Girls, is your current Husband/boyfriend your best ever lover. And.......

Would you lie to him, and tell him he was, even if he wasn't. A friend of mine told her current bf that he was not the best she had ever had, it did not go down to well.

My own bf is the best allround man I have ever had, easily the best. He is cute, kind, funny, romantic, a considerate lover, and also a great step Dad to my son. However, my sons bio father is the best lover I have ever had. We had such incredible sex together, although he was useless at everything else. Credit where it is due though, that man could give me the most frequent and powerful orgasms I have ever had. My bf is good in bed, he is gentle and loving and always gets me off, even if its not with his dick like my ex could. He was more the strong dominant type who would give me rough sex. Which I like, although I would not want it rough from my bf, as that just isn't him. The fact that my ex was twice as well endowed and could last three times longer than my bf helped a lot I guess. Haha

My bf is so lovely, that if he asked if he was the best (I know he wont, hes not the type to ask such a thing) I would lie and tell him he was. I cant understand why my friend told her man the truth, when the truth would hurt his feelings?

Anyways, my friends and I have been talking about this,and I thought it might make a good first thread for me.

 

good thread.

if your bf ever asks, lie to me him and tell him he is the best. Telling him otherwise would only do harm to your relationship. if you want more sexually from your bf, gently tell him you would like him to do X,Y,Z.

Fear that the woman you love has had better sex in her past is why some men want virgins for their wives.

and it is why I can't understand why any man would willingly share/ swap their wife. What if you share your wife with a man who is better in bed and/ or has a much bigger cock. What would that do to your sex life? What if she left you because of it?

focus on the good parts of sex with your bf and find ways to make him the best and stop thinking/ talking about your ex.

 

My girl said it was hard for her to orgasm from intercourse with her previous guys. With me, she just keeps on cumming. I can even get her to squirt. I'm very mindful about giving her as much pleasure as I can. She does say that my cock is bigger than the other guys she has been with before. Definitely an ego stroker, but could just as well be truthful. She doesn't speak a whole lot during sex, but "it's so big" is one of the phrases she likes to utter every now and then.

Are you sure? You sound like the typical woman that eventually goes off to get the rough sex from other guys when your beta boyfriend can't fulfill your sexual dreams. How about trying to give him some hints that it's how you like it?

 

you aren't going to get a lot of honest answers from this thread. i think you might be the first woman i've seen post on these forums who doesn't claim that their current boyfriend is the only good lover they've had.

 

Well, I can kind of understand that. When my friends and I were talking about it, I told them that my bf was the best lover I had ever had. I just felt that by telling them the truth, I was somehow being unfaithful to my bf who I love so much, so I told them a lie.

On this forum I am anonymous so it does'nt matter.

 

my wife told me I'm the best lover she's had, I dont' know if she is lying or not but Im happy. She did tell me about one of her ex's that has a little penis, she said she had fun with it anyway. I wish she hadn't cuz everytime I see him I feel kinda sorry for him.

It doesn't seem very nice to tell some bf the truth, it's kinda like telling a woman her stretch marks are ugly after she gave birth to you baby.

 

That's a bit insulting! I have never cheated on any man that I have ever been with, and I would certainly not cheat on a man that I love more than I ever thought I was capable of loving anyone, a man I know adores both me and my Son!

If the shoe fits, wear it. Rough sex with my ex, sex where he dominated me, was great with him, he was that type of man. He was also very well endowed and had great staying power. My bf is very affectionate, gentle, and loving. Rough or dominating sex from him would not turn me on, he is not like that. Our lovemaking is very sensual, and he makes me feel very loved, something my ex never did. However, my ex was incredable in bed, but that doesn't mean that I dont love what my bf and I have sexually, I adore it.

As for him being a Beta male? No, my bf has more presense, brains, charisma, confidence, humour than any man I have ever been with, he is also successful, and although he is in great shape(cute) and is more than able to take care of himself physically, he is not, thankfully one of those awful macho types. I admit my bf is more of the sensitive type, he is not afraid of showing his emotions and love, whether it be with me or my son. He has a vunerability about him when it comes to sex, it is something that I find very attractive in him.

I bet she said that to all her ex's as well. Trust me, it takes more than a big penis to be a real man, and as great as my ex was in bed, he was no man.

 

He would never ask me I don't think, but if he did, yes I would lie. Although of all of the four partners I have had, he would be the one who would be less likely to be offended I think. For example, my son who is 7 has inherited his bio fathers big penis, and one night he fell asleep on the couch, and my bf picked him up to take him to bed. My son had one of his not so little tent poles sticking up out of his pjs. My bf said........

"Gabriel is never gonna be afaid of getting undressed in the changing rooms at school is he?"

I replied without thinking............

"Yeah, he takes after his father!" (My Son thinks of my bf as his Dad)

My bf knew that I was talking about his bio father though, but pretented that I was talking about him and he replied.......

"Thanks, but he's not gonna be as big as me."

It was a funny moment, and we both had a good laugh about it.

I don't want more from him sexually, although he was never afraid to ask what I liked or if I could show him how. He is lovely, and I would not change anything about what we have. I want him to be himself, I do not want him to try to be something he isn't.

He isn't well endowed, and also isn't a stayer, but he is very sensual and loving, and I love the way he touches me, he always gets me off as well. It's really good.

To be honest Fx, I never think about my ex. It was not a good relationship, and it really was just about the great sex we had together, although I would not change a thing because I got my beautiful Son from it. I have not seen him since I ended the relationship five years ago.

It has come up because of the girlie chat my friends and I were having. I found it interesting that I was unable to tell them that my bf, as wonderful as he is, is not the best lover I have had. I'm glad I told them a lie.

 

Never never ask this, nor answer it. What a sex buzz killer. And likely a relationship killer as well.

 

Then why be with him? You're just lying to him. Id be pissed off if a girl didnt tell me i wasnt being the best. Just move one until you find someone who you think is a great lover

 

i think because i focus on the relationship that i am in, every current lover is the best. right now i am settled in with a great lover who truly IS the best i've ever had. he can be gentle, rough, nasty, loving, at any given point in any given day in any given way. i think the sex is ALWAYS better with someone you love and respect.
Don't get me wrong, an occasional really good fuck is fine if you are single and not really looking, but i have found since i was sixteen that if you really like the person, most of the time the sex is great.
on the other hand, my first love is probably the worst guy i've ever had in bed. no confidence. recently hooked up with him and it truly sucked.....no matter what we had before, i don't know if i can stand being in a relationship with someone who did not please me in bed.

 

Well, I'm with my man because I love him, and he loves me. I love him more than any man ever, and I know that we are mean't to be together. He is the best guy I have ever met, by a long shot, and I do think he is a great lover, it just so happens that I have had one better. Do you think I would swap my bf for my ex? No chance, my ex doesn't even come close.

Would you want your girl to tell you your the best, even if you were not? Or maybe you think your the worlds best lover? I doubt you are.

The more I think about it, the more I realise that my bf would not be that bothered if I told him about my ex, he is not childish or macho, and he knows what we have is very special.

 

You contradict yourself here. At first you say that every current lover you have is the best, and then say that your first lover sucked.

 

what would you gain by telling him? It's nice to think we can be totally open with the one we love but we all carry secrets that are better left as secrets. Words can have lasting, sometimes devastating consequences. Unless you are afraid you might go back to your ex I would just bury your thoughts and feelings on this. I lost my virginity to a woman who had a body like a Playboy Playmate but you know what? My next gf had a very average body but the sex was way better. When I met my current wife she was totally inexperienced (she had only had sex 4 times in 10 years, never had an orgasm with a man, never given a blowjob but now she is infinitely better at pleasing me than my previous partners. You may grow to feel that your current bf is the best you've had.

Just forget all about this subject and the next time your friends get on this just smile and say nothing or simply say "I'm happy with the man I'm with now".

 

Well, like I said he would never ask, and I would never tell him. This is purely hypothetical!

 

From what you write, it seems as though you still desire to get pounded like you did with your ex. So for the sake of your "love", make your desires known to your boyfriend before you find yourself in the arms of another big macho guy. Nothing wrong with sensual and romantic sex, but real men know how to mix up lovemaking and fucking.

Trust me, it's not the penis that attracts her to me. It's a bonus.

 

No I wouldnt want my girl telling me I am the best. That is not what I said at all. What I meant was, If my girl thinks I am not the best I want her to tell me that I am not the best so we can figure out what is wrong. Otherwise we are wasting both of our time. Why get your partner so emotionally involved if later on you will break it off because he wasn't the best?
If you truly loved him, you wouldn't be here thinking whether he is the best or not. Your topic is just an indication that you are probably getting tired of the same old stuff from your current bf that you are starting to miss some excitement. So if you two love each other, discuss what's going on with your partner, I'm sure he will understand.

 

No real sex stud would ever ask this question. Why? Because we don't need to. I already know I'd be at the top of the list of any girl I fuck, and whether she ranks me number 1 or number 3 makes no difference at all to me, because I know I could easily be number 1 (if I really wanted to). And I'm not being conceited, I'm just being real.

The guys who ask questions like this are usually just insecure. They'll likely follow up the "Am I the best you've ever had" question with the "how many people have you slept with" question. I don't like when girls ask me these questions, and I don't ask my partners these questions.

I've found the best response to the "am I the best" question is to throw it back on them by saying "why would you even have to ask".

 

I know what you mean with this Rachel. My guy is the same as yours, and I love him very much even though he isn't great in bed. My man is also considerate, and he does his best, but like yours he has a small cock and cannot last long at all, although we have improved things. I do enjoy oral and playing with toys, and he is good at that, but I think that when you have had a lover who is good at all that stuff but is also very well endowed and has great stamina and staying power it is difficult not to miss that, and I'm guessing you do.

Lets be honest, there arent many man who are really great in bed, some are lousy, most are very average, and the odd one is awesome!

To have a guy who has a huge cock, and can control himself is what I need. My lover (who was my ex) is able to do this. I can ride him for as long as I need to, and I know he will not come. He can give it to me hard and fast or slow and gentle. (I prefer hard and fast) To have something that big inside you, and for him to give you an orgasm with it and still be able to keep going and give you another, and then another, and then another is really something. With my boyfriend I have to be very slow and gentle, and it's nice, but it's not enough for me, and he knows that!

In this day and age I think woman can have both. One man who is gentle and loving and a good provider, long term partner and father, and another man who can really get you off sexually. It's what I have.

As great as my lover is in the sack.......I just don't love him, and I never have, even when we were together. I love my boyfriend, and he loves me enough to allow me to see my ex for sex. He knows how much I love him, and he is an incredible man.

Do you still see your ex? What I mean is, does he have contact with his Son? If your boyfriend is the nice guy type, maybe you could ask him for the same as what I have. You might be surprised, he might well agree to it.

 

All you're missing is the gay guy to hang out with and go shopping with. You really need all 3 to complete the circle.

 

does your bf know that you are fucking someone else? if he doesn't would he be hurt if he found out? What about your ex? is he in a relationship? does she know about you? what if you found out your bf was having an affair with another woman?do you see where this goes?

do you not think that men and women leave their spouses every day because their other partner is better in bed? what happens to the kids in divorces?

so you are ok with a man having two women? A nice, sweet, responsible homemaker and mother of his kids and then a wild. dirty slut to fulfill his fantasies?

the selfishness of some people on this forum is mind blowing and it is why I wish women stayed virgins til their wedding night so they wouldn't be selling the man they love short.

the truth is most women lose their virginity by 18 and often one good looking/ well endowed guy might be taking it from several women. these same guys may have scores of partners while lots of less desirable males can't get laid at all. eventually most of these nerdier types figure out how to get laid but by the time they find a woman she has probably screwed several guys and mr college virgin doesn't stand a chance and if one of these women agree to marry him they may, in the back of their mind say "my husband is sweet and gentle and a great father to our kids but his dick is small and he cums too quick..." and as a result she doesn't truly commit herself emotionally and spiritually to her husband and eventually he realizes that she is just not that into him.

I am glad I am not a young man anymore because your response would have started a raging fire inside me. I am so lucky to have a wife who only wants me, who loves my cock, whom I can please. She is the hottest, sexiest woman in the world, the only one I want.

I feel sorry for people in their 20's & 30's that have to live the kind of bullshit life you live in. I have my wife, my kids and a nice home. I want nothing more but I know that their are lots of men and women out there who want exactly the same but get robbed of it because their partner is so selfish that they need to go out and fuck other people.