girls that want babys and ones that dont

I don't want ANYTHING coming out of there thanks.. especially a human being.. but I'm planing on adopting a 2 year old girl from Ghana or Ethiopia or Kenya when I'm like 30-35 ish.. and I'm naming her Willow.. yes i hvae it all planed out

 

Well im pregnant. Took me by surprise and it will comepletly change my life forever.

 

I want to adopt a baby girl someday. I don't want to have my own kids though.

 

I worked with children and I totally stated to dislike them. I learned one thing from the childcare center - I am not a mommy type person. I care too much about myself, I am busy and workaholic, type A personality. I can handle young adults, but kids... nope.

 

I always say, working in childcare can be the best form of birthcontrol!

 

yeah, I want to have kids later. I'd love to have a big family with like four kids

 

I grew in a small family just me and my brother. When I was younger I didn't want kids I thought my parents had screwed my up so bad that I would end up doing the same to any kids I had. Then I got out of school got a job and started seeing people around me having kids and started thinking what if I never have kids I will always be alone even If I got married it would be just me and him. I decided I wanted a big crazy family with the house out in the coutry and the animals. So I met me a nice catholic boy and got married. So here I sit six kids and the seventh on the way with my house in the country and all the animals. I have completely lost my mind and totally loving it. I can't wait for the day when I am referred to as the crazy grandma that everyone loves. I will feed my grandkids lots of chocolate and let them wait to much tv and then send em home to mommy. But I am content for now just raising my young ones. Feeding them way too much chocolate and letting them watch to much tv and then sending them to grandma's. LOL

 

I'm getting to that age where everyone is starting to have children. I'm by no means ready to have a child, but this biological force is making me want one in a way...

 

actually i think it's a good thing to "thin the herd" so to speak...there ARE over 6 billion of us on this planet and things are getting pretty damn crowded and congested, if you ask me. let some people die off, and let the population taper off. our gene pool needs a serious culling, in my opinion...

 

i have had that biological pull towards having my own child, but as i get older, the more i do not desire to ever carry a child for 9+ months. i do like kids and i think i'd be a pretty good parent, but i would rather adopt a child, maybe two. there are lots of kids who's parents just can't cut it, and they end up going from one foster home to another during their whole childhood...nothing would fulfill me more than providing a loving, enriching, and stable environment for a child to grow up in rather than an ever-changing, unstable, and often unloving environment. it makes me sick the number of people who are foster parents just to get that check from the state so they can spend it on shit they don't need while they either ignore or abuse the children who are supposed to be under their care...and so often things like that go unreported and nothing is done! to know i had rescued ONE CHILD from such a fate would make me feel like i'd made a huge difference for someone. i don't believe it's being blood related that makes a family. there are factions of my family who are like strangers to me, even though they live in the same town! i have mad respect for people who choose to adopt rather than have their own child because they are helping a kid who otherwise might not have a good childhood, AND because they're not contributing to overpopulation of the human race. i'm pretty steeped in the belief that people should try not to have more than 3 kids this day in age, and that more people should adopt! my best friend was adopted, never knew his birth parents, and he had a great childhood, and his adoptive parents always loved him as if they HAD birthed him.

 

the problem isnt so mucjh that there are too manyt people, the problem is that the people are distributed uneavenly according to wealth.... 3rd world countries have the biggest populations

 

i want kids. eventually. not now. that'd be crazy. but i do want to have them one day.

 

its strange

one of my old best friends recently had a baby..but before she gave birth me and her started becoming friends again...anyways now that she has the baby...being around it...I cant help but really want a child. I know it wouldnt be the best time in my life to have on...but just..seeing her, the way she looks at him, and holding that little person...it just ...i dont know...

but (an excuse to show him off)
This is Kalub Orion:

he was born the day after mothers day(wouldnt he make you want to have a kid lol)

 

awwwwww he's a cutie! I completely understand. All my friends that have babies or are pregnant make me want one some time in my life. I just know right now is not the best time. I travel way too much and I'm 1/2 way through my degree. I don't know what it is, but there's this urge to want to reproduce. Maybe human nature?

 

Being around other people with babies has never made me want one of my own. I'm kinda in the position where if it happens it happens. I am on bc so we aren't making any plans or foolish decisions, but if I were to get preggo anyway, then it must be meant to be.

I guess my deal is that I'm afraid. I'm afriad that I have no clue what I'm doing and I won't be a good enough mother. And did I mention I have absolutely no clue what the hell to do with a baby. And I know I'm not ready because at times I really think it would be amazing to hold a little baby and take care of it and love it and kiss it and yes even clean up its poo. But there are other times when the idea of being pregnant (just being the pregnancy and childbirth part, not having children) makes me feel violent. I don't know why that happens. Again it could be fear.

I'm not into the idea of adopting. It is good for others, if they feel that is their calling. I'm going to be a teacher and I know for a fact that is my calling. I would much rather have my own children at home though, a product of the love of my boyfriend and myself. Something that is created from us.

So while I'm not in a hurry, we'll see. I have names picked out though already. hehee. And I've pictured our family, so I guess it is a safe bet to say we want them someday.

 

yeah..i mean i want them someday 100% becuase i think it is th emost special thing a woman can experience...but as far as now..well...I mean if it happens...ill be in that yeah i am fucking happy but i am scared out of my ever-loving mind! I mean when i am around my firends with kids and see the glow they have...i cant help but think how much i would love that special bond with someone...but i know all the problems and hardships it would cause for all of us would be worse than having to wait...

although I have picturedour family...little kids with blonde hair and brown eyes..or brown hair and green eyes...
and for names..We already agreed a little girl wil be out little Ivy; if its a boy, i would love Vincent but he isnt really too keen on it

 

Picking out names is funny. Jer and I agreed separately on the same name for a boy: Gabriel. Don't know why I like that name I just do, and that was what his mom named one of the babies she was pregnant with before him (she miscarried) so he wanted to name his son that. It was creepy though when we both discovered that we wanted the same name for a boy and neither of us had ever mentioned it.

The girl name is going to be much more difficult for us to agree on. He likes traditional, I like something a little unique. I mean my parents named me Jennifer. It is the most common, most boring name in the world. Someone says "Jen" and like 10 of us turn around. I just think there should be more thought and meaning behind naming a child.

 

My mom named me Jennifer and I hate it. everywhere I go I dunno if someone is talking to me. Most of the time people call me "Moja" or "Bumble" because there are a lot of Jennifers.

 

lol I got Desiree'...i didnt htink anyone else in the world had my name untill like 4th grade

but i think its nice to have somehting unique...but with meaning..for me Ivy is special because (i know its odd but) the color green is a HUGE part of my life and I want to have some sort of green associated with my kids names...for thwe boys it would be middle..(unless i can talk skye nto Hunter)...

 

All animals have a basic drive to reproduce, if we didn't the species would be extinct, not to mention the drive to throw one's own genes into the pool.

Most girls get "Baby Lust' for the first time a few years after their periods start to regulate.(some even sooner) In a less complicated society, this is when reproduction ususally starts, when the female is finished growing herself and ready to reproduce.