Girls, is your current Husband/boyfriend your best ever lover. And.......

let go of your anger and answer one simple question;

Why would a woman sleep with a man, marry or live with a man that could not completely satisfy her sexually?

 

And yet your married to a man that you admit has never completely satisfied you?

 

There's no anger involved in any of this.

Because there's not many men on earth who "completely" 100% satisfy their women and it's not an all or nothing game.

Jacob, for example, stated he and his girl have good sex. He satisfies her to a point, but his girl has a higher sex drive than him. He, through allowing her to be with other men, now completes her through that act of openness. Their general relationship was stated to be great and they're in love.

Your logic would break up an otherwise happy, fulfilling relationship.

Why is it so hard for you, or anyone else, to believe that a relationship where the husband shares his wife has the capability of being fulfilling and happy?

 

Maybe she is married to that man for other reasons like family or something! Why is it alright for other people on here to be in a different arrangement, but not her? Why should she explain it to you? If you don't like the answer or agree with it then you will just start throwing out insults like a child!

 

but other men have completely satisfied her. she chose a man who doesn't, so jacob must offer something other for her to be in a relationship with him. What is that something?

oh, btw my wife says I completely satisfy her.

 

Yes, enhancer. Yes, FX.

We're finally getting somewhere in this thread.

There's things other than the sex side that matter. And they matter a lot. So much so, that why should some shortcomings in bed be reason for a couple to split? Both the man and the woman can get enjoyment out of an arrangement such as the one we've been discussing. Jacob and his woman, for example.

What is it that is in a relationship like jacobs and others of that sort other than sex? I don't know. Hobbies, shared interests, shared experiences and love?

Throw two people who have those together, plus bedroom curiosity and openness into the mix, and you get what the general hotwife/cuckold relationships have. A great relationship, with an open sex life that leaves both the man and the woman completely satisfied with what they've got.

 

Not sure why you are throwing me in here! I never once said that Jacob should not live his life the way he wants to. I know every relationship is different and people should do what they want in theirs. I also think open and swinging relationships are all good if both partners are equal in those situations.

I do however stand by the belief that a person that tells their partner they are useless in bed and that they are going to fuck other people on the side that are better, but under no means are you aloud to do the same are selfish! I also do not think that a woman in that kind of situation is going to have alot of respect for the man that they are walking on. These are my opinions and I am not trying to force them on anyone. I have not been throwing out insults to people that do not agree with them like the OP does.

 

sex may not be everything but it means alot in a relationship. the sex I have with my wife is the most intense and pleasurable of our lives for both of us. Jacob's gf has a very high sex drive so sex is clearly very important to her. You talk about shared interests, hobbies, etc. but that is the basis for friendship, not passion. are you suggesting jacob and his gf are roommates with benefits? because that is what it sounds like.

let's say hypothetically, I was single and I met this amazing woman and she liked me very much. now let's say after we had sex several times I got the sense that she was not completely satisfied by me and I questioned her and she admitted that she was into BDSM and her former lover was so much better in bed, his cock was so much bigger. Well, I could not bear the idea that while I was fucking her she might be daydreaming about fucking someone else. for me sex has to be an all consuming experience for both of us so at that point I would say, well I am sorry I cannot please you but I don't wish to compete with another man so I think we should part ways.

I want the woman I fuck to be a soulmate, not a friend with benefits, not a fuck buddy.

 

Apologies. Must have misinterpreted or misunderstood your last post.

 

It means a lot, but so does the base relationship as well. And a great, rock solid friendship is the core of any good relationship. And only from that can any passion form. And who is anyone to say that jacob and his woman lack it? Or that any hotwife/cuckold couple lack it?

 

Apparently, some women are just not all that much into sex, so they make decisions based entirely on other factors.

Years ago, I was a mistress to a man who had a wife who appeared to be 100% satisfied playing mommy, and living a lavish lifestyle at her husband's expense. She hated travel. She hated sucking his dick. She hated everything I enjoyed. She thought I was a fool. I thought she was a fool. We both got what we wanted, and he did too. The arrangement worked for several years, until he relocated due to his career.

At least you missed a chance to mention the size of your dick. That's rare.

 

Okay thanks for that!

 

Jacob's gf needs sex more than 3 times a day.

kinda tired of mentioning it.

 

That's highly unusual.

Something else we agree on.

 

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doesn't sound like a woman who doesn't care about sex.

 

I still find it interesting how the people on the other side, who aren't actually involved in the lifestyle in question, want to speak for those who are. Why can't they speak up for themselves?

 

FX,

It was him doing an estimation. When you're going on and on and on about you and your wife and your Magical Disney Life, you don't exaggerate just a little to make a point? Each and every moment of your live long day is passion filled?

Either way, whether she needed one good lay a day or three, it wouldn't really change anything. They had a problem in their sex lives and found a solution that makes them both happy.

 

See. You know. I was hoping you had left this thread for a good while. I really didn't want to address you again on this issue.

I respond, discuss, etc. Because based on everything I've read and seen with regards to this lifestyle I think you, FX and people of that ilk have been highly unfair to jacob, his girl and in a general manner towards people involved or open to it.

My whole thing hasn't been to push that everyone should do it or that most people should. It's been if you don't understand it, either educate yourself and go ask people involved in it or admit that you're being intentionally ignorant and hush up. There seems to be a slim few here who are into it and slimmer than that whom are willing to discuss it. I can't blame them after the vitriol I've seen from those opposed to it. Jacob tried, but you two nitpicked, tried poking holes, and then ultimately insulted him and his girl when the guy has stated a couple times that him and his girl were happy, in love and enjoying their arrangement.

 

I couldn’t agree more. Which is precisely what I originally attempted to do. Ironically, the only people who want to explain their perspectives on the lifestyle are people who have never been engaged in it. What people with no experience in the said lifestyle have to say about it is of no relevance. So why do these people still insist on being the spokesperson for a lifestyle that they can't even speak for personally?

 

Attacking Jacob and calling him weak with a loser mentality and stating his girlfriend was a gold digger was you attempting to educate yourself on it? Then going on to egofuck yourself by suggesting, because he took a shot at you in return about your blatantly obvious sig pic, that he was jacking off to your pictures? You're a laugh and a half.

It's not rocket science. Anyone can read the accounts of others and form a general knowledge of what drives them. Especially if they have an interest in it themselves.