Girlfriend bleeds after sex in certain positions

Hi all,

My girlfriend and I have been having penetrative sex for a while and usually there are no issues. But, certain positions (e.g. missionary with a pillow under the butt and legs in the air) where my penis goes in really deep and even hits her cervix, often cause bleeding afterwards (pretty sure it's the cervix bleeding, but obviously hard to know for sure).

We're fairly certain it's unrelated to lube and it really only happens in this one position, and it's worse when I have been thrusting harder/more.

Has anyone experienced this or know what the issue is and how to fix it? This is one of our favourite positions, but we don't want her to have to bleed every time we do it!!

Thanks! (Also I'm new here so if there's a better place to ask this or other resources please let me know)

 

It occurs to me to tell you you're doing it wrong...

Ok. So... the objective is to not make her bleed, right? SO.. Give it a try?

You can be imaginative with this - simply put the pillow somewhere else, or... Maybe, try, um... I don't know. I don't think it's cancer, and probably no need for gynecologic intervention.







I would ask her if she likes that. If she does, keep doing it. If not, don't. Or even if she says she does, but you can tell she doesn't, don't. (ffs smh & lol)

 

Thanks for being a dick and not at all helpful...

She likes the position (a lot) and says there's no discomfort during or even after sex...she just bleeds after we do it. Therefore, we were trying to figure out if there's a way to still bang in that position but avoid the bleeding, and also to find out what *specifically* is causing the bleeding.

 

She needs to ask her OB-GYN about it during her next appointment. A small amount of bleeding from time to time is not unusual or problematic. Vigorous or frequent sex can also make your penis bleed.

If you have not been tested recently for STDs and things like Hepatitis, you should be. Because she is bleeding, anything you insert can come in contact with her bloodstream.

In the meantime, add more lubrication or use a different one. Friction, not impact, is most likely to be the cause of her bleeding. It isn't the cervix itself that is bleeding, but rather far more likely the soft tissues around it. The cervix itself is very durable and it is unlikely to bleed because of its relative lack of blood vessels.

Soulcompromise gave you good advice. As a new member, be polite, especially because you are asking for advice. Showing up, and immediately calling "a dick" the first person who offers valid information based on your specific question is a red flag for trollery and likely to get you banned from the site.

Leave the personal attacks to those posting here about politics. It's inevitable and common there. Doing it in a forum or thread on sexuality, particularly when your posting indicates a significant knowledge deficit, highlights a lack of civility and maturity.

 

Yes, a while that was happening to me too. But to be fair I hadn't had sex in a long time and so I was really tight and body wasn't used to having it so often or that rough and so I think that's what was causing the bleeding was him being too aggressive with the thrusts...that really is a hard position for a woman endure while the guy just bangs as hard as he wants... He's not the one with the orifice being invaded. Vagina is sensitive and temperamental. I even had it close up on me once or twice when I'm using my vibrator LOL.