into our post league ritual. I made it clear that I wasn't interested in dating right from the beginning, and she was OK with that. She's just not my type. She has very different politics, she drinks a bit much for me, she has 2 estranged daughters, and she's completely uneducated. I do find her to have a fun personality, and I like her body. She has a REALLY big butt and looks great with her clothes off for a bigger woman

Anyways, she was about a billion times better in bed than my GF is in every way. She was amazing at oral, she liked it from behind, and she didn't require 20 minutes of foreplay to get turned on. Like we would go into her bedroom, and she'd be ready to go as soon as I was. My GF just is not like that. It takes forever to get her in the mood. She's the first partner I've ever been with that was like that. She's also not into oral at all, even for foreplay. The woman I had the fling with was very generous with oral on it's own, much less as foreplay. Not going to lie, It felt great to wake up in the morning and have her head go under the covers without even asking.

Well, I broke things off with the fling the second I found out my ex was moving back, and she was totally chill about the whole thing. I do think she was starting to catch feelings a bit, but she's also one of the more level headed women I think I've ever known in that department. She also just started dating some guy, so she clearly wasn't too broken up over me.

Getting back together with my GF has been nice as far as companionship. I really missed her company, and we do have a great dynamic with a lot in common. We have similar views on pretty much everything, but it just doesn't translate to the bedroom. Sex was a bit stale with her before, as I've had better partners in that department in the past, but it's almost depressing now. The oral sex thing was always out of the question, as she has issues with her jaw, and she finds it degrading. I can except that, but my God have I been missing it since we got back together. The other thing is that despite my GF being really attractive and fit, she's just too slender for my taste now. I think I might just have a thing for curvier women after this fling. The woman I had the fling with just turns me on so much more as far as her body goes. I've always been with more slender women like my GF, but she just doesn't have a booty at all. She's built like a distance runner with no curves. while I'm not into women that are overweight like the woman I was hooking up with, I did prefer her backside. Now when I go to league, I find myself just staring at her butt all night and wishing we were still hooking up.

Is my relationship doomed? Did I open Pandora's box? As awesome as it was to receive a bunch of oral like that, I think I would be fine in a relationship without it. I mean, nobody gets everything they want in a relationship. However, my GF just doesn't physically turn me on. I can't stop thinking about getting behind the woman I had the fling with. I probably would not date a woman that heavy because of lifestyle differences, but that booty was absolutely heaven compared to being with a woman that has no ass. I don't know what to do.

 

Maybe she is scared and doesnt want to hurt you.....

Give her some time to get back into it,you seem very sweet


Good luck!

 

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If Guy267 ever come back I have some advice for him. He isn't committed in any way to GF, marriage and such, so why not have both. I think he erred by breaking it off with pool girl. It seems to me pool girl is more of a fuck buddy than a serious relationship with such an opposite view on things but you never know. Opposites do attract. I'm a testament to that. Guy267 feels GF is more serious but he's just affording her a temporary place to live. She broke with him, at her insistence, when she could have kept the relationship long distance. Besides she may have hooked up with someone while she lived with her parent in the other town. Seems to me he is limiting himself pleasure because GF came back. If it were me I would let GF know that on pool nights I may not be coming in until late or at all. I'd also let her know there was another I played with and I might hook up with her again. To go on he should let GF know how he feels sex wise. Dissatisfaction in the area of sex in a relationship leads to further dissatisfaction in other areas. He needn't trap himself into a relationship in which he is not totally satisfied with. GF landed on her feet when she moved away once before. She will do the same once she gets her own living space if he decides that she really isn't the one. BTW, pool girl may not be the one either but what she did for him was open his eyes to other possibilities. I suggest he go explore them.