Goodbye Idiot

So for two or three years now, I was very close to this online guy and would chat with him almost everyday. There was a time when there were scheduling issues, so I would wake up in the middle of the night to talk to him even though I had to get up early. Every conversation ad something in it that made talking to him really worthwhile. He's like me, not that smart (he would just say "fuck that noise" or "watching the news makes you dumber") and in a way, very smart. He helped me through some things and also we could be silly and make each other laugh.

There have always been things about him that annoyed me. For one thing, he's solely responsible for the chat room members all leaving the website and I think he has done that in other chat rooms. He told me he even got banned from Facebook. Red flag.

Anyway, so yesterday I was chatting with him. I said something about my identity, I don't remember what, but he became furious and yelled. I said "so everyone around you has to be *exactly* like you in order for you to be friends with them?" He said "YES, everyone around me has to be *exactly* like me in order to be friends with them!" And he wonders why his life is so dull.

END OF PART I

 

Well, at least he knows what he wants. :unsure:

 

So then I said "well you're a communist and I don't like that." Instead of him saying "oh well in that case we're even" or "yea so there are always things that will be different but we can still get along or agree to disagree", no, instead he argued "well what's wrong with being a communist?" It reminded me of how at one point he said living in the US was hellish and that he would rather live in North Korea. I should have told him to move there and never come back, because he's gonna be one of those people that causes something like that to happen and just downplays it, no free speech, no books, no movies, no art, no religion, no Internet, no cell phones, no variety of products, no decent healthcare, and oh yeah, mass graves. Especially considering how I once said I was proud to be American and he said then I'm as dumb as a box of rocks. The more I thin bout it, the more I think, forget this clown.

 

A communist? :unsure:

 

So looking back at some of his asinine comments:

-He says he doesn't love his parents, even though they never even remotely abused him and in fact he was adopted and completely pampered, seeing as his dad was a CEO and his mom was a stay-at-home mom. He had a huge advantage (my mom came to the US with $10 in her pocket and her first job was as an usher at a movie theater because she thought it was just a coup in West Africa and it only gradually sunk in that we would be here for the rest of our lives. She received no child support and definitely no alimony. She didn't know what the SATs were or what an Ivy League University was. And I still hustled and continue to reach gradually in spite of eight hospitalizations and a repeated diagnosis of schizophrenia. What choice do I have?) a huge advantage, but has settled for bagging groceries for a living. I asked him about life insurance or retirement or what he'll do when he's too old to work and he just blew it off.

 

-He's against childism which he thinks is when you raise a child according your values or telling her what to do. I said what if your child wants to eat nothing but chocolate cake. He said how old is the child? I said eight. He said "I think eight years old is old enough to make your own choices about what type of food you'll eat." Oh sure. Why not burn down the whole house while you're at it. I said, no, children aren't equal and they should be told what to do. I know if I had CEO dad at the very least I would be working for him. Career advice that's sound and not too low or too high up is crucial. Not too strict, not too lenient is crucial too. His parenting is bordering on neglect.

-Another annoying thing with child-rearing: he thinks you should never ever lie to a child. Not even about Santa Claus. Yes, I'm not talking about a cruel lie like "you can do anything you set your mind to" or "it always gets better for everyone" or "narrow is the way." Not even Santa Claus. I remember believing in Santa Claus and when my sister did too. We saw him in an interview on CNN. He said a weird North Pole accent and everything. There were these little elves working on computers. He said "well they can still enjoy it even if they know it's fake." What are you trying to prove here? That you're morally superior to other parents? Because really, I don't think that's about the kid at all.

 

May I ask why you had to make three separate posts to tell one story?

Why not just use paragraphs?

Edit: Sorry, four separate posts.

 

If one post is too long, no one's gonna read it.

 

-He's an Internet feminist or radical feminist or sympathizer. He's thinks the Amazing Atheist is a jerk. I love the Amazing Atheist and agree with a lot of the things he has to say against Internet feminists. I think these Internet feminists have gone way off the deep end, like how they're obsessed with rape because that's one of the few things in the US that isn't mission accomplished or this non-existent patriarchy that no one can see but them.

-He hates Christians and made a very ignorant comment about Anglicans, like "do they hate gays" or something, which shows that he completely ignorant about Christianity. He is very strongly against all Christians and harassed a chat room member just because he was Christian when everyone was asking him to leave the guy alone and when that's part of why everyone left that chat room. He said he hates them because they worship an evil god. He obviously doesn't know the first thing about being brought up as a Christian and definitely makes blanket comments that show that he knows nothing about the Anglican Church. He even said "how are you Anglican when you're black? Isn't that the Church of England?" An Anglican is the exact same thing as an Episcopalian and there are a lot of Africans who are Anglican or Catholic for whatever reason, like missionaries. My family is African so I was raised Anglican or Episcopalian. The black church in the US is Baptist-like because they're a completely different ethnic bloc with a completely different history and culture but for we're all lumped together as African Americans.

 

My favorite part about that story was your mom coming to America with $10 in her pocket. Dudeman does sound pretty annoying but you're interesting.

 

this is valid. if the whole thing was in one post, i wouldn't have read past the first line.

i really hope this guy isn't nzmale...

 

I actually get Siri to read it to me and now I associate Siri with The Samantha.

 

I could only get through Part 1 ! Sorry but my attention span is not all ............
Anyone like Blueberry Muffins I can eat three one after the other :daisy:

 

Sounds like a dick to me.

 

I never would have guessed you're (or your mom/parents are) from west Africa! Which country if I may ask?

 

Oh thank you!

 

Liberia (yes both parents. My sister just got her citizenship about five weeks ago)

 

Cool (I hope I know so little about that country...)! Did you ever go there, or want to go there again? Sorry if we're taking this too off topic for your liking!

 

Yeah I spent my early childhood there, up until around age seven. I don't mind veering off topic. But I should update: said idiot and I patched things up.

 

Let's hope he understands now you can disagree on things.

About communists btw: I am not that aversive to communists in general but I would never want to live in a country like North Korea He sounds pretty extreme to the point of nonsensical with some of his opinions and the questions it makes him come up with.. But happily you are fully aware of that so yeah