Getting Over Lust

Yeah, that's a good start. But you need to separate yourself not only physically from the person, but also mentally. Just stop thinking about him! Get him out of your head! Move on with your life. By now, you've probably created a mental picture of him which is so idealized that it doesn't reflect them in the slightest (especially if you did not know his personality to begin with). Just stop thinking about him, even if you have to replace the thoughts with something else, like a hobby, or education, or something. Channel the lust into another part of your life.

 

Hmmm, you sure about that?


Which is it you fear the most, this person, or how you react in the presence of this person in public settings, in front of your other friends, family or just the general public and fear how they then will react to you?

 

Chicos context is critical for these kinds of questions.

it won't magically go away on it's own all things being equal, you must either truly change your opinion of the person or find someone else to direct that energy to, no other way

 

Way shorter than love. Consider yourself lucky


Jerk off to a mental image of her. Problem solved.

 

So you think it is just a distraction for me?

My main concern is that if I see this person, then the last couple of years of trying to avoid them and get over this will have been in vain. I'll have to start from the very beginning again.

I have given as much relevant information as I can. I truly do not know how I can make the situation any clearer.

You make it sound so easy. Maybe I'm missing something here, or maybe I'm just making this harder than it really is.

 

There are no magic redi-scrubs to wash the memories away, time is the only thing that will cleanse you but you have to redouble your efforts and change your strategy.

This. This is the worst thing you can do. Approaching it from a perspective of fear, you've defeated yourself before you even begin. Getting yourself out, making new connections is elementary to getting over the past. Your fear is keeping the issue alive. Is it going to be easy or fun at first? Probably not, but you have to try

 

I think everyone has one of those.

I'm still not over my first crush, and that started 30 years ago