So I met this pretty amazing girl and it has been such a wonderful breath of fresh air with her - very enjoyable time spent together almost every day with strong emotional bonds, intellectual exchanges, and physical attraction to each other. So just as the birds fly high and the bees make honey, we couldn't hold ourselves back from each other any longer. We were in no rush - was very relaxed, comfortable, but also passionately intense - and after her performing oral on my manhood, I went to return the favor only to be abruptly grasped by my arms and pulled up towards her face. "I dont like that." She stated. It is not typical that at my age I would be surprised with some aspect of sex like this, at least so I thought. I have been with ~25 women in my life and never once did any of them not like cunnilingus - my experience has never been the like as this. So this particular evening - I find myself way out of sorts! I've done some research on this this evening and surprisingly it is a lot more common than my personal experience would agree with. Every one of us are individuals with our own preferences and there is no one-size-fits-all technique to bringing a woman to ecstasy. It is (in my experience) all about a kind of dance with her - to touch her and feel her body responding, her motions and moans guiding my vernacular oratory upon her vulva. It is a connection to HER, WITH her, and FOR her pleasure, all while being so awesomely mind-fucked at the same time while pleasing her! On the other hand, some people just do not know how to properly eat pussy. It isn't some kind of mechanical procedure of the tongue. You'll know you are doing it right when you know that she knows that you know she is just one little touch away from exploding and you tease her with it, and she knows you know that you're teasing her and she likes it, and you like that she likes it, and she knows that you know she likes it which makes you like it more. Sounds ridiculous when you type it out, but to experience it is something entirely more seductive. It is a wonderful part of a sex life that I've never gone without. Didn't even consider it a possibility that a woman would not enjoy it AT ALL! So this unexpected response from her was a bit unsettling. It was very specific, "I dont like that." If it was "I'm not comfortable with that just yet" or something along those lines then that is very understandable. This kindof put a damper on the moment, actually, a big damper.. I tried to conceal my surprise and ask her if she is OK but the moment moved from hot and heavy to my obvious confusion in the blink of an eye. She proceeded to explain with what still seems even more confusing than her lack of desire for oral sex. This is a moment where I'll forewarn you, the reader, that what I'm about to tell you isn't exactly palettable. A previous lover that she was with for 5 years had a fetish with having oral sex with her while she was menstruating. Because of this experience, anytime she has had oral sex performed on her, she can't think of anything else other than the imagery of that experience.... him with bloodied face and calling himself "Her Vampire". all this while we lay naked in my bed where just one minute ago we were enveloped by pure, primal sexual intoxication. I'm still not sure even where to begin with that. Was she into this fetish or did she only do it to please him, or both? You can even set those questions aside completely and just ask why is that a problem now? A long time ago in my college days I was snookered by a transvestite and received one hell of a BJ in a bathroom stall only to shortly thereafter be informed of the actual circumstances. I was mortified. It took a little while, maybe a week or so, to just chalk it up to a "you'll never believe what happened to me one time, LOL".. and I've been just fine with it ever since.. and at no time thereafter did that memory come back to haunt me during any future BJs. That was just something that happened back in the day, someone else, whatever. I have my suspicions regarding the explanation but at the same time I think, "how do you make this stuff up?" LOL Mr. Vampire! "AH AH AH". After telling me this, she follows with, "But you will probably like to know that I really, really enjoy anal sex. I get off on that in like a second. So maybe that'll make up for it?" At least she appears to be trying. Maybe I could take up tossing salad? Things may just get really freaky. Would it be considered selfish to ask for her to let me take her in my mouth just for my pleasure? Not for an extended period of time, but just a moment here and there? Perhaps barter with her on some cunnilingus for the anal she wants? Has my post now devolved from a thoughtful message of concern into some kind of bizarre exchange of sex act commodities? LOL Sounds like it could kinda be fun. Maybe even effective for us to both get what pleases us. Guess I have a Vampire to kill.... I do feel this woman is very much worth it. I'll report back with any new developments.. If you dont hear from me soon though, I probably died in my attempts. Do Vampires suck on men or do only Vampyres do it? Are there LGBT Vamps out there? Fuck. I'm confused... Have a great day and thank you in advance for any advice... (seriously) Mr. Renaissance Man
Neither of my wives ever wanted it (36 years worth), most of my gfs do. It's a random thing, I don't like bjs myself. If you want it, get a gf on the side who likes it.
Ya, from what I've read on the subject there is a correlation to the dislike of cunnilingus among women who would now be in their late 40's and up. It used to be ~taboo back in those days. It is a lot less likely in younger groups, but the percentages in both are still relatively low (~15-20% for 40+ and >10% in younger). I used to dislike BJ's for quite some time. To me, it seemed demeaning to a woman to have her do it. That changed through in my late 30's though... and not by some single event or ah-ha moment either. Guess it just occurred to me that it is as enjoyable for them as it is for me when I am going down on them. Latent sexual taboos would be my best guess on that. Ironically, that tranny BJ in the stall set an entirely new metric for the quality of a BJ for me. Maybe that screwed me up for some 12 years and I didn't know it, or maybe that made me a good critic of the quality of a BJ, LOL. Probably both. I can appreciate your ambition and drive you must have to suggest the side chick. I'm not sure if you have tried that kind of solution before or not but in my personal experience on the matter, it reduces down to the fact that there just is not enough time in the day to sustain that comfortably and even more difficult, finding two women who would be enthusiastic about such an arrangement.
I have a wife in one country, and a gf in another. 10 weeks with wife, 1-2 weeks with gf. It works very well for me.
I hate to pry here but you seem to be forthcoming with personal info so what the heck, right? May I ask if your wife and GF know of each other and what the arrangement is? I mean no disrespect by asking.
Off Topic, I don't mention it to them, and they don't ask, neither do I ask them about other lovers, they both understand any kids will be DNA tested. In SEA everyone has multiple sex partners, but it's considered polite to be discreet about it. (at least all the locals do, but there are quite a lot of foreigners that don't understand the concept)
This is a subject that has always concerned me. I've had two partners that had this dislike, I became very intrigued as to why and what's is going on here. It appears to be much deeper and more than simple dislike. Of course a few women may just not like receiving oral however going by the physical geography of a woman's genital anatomy. It lends itself to aral stimulation being a very good way to pleasure a woman. Most women orgasm best from clitoral stimulation. A wet variable softness of texture and highly manoeuverable tongue would appear to be the perfect way to help a woman climax. This fascinated me so much I've researched and studied it in deep to fathom what's going on in a woman's mind to create this profound dislike of receiving oral sex. We are now in modern times able to enjoy sex in a way we never have before. Let us not forget the true reason for sex is create new life and oral sex plays no part in that. So oral sex really is away of having some sexual pleasure and not having to worry about getting pregnant from both sex's point of view. Hygiene is one of the biggest issues around this subject. It seems strange to us now if we were to redisign both sex's we would not have the pleasure gardens sighted on or adjacent the waterworks or sewage farm. Its simple human evolution that's sex to reproduce didn't need oral sex. As we have become more intelgent and are not preoccupied by hunting farming building all of which wereOuderso labour intensive and time consuming. We have more leisure time. With fantastic contraception sex and its enjoyment has expanded into an intimate lesuire pursuit. Latterly driven and quite rightly so by liberated and confident women looking for their own sexual fulfilment. This has only happened truly since the 1960s. To get to the bottom of it only a few men previously who's kink or desire was driven by vagina aroma and taste would of been motivated to seek it. Now more women want it desire it so men have come to believe its a must to please a woman. Women's sexual psychology is very intricate and needs a lot of understanding. Upbringing and imprinting from pedants and peers has a massive impact on a young womans sexual make up. One of the worst things is told to stop playing with themselves its "DIRTY". Don't ever wet yourself or your panties that's " DIRTY". Don't let men in your pants they have on thing on their mind and that's "DIRTY". The pharmaceutical industry has made $ Billions out of telling women subliminally they are " DIRTY". Body Odour is thought of in a negative way and become synonymous with stale sweat rather than anything sexy or your partner recognising their lover. Put all thee things in the melting pot of a females body confidence is it any wonder that a few women are not mentally comfortable opening their legs for a lover to take their face, nose and mouth near their most feminine intimate body part. I personally think we men are very lucky that most women have been able to overcome this most feminine of issues and allow us the privilege of enjoy sensory wonder of vagina. I helped my two partners to get past this by telling them I was not doing it for their pleasure but my own. This seemed to nature the maternal giving female trait and then allowed them to relax , then start to enjoy it for themselves.
