first of all you're way off just because a guy has a lot of material things doesn't mean he loves who he's with any less. I think you're generalizing there. The person I was with who I was speaking of was not well off when I met him and as I said before just because someone has a high income it doesn't mean they are financially responsible they could have a higher debt to income ratio. and as long as someones responsible I could care less how much they make. If you really get to know someone before you get involved with them and value them for their morals, values, interests and personality than I think that would aleiviate the problem of immoral materialistic girls.
I met the biggest gold digging bitch ever today it was so disturbing seeing this educated woman trying to go after this specific group of men.
i sometimes have an overwhelming urge to trip those women and watch them fall over their pretty little 6 inch heels. preferably into mud. (absolutely no offense to all the stiletto lovers out there...they're a fetish of mine) but what really breaks my heart are the men that are so blinded that they really dont see that their little "angel" is only going to suck them dry and leave them. i dont kow if i despise those people for being so dumb or pity them endlessly.
im turned off by guys who make a lot of money, maybe because theyre often less passionate about life, and money is all they aim for = very shallow. Making money is boring, unless your an artist or something then again very few real artists are rich! so come on all you poor creative passionate guys, ill have ya!
http://www.m-w.com/cgi-bin/dictionary Main Entry: prostitute Function: noun 1 a : a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse especially for money : [size=-1]WHORE[/size] b : a male who engages in sexual and especially homosexual practices for money 2 : a person (as a writer or painter) who deliberately debases his or her talents (as for money)
My last boyfriend was along the same line of thought as the original poster.... when I tried to tell him I didn't care about his finances he asked "wouldn't you like me better if I made millions?" and my response was "HELL NO". It's not just the gals who are shallow. I couldn't convince him that money didn't fall into the equation and I did break up with him, but for very different reasons Anywho, I think this is the wrong board to be asking this question in! 99.9% of posters here on hipforums are super cool people who aren't all that materialistic. At least, not enough that they would choose their dating partners based more on money than anything else.
I know it seems like the wrong board, but honestly I think that many women even here have these tendencies, esp. as they get older (just like their are many guys who prefer the whole plastic prostitute thing). Perhaps as Lynsey suggested, it is genetic. Women, as they get older, will want men who can provide for a family. Still, I think this trait goes a little more than outta control.
I had this conversation with someone last month. Anyone who dates a guy for money is really no less immoral than a straight up street whore.
i found the same thing I once dated a guy who was so insecure over his income that it caused too many problems and I had to end the relationship. It's like he wouldn't let me enjoy what we were doing because he was so insecure that we weren't doing something HE percieved as 'better'. It made hanging out with him way un fun. Plus he worked for a non-profit like me so I really respected that but no matter how many times I told him this his insecurity about the whole thing just kept coming up. It's like come on dude take a compliment. And guys who's main goal is to attain material objects tend to be total jerks.
Has it occurred to anyone that the qualities typically possessed by an ideal mate and the qualities possessed by a successful professional are highly similar? It's kinda like having money is an indication that you have your shit together
For me the most important things are that: 1) He/she has a sense of humor and makes me laugh. 2) He/she is smart and well-read. 3) He/she respects my need to be alone sometimes. 4) He/she likes all animals. 5) He/she respects that I choose not to have biological children and would only consider adoption because of genetic issues. 6) He/she must respect my feelings. 7) He/she must have a productive (not high money yielding, min. wage is dandy) job that benefits others. 8) He/she must not be in bad debt. (Student debt/debt for a house is fine.) 9) He/she must not be an alcoholic. 10) He/she must not smoke tobacco products. That's what matters to this girl. Can't speak for others.
exactly I have power and I have a choice now hmmm hard decision am i going to pick someone who has their shit together in every way or am i going to pick someone who is irrespoinsible and not motivated-the choice seems very clear to me. And likewise I think most guys would prefer a woman who has goals and is motivated.
sounds like your ideal mate is a successful professional. whatever, look love and security never go hand in hand. My best friend was absolutely in love with a good guy, cultured, athletic, intellegent, college educated, etc. His only downfall was that he was 24, didn't have his shit together (yet). So instead of love, she left him for this illiterate cabinet maker, who has huge muscles and goes four wheelin' on weekends. He has a beautiful house, but he is dumb as his cabinets' doorknobs. The first time I went over to his house, I became physically nauseous as it became clear her reasons for selecting this ideal mate.
well, women want a man that can support their children. it's a biological imperative. no one gets pissed off at birds for choosing mates who are the best providers, why not women. i got lucky and found a great man who is also a great provider. because of this i can stay at home with her instead of working outside the home to pay someone else to raise my child. i'm also not pissed with him that it was my beautiful face, huge tits and awesome body (at the time) that got me the date. the way i figure it, a woman can search for her viable mate within set parameters, and if one of those parameters is money, more power to her. i've seen too many relationships destroyed over lack of money. love doesn't pay the rent.
I was just having this chat with a friend recently. this problem is yours. i bet all the girls you have dated were slutty concieted bimbos who obviously just use you for your cash. i know you'll deny this but if you really had met REAL women you wouldnt think like that. lots of girls are self centred wenches but its your fault for picking them. and thats all i have to say about that
I don't think that was the topic at hand. I think that goldmund was referring to women/girls who go for a guy who drives a new sports car as opposed to an older car, has an overly large home outfitted with useless extras, and will buy his girlfriend a huge diamond as opposed to a something thoughtful but much less expensive. You see, "having your shit together" doesn't exactly mean that you're rich. People who don't have a ton of money can easily "have their shit together." I think that goldmund was refferring to rich/very wealthy men when he mentioned "men that pull in the cash."
I am not and the woman I have dated loved turning into my world (I have only have 2+ year relationships) and then when we move on they turn into whoever they are with That is sooooo sad and so materrialistic in the way that they turned into your likes just to get what they want I will (hopefully) love the girl I meet and love WHO SHE IS even if she is gansta even if I am a crunchy now thats love that I want peace fee
