girls that want babys and ones that dont

i want babyboy,no waiit i want 2 baby boys and then one girl!!

 

No that clock never ticked for me. That job is better left up to someone more qualified

 

Yep, not everyone wants, or should have, children. Parenting should be the domain of only those who truely want it.

 

Well said

 

It's not like the human race is going to die out if some people just don't want to have kids. Kids should only be brought into homes where the parent(s) will have that child be the foremost thing on their mind, their time and their money. Not everyone wants to do that, and that is what is best for them. (as well as best for the children they didn't have.)

I have children, but I HATE when people try to talk my childless freinds into it with "once you hold that baby....." stuff. Rarely does that happen. Most womyn KNOW what is best for them. Kids, or no kids. Life can be full with or without kids, depending on what YOU want.

 

Very true Maggie, if it is really what you want. I know a few women though who have been what I consider brainwashed by their husbands and their religion to believe that the only place for a woman is to be pardon the cliche, but barefoot and pregnant.

Now, one woman I know I can understand her situation, she was told that she would never be able to have children and it took her and hubby a long time to finally be blessed with a baby, then they went on to have 2 more. (doctors don't always know everything). Anyway, that is great if that is what she enjoys doing, but she and my boyfriend's mother both ganged up on me because I said it just wasn't for me (at that time, I was only like 23 or 24). I didn't have any maternal feelings at all back then, and had no desire for a child in my life. Boy, I never heard the end of it. They thought I was the devil, because according them all women should be wanting and having kids. Especially by my old age of 23. Sheesh!

This also happened before with a few Christian women that I knew. They just had been told their entire life that they need to find a husband asap and get pregnant and raise a family because that was all they were good for. Regardless of what they wanted (the one woman wanted to be a lawyer, but her family would not let her go to college). It was very sad, and definitely made me think about things and how lucky I am.

 

Your choices didn't include for those who already have them and want more... I chose the "no never" option, but I do have two now. But, I definitely don't want any more.

 

As I've got older, although, I'm still only 16, I've thought more about having my own kids, but I think I'd rather adopt becasue they are already so many kids that want a family, so I'd rather love one of those that bring in another child to the world

 

I did for a while, but now I don't. This may change, and if I had a baby I'd deal with it. But right now, no, I don't want to have any children ever.

 

I'm way too young for this to even be an issue, but I really don't like children, and although this may change,as of right now, I feel I'm too selfish to be able to provide and be the best parent that my abilities would allow for, which would ultimately be completely unfair to a potential child. So I think not, at this point. Besides, I completely lack ANY sort of maternal instict, whatsoever...

 

I'd love to have kids. I can always remember wanting a huge family. Ideally, I'd like to have two or three children regularly, and then adopt two. I'd like to have the kids before I get to be 30 though, so I won't be all that old while raising kids.
But.. I'll just have to wait and see if that happens.

 

Not for the time being, no, I don't want children of my own. I guess I'm not mature enough, although I'm 23 years old. Later, maybe I'll want a child of my own.
I will be a teacher soon, so I'll have to teach children. I like children, but am not planning to have one of my own yet.

 

i honestly dont know if ill ever hanve my own kid. id feel guilty knowing there are millions of children without parents, and here i am, bringing another into the world.

im young, i dont know, but thats been my opinion for quite some time.

 

A child is difficult to take care of, to educate. And if I am just going to bring it into this world and then pass it to my parents to take care of it, then I don't think it would be appropriate.

 

i would love to have a child but you need lotsa money and lotsa patience and lotsa support behind you . If you are not emotionally and mentally and physically there than how can yo be for your baby. Babies can sense the mother is not feeling well or i depressed. Yes moms can have down days i'm not saying moms have to be perfect but i believe fully that you NEED to haev a career not just a job flipping burgers Its great to see the single moms out there, whose bf's left them and thats what there are doing ? But when you want your Child/ren to go to University or College or haev dental care or medical you need the full benefits and the whole shabang. Not just get half the pckg and fork out 200 a month thats half your pay if you work at Tim Hortons or wherever. Just stating a point not telling ppl they are not capable of doign it . There are a lot of moms who do..do it and are very very good mothers (hats off to you) But i just think $$ is a big factor in raising children especially when they are in the younger yrs


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i wouldnt like to give birth a child.it must be a fantastic feeling,but sure it hurts, too.i cant even think of that scene.maybe i adopt a child in the future,but iam not sure about that.id like to make a potential-miserable child happy and make her/him live a life full of freedom.but the only reason is this.i dont ever personally want to have a child.

 

for a long time in my life i had decided that i never wanted kids... however now i've decided in the future when i'm financially and mentally (ha ha) stable enough for a child, i'd like to have one. only if i really fucking love the person i'm with though.

 

I wonder if I will ever be mentally stable enough to take care of a child. It is like part of me thinks I will be ok, and part of me thinks I'm too fucked up. I watch t.v. and see how these asshole parents have no clue what they are doing and they do it "all wrong" or at least not how I would handle things, but then I wonder will I be able to keep it together when I am actually going through it. Like I have maintained for the past 3 years now, I'm still on the fence. I watch baby shows more often and I am excited about having a child one day (though god help me I have a freakin job first) I am not planning a pregnancy any time soon. It would sort of be a good thing and sort of throw all of my plans off course. ya know.

Though, regarding moms flipping burgers: while it is not for me, because I have gone to college and it is not what interests me, I recently met a woman who is a manager of a Buger King. She is the wife of my boyfriend's childhood friend. Her boy came to our house and he is the most respectful, well adjusted, well behaved child I have ever met in my life. I have a friend who is a lawyer and her child is a spoiled rotten brat who ruined her wedding photos because she didn't have her chewy fruit snack things. I don't think that your career makes as much a difference. Sure money does matter to an extent. But I came from a fairly wealthy family and my boyfriend from a fairly poor family. We pretty much relate to each other though. And we have our own ideas of how we would like to raise a family. Obviously not in poverty, but also they should not get everything they think they want. Like my dad has always said to me when I started to act like too much of a snob: poor people can love too.

 

I am a mother @ 25. I have a wonderful, beautiful little man who is now 8 months old.. Hes is my everything, and my whole world..

I think people who wait too long to have children will regret it later in life when they do have children. They are the most amazing gift any person can have.

I've never regretted having my son, nor will i ever! it has made my relationship with his father stronger, when we share the love for one little guy who looks @ you with so much love and trust.

Its truely beautiful experience

 

i wish people would stop breeding
just stop
have as much gratuitous sex as you want
just dont breed