Get the fuck over me

lynsey: ... MY past ... because it belongs to me ...

First I'd like to say that implications are practically the same as using someone's reference directly. But that's beside the point. The point is this, the past is the past. It's gone and nothing can be done about it. What can be done about is the present moment. When one says the past belongs to them is to imply they can change any aspect about it in any shape, form or manner they wish. Wrong!

Clinging to the past only causes misery, suffering, pain and dispair. Even the writing of this post is in the past and the effects of it cannot be erased. But what can be done about it is to just let it go and focus on the present moment. Because the present moment is slipping by and turninging into the past. You can do something about the present moment. You can't do anything about the past.

Forgiving is a place to start, but there also comes a point where forgiving starts to become a hinderance for focusing on the present moment. Forgiving for the same thing over and over then becomes a focus on past events.

The thing to do here is to just let go of each other and the memories. Clinging to the memories is like clinging on to each other. Clinging to memories is the same thing as clinging to the past. Nothing can be done about it ... its gone ... its over ... get over it.

There's also no point in trying to get others to see your "point-of-view" because it is just that ... your "point-of-view". All you will succeed in doing is creating more disharmony, for yourself and for others around you who choose to become a part of your problem of living in the past.

The way I see it, you two need to stop clinging to each other. Threads like this one only drive the fact that you both, though you talk like your not involved with each other are just as involved as you ever were because your spending an awfully lot of time talking about each other rather than getting over each other. Now it appears you two spend as much time hating each other as you spent in careing for each other. I ask you, does that look anything close like you've gotten over each other?

The past is the past ... that's it ... nothing can be done about it ... get over it ... forgive each other in the present moment and get over that too! While your spending time exerting energy over the past, the present moment just slips on by ... without you.

The past belongs to no one ... and since the future doesn't even exist yet it too belongs to no one. Not even the present moment belongs to anyone, but the present moment is a place to focus our attention because its the actions we do in the present that dictates our future, even if the future is only a moment away or 20 years away.

This post is for both you, lynsey and dhs.

I think it appropriate to lock this thread for the present moment in order to put an end to the events that are unfolding here ...

If you find this action taken by me inappropriate, then by all means take it up with another moderator or Skip to have the thread unlocked.

I suggest you find other more constructive outlets to "get over each other" because you sure aren't doing a good job of it here ... and your dragging other people down into your mire of hate and anger with you ... not cool!

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