Girlfriend Won't Be Intimate

Not sure what to do . Started dating a "straight" girl it's been about a year . We have a great time together we now live with each other . She is to scared to come out to her family and the pressure is getting to her . She says she doesn't know if she wants a future with me but yet she doesn't want to be without me . She doesn't want me to move, after our fight and her telling me she doesn't think she is a lesbian . She texts me at work asking me to come home and she needs a hug and wants to cuddle ! I'm beyond confused . I'm okay to cuddle and wants me around all the time but won't be intimate with me . What do I do ?

 

leave it .....

 

Get rid of her. You've got better things to do than be in a relationship with a sexually confused and uncaring girl (doesn't know if she wants a future with you, but doesn't want to be without you). She's obviously just treating you like a female shoulder to cry on.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-M9JE9R9ld4

 

Thanks for the advice . I love her too much to give up . I guess I have to try and look past the love ! Idk

 

Virtually everyone I know has made the experience of falling in love with someone who was either emotionally, physically, sexually or otherwise unavailable. I have come to believe that this experience is inherent to the process of growing up. No matter how hard you try, you cannot have all you want, all the time.

It only makes sense to recognize that your present GF is really not available. She does not want to share sexual intimacy with you. She does not see any common future ahead. Sure, she needs company, and you may be her ideal companion, mostly because you seem to be willing to put up with her demands.

You want to do the right thing for both your friend and yourself. Recognize the truth as it is. Move her into your friendzone, and ask her to move on towards someone who may be better suited to meet her demands on the emotional/sexual level. You, too, have got only one life to live, and there is really no time to be lost over such issues. Enjoy your friendship, but look for sexual/emotional fulfillment with someone else.

KD

 

...lay the law down...give up the pussy or you're gone...if she doesn't give it up (& she won't because she is a lesbian) find you another place to live & while she's @ work or whatever...move...there is no blame on her for being a lesbian...its just who she is...