Hey everyone, I'm posting this thread about my relationship with a guy I've known for exactly a year now. When we met, he was in a serious relationship and I wasn't interested in him (or anyone, really.) A few months later, he broke up with his girlfriend and confided in my best friend so as a result him and I got closer. These past few months, we have been in contact daily and see each other at least once a week. We have slept together twice and honestly it was pretty awkward.. we didn't kiss or anything and it really did not feel intimate. We never spoke again about sleeping together after the fact and we're both still single. We are good friends and trust each other a great deal but neither of us seem to be able to man up and bring up the "where do we stand" conversation. I can tell that he is equally as afraid as messing things up as I am. If anyone has any advice on how I can test the relationship waters with him without sacrificing our friendship or a smooth way to find out how he feels and where he stands, please let me know! I know that I have problems with being vulnerable and me being able to tell him how I honestly feel would be so, so difficult for me. :thanks: :daisy:
Well for starters you could ask him. If you can't even have a conversation with him how can you expect to have a relationship with him? Being vulnerable in a relationship builds trust, you can't build trust without giving it a chance and opening up. Why weren't you affectionate during sex? I tried to read other posts from you to get a sense of who you are but it looks like this is your first and only post. Judging by the fact you have difficulty expressing your feelings to him during sex, fear vulnerability, as well as lack of kissing / intimate touching during sex I'm led to believe you aren't embracing your feminine side. So I would suggest first, don't be afraid to put yourself out there a little more with him. Be brave girl! Let him know its ok for him to confide in you, be on his side when he faces difficulty (back him up), and be more expressive about what you want. I've learned that being more expressive and actually coming out to say what I feel gets me what I want more often than not. Sitting on the sidelines, and not trying is the only sure way to fail at anything.
