Girl Suddenly Breaks Contact For No Reason

I'm hoping someone can help me understand this. I was talking with this girl for like 2 weeks. She came over to my place a few times, there was clearly chemistry and attraction between us. Lots of sensual touching but no sex. Last Friday she spent the night... still no sex. When she left sat morning everything seemed fine, she was talking about wanting to see me again during the week, etc. And that's the last I heard from her. She just broke off all contact, won't even respond to my messages. I'm completely baffled. Can anyone make any sense of this??

 

She is no longer interested, maybe?

 

Maybe, but I certainly didn't pickup on anything different that morning. Like I said, everything seemed perfectly fine when she left. The only thing that makes sense to me is that something must be going on with her emotionally right now that's causing her to suddenly push away.

 

Perhaps she discovered you're the Guru of Porn. Maybe you let a massive juicy fart loose while asleep. She could have discovered she was preggers and carrying blackmail for the baby daddy and ran off to collect. Or, my personal fav, maybe she's an alien and went home (after phoning).

I had a sudden drop relationship many years back. It took off like a rocket when I fixed her car while working at a mall. After 3 weeks of intense, hard core sex, she vanished. Empty apartment and all. I knew she had an ex and a kid, perhaps he wasn't as ex as she claimed and I was a fling. Examining it became useless fast. A change of scenery helped, I took a better job 2 states away. Memphis was drying up anyway.

 

If she won't answer your texts, can you try going to her place to ask what's going on?

 

Possibly she's really nervous about sex.

 

she's married..?

 

I've never been to her house so I actually don't know where she lives. And even if I did that could come off as rather "stalkerish", especially if everything is actually fine and she's really trying to dump me cold. I'm thinking maybe I should just give her space... wait at least a week or 2 to and if she doesn't make contact just send a simple hello message and see if she responds. Maybe she's going through a tough time right now and might be in a better place and decide to reach out to me later. Idk. Not much else I can really do.

I seriously doubt that. She's not married. Told me she didn't have a boyfriend either. She told me why she split with the ex, but don't know how long ago that relationship ended.

 

its obvious...her ex boyfriend won her back....ive done it lots of times

 

in her defense, she could be dead. or, more optimistically, just in jail.

 

Play her this song and she'll come running back:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2hQrrvBi6Zg

 

Even if that were true, then why not just say that? Why break off contact and not respond to anything??

Unless she was playing me the whole time and I didn't even see it. I guess that's possible. If so the girl deserves an oscar for the performance she put on.

Then it must be a ghost that's on her messenger :yikes:

 

I've seen this with friends and their girls a few times.
Either:-
1)She's a cornflake. A waster who doesn't understand the concept relating to other people. All plans, commitments and everything withers away with her.
She lacks respect for others. And possibly for herself too.
2)She's a coward - she has someone else/she's afraid of someone new etc. Won't be honest/open.
3)She has some sort of mental trauma/damage. She has to withdraw into her own private world to recover and then regroup her brain cells again. All the time.

I'm not clear on how long she's avoiding communication, but say if it was 1/2 weeks, you can safely conclude one or more of the above.

 

Yea, I'd say 2 and 3 could be a very real possibility. She broke contact on Sat, so it hasn't yet been a week. But at this point I'd be surprised if I ever hear from her again cause it's not like she completely dropped off the grid. She's still actively online and I can see that she read my messages. She just won't respond for whatever reason. I'll get over it... it's just frustrating not knowing what the hell happened.

I'm just gonna wait a few weeks and let things simmer down some. If she still hasn't contacted me then I'll throw her one last message to see if she's responsive and if not just forget her.

 

A few days in is still early days. But a week is a good indicator.

By worrying over it, and trying to contact her, you're just inflating her ego. Unless she's genuinely mentally burnt out, its just a piss poor way for her to behave.

I don't think any of my male friends would behave like her with a member of the opposite sex (unless say mentally ill). Females sometimes do act like that, but they really don't do themselves any favours. In the absence of any compelling reason, its basically plain rude and pathetic. Its not the sign of a good person to have a relationship with.

 

Yea, I totally agree. Makes me wonder if it's even worth attempting to reach out to her again after what she's done. I'm going to give it more time and see how I feel. If I do give it one more shot I def won't do anything to inflate her ego. It would just be a simple "hi" and if there's no response I'll just drop it and move on.

 

Hey what ever happened with the chick ?

 

Same thing happened to me this year. I met a girl, she was Polish. We arranged to meet again, we got drunk and fucked each others brains out, because Polish women are easy.

In the morning she left. Sounded like she wanted to see me again.

Two days later I get a semi-drunken phone call and she's telling me all about how much she likes me and wants to see me again, next thing the phone goes dead. So I'm waiting for a sorry we got cut off call back, nothing. Tried calling her, texting. No response. Dead phone.

I knew where she was, she was in a park late at night, it was dark and she was alone. So I went down on my bike to check she was alright, you know like any decent fucking person would. Maybe she was epileptic, not a good condition to have near water, how would I know I'd just met her. Maybe she got raped, it happened exactly one week before that somewhere else in Edinburgh.

Anyway, I go down there and no sign of her, so I come back home. I don't know where she lives, I'll just assume her battery ran out or something, nothing more I can do..

I expected a text or something the next day, nothing. I sent a few texts and tried to call her a few times over the next week, then I did start to get a bit worried. Her phone was on sometimes and other times off, so eventually I decided that maybe she was avoiding me, although she gave to indication that that was her intention on the phone, in fact quite the opposite.

So I decided to try my alternative number, which she didn't know about, and sure enough that time she answers. And I'm like, what the fuck and all that. Why didn't you reply to any of my calls? I was starting to think you'd been abducted by fucking aliens or something...!!! She's all like oh yeah sorry I got a job and had to work, it's nice that you care and it's a bit noisy here, I can't hear you properly, can I call you later? Sure..

She never called back, and I never heard from her again.

So yeah, I know where you are coming from. I still to this day don't understand why?

If she changed her mind and never wanted to see me again, why call me up and tell me that she really wanted to see me again before blanking me?

I can only imagine that she is either insane or was playing games with me. Either way, stupid fucking bitch.

 

Best case scenario, and using occam's razor, she's just ghosting you. It's a win-win in my opinion.

 

What the hell is ghosting?