Girls: Bi Guys

For girls only: Would you be okay with having a serious sexual relationship with a bisexual guy?

 

I am blessed to have gays in my life. Sex with a bisexual guy, though? Probably not. If he needs that much variety, I'm not the lady for him. I have a feeling that bisexual fellas would be gay if their life circumstances allowed it.. and who wants to be second choice? BUT.. that's only my personal opinion and I'm probably wrong about that. Judging another's life is a silly endeavor and I try not to be too silly.

Sex, for most women, happens in the mind before anything else happens. My mind wouldn't be into it, so my body probably wouldn't be either.

 

So now, this poll is tied 50-50.

 

As long as he isn't running around banging other guys behind my back, then I don't see why not?

Another man that we both fancy could definitely add some spice to the bedroom.

 

my answer is a little narcissistic but to be perfectly honest I love the feeling of power I get when i know my female form really turns a guy on. This isn't really logical but i guess my gut feeling is if a guy is turned on by another guy he may be slightly less turned on by me.

also my gut feeling tells me I would be a little a little uncomfortable with it in ways I can't really put into words.

 

My boyfriend is bi.

 

Errr, that ole chestnut. All/Most women are supposed to think like you?

Can you even nail down what "happens in the mind before anything" means for you, let alone anyone else


And you say you are blessed to have gays in your life, how do you know they are gay, as opposed to just telling you that so you stop trying to set them up with your friends. I bet none of them are gay.

My ultimate point being. How can you ever be sure anyone is what they say they are if you dont see everything, and if you can never hear what is going on in their head...and finally, if they cant even understand themselves

The difference with bi guys, is, its way too easy for NO ONE to ever find out

 

I'd like to make mention of a double standard..not sure it belongs here but it's valid nonetheless. .if a woman experiments with another woman, she is not labeled lesbian..it's almost expected that girls will kiss girlfriends or do some carpet munching in college or sorority..but if a guy experiments, he's gay..it's just not true..gay is a lifestyle..it involves relationships and intimacy with men in addition to a sexual disinterest in women..those who are bi or heteroflexible as I prefer , do not fall into this category.for many it's not about being confused or in denial ..just as the girl whose done some lap liking and then goes on to have relationship with men isn't confused or in denial... no difference..

 

Now, we have a vote saying that 60% would be involved with a bi-guy and 40% would not.

We need more votes, women.

 

i don't think variety has anything to do with it. i'm attracted to both white women and black women, but that doesn't mean i need to have sex with both. just because someone is attracted to both men and women doesn't mean they're freaking out and dying of boredom because they are only with one person.

so basically, bisexual people are actually people who choose to be gay, but they can't find a same sex partner so they are choosing to be temporarily straight?

 

Wow... okay everybody back the hell off.

Vanilla... my daughter is lesbian. And yeah... I'm blessed to have her in my life. And no.. I haven't ever tried to fix her up with anyone. And most of her friends are gay and I haven't tried to fix them up either.

In Your Under Wear... I said I was probably wrong about that and it was just my personal opinion... and it would have been nice if you'd quoted the entire statement.

This whole thing was about would I be okay with it.... *I* wouldn't be into it. BFD

How the hell do I know what a bi-sexual person thinks or wants? As I said.. I'm probably wrong about that. It just wouldn't be MY cup of tea.

Please go be jerks to someone else. I've had all the meanness I can take this week.

 

But... once you've been with both genders, there's going to be some degree of temptation to continue to do that now and then. I know it would be hard for me to say "never again" as long as I have opportunities to be with another woman, and my husband doesn't mind. I'm assuming that the bi guys experience something similar, unless I hear otherwise.

 

That's what threesomes are for!

 

Or two couples together.

 

It depends on what you base your relationships on. A purely physical relationship might "tempt" you into another.

A pansexual person sees a person first and develops a relationship with the qualities they are attracted to in that person, regardless of gender.

 

i didn't quote only part of your post to make it look like you said something other than what you said or anything like that. i assume by the time someone reads my post, they have already read yours ahead of it anyway, and i quoted the part that i was replying to for clarity.

anyway, i'm not trying to be mean, just disagreeing with what you had said.

is it really different from any other kind of variety though? like, if you've been with circumcised and uncircumcised, is there temptation to stray from your circumcised partner to play with some foreskin again? probably not the best example, i know, but it was off the top of my head.

unless you got married as a virgin, there's probably going to be something you've experienced with a past partner that you're not getting anymore.

 

Sure. I can put on a strap-on, lol. I'm not sure about sharing him, though, so if he was also polyamorous, I would likely have to pass. Perhaps a once in a while thing if I felt really secure in the relationship, but if he needs others in order for he and I to work out, then I'm not his girl. I do not presume that every guy who's bisexual is incapable of fidelity. I would just want to be up front about my limits and what I want.

 

It's a matter of degree. I think gender difference is pretty radical. Also, the relationship anybody has with their life partner is almost surely very different from anything they're going to have with anybody else, no matter what other factors are in play.

There's a really bad joke in there, but I'm going to leave it alone.

 

The scales are tipping in here.

71%
29%

 

8 total votes? Watching this poll is about as exciting as watching paint dry. We need more female members.

 

To be completely honest, I only want to have sex with a guy who is only turned on by girls. For me, the double standard definitely applies. Yes, it's OK for me to swing both directions, and thankfully my husband is OK with that, but I don't think I could be sexually attracted to a bi-sexual man.

That certainly doesn't mean that I wouldn't be friends with a bi-guy. We have a ton of gay friends in our circles, but I don't think I know any guys who have openly admitted they are bi. That certainly doesn't mean that aren't for all I know.