Get the fuck over me

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that's what I need to stop that is blatent slander-not cool. I do not think your girlfriend would approve of posts consistently discussing your past relationships. Keep things content and focus on the future (and if you do not, don't mention me)

 

lynsey, like i said in my previous post, he did not mention your name, didn't mention anything that would make ppl think "oh my god lynsey did that??" or whatever it is you don't want ppl to think about you. seriously. i was here when you guys had your drama all over the place and i read the post i think you're referring to and i honestly didn't know who he was talking about, since he mentioned he had a couple failed long distance relationships. the ex he talked about could have easily been someone else. you bringing it up here is letting everybody know who he is talking about, and you are the one harassing him now. you are the one spreading dirty laundry in his and everybody else's faces and you need to chill.

posting that message is waaaaayyyyyy over the line. you should be ashamed of yourself.

 

and it is the post i was thinking of. how is that slander? he talked about his past experience with cheating, he was calm and tactful and did not mention any names or any other info that would indicate who he was talking about is you.

 

I'm not the least bit ashamed. I need to do whatever I need to do to protect myself. I was very calm and I so wanted to leave on a severed but clean slate and I am pissed that, that decision has been stolen from me and that somone can't have the decency not to discuss what goes on in my body-it's violating imo. There's a lot more to the story that i do not wish to discuss but I am royally pissed-not because of this thread, not even from the posts but because I simply feel fucking violated and posting that was the only way I think any empathy could be remotley engrained so this will not happen again

 

suggestion
both of u put eachother on ignore
& both of u stop talking bout eachother

then its totaly over & done with right?

 

I think that is a great idea thank you

 

sometimes the simplest solutions..the most odvios ones .. are the hardest ones to see when your too caught up in all the drama

 

that's all fine and well, but as Tigerlilly has said, lynsey and I spent a lot of time together. I've learned a lot from that relationship, so if I happen to reference it in conversations about such things as love and sex, I think that's pretty human.

I've never mentioned her directly and even over the past couple of days when I've been posting again, when I mention her indirectly, its pretty much been very respectful and admitting of both our faults in whatever didn't work between us.

It's not like I've composed a thread explicitly calling her out, like she has done here.

The fact is that I have moved on. I am very respectful of her privacy, but will reference experiences with her annonymously because I can't simply eliminate her as a part of my past. We shared times and I learned from it and sometimes feel like talking about it and I feel I do so in a respectful way.

What she wants, plain and simple, is for me to never post here again, so this can be her 'private' place to talk about whatever she wants.

I think that's rather ridiculous. Like I mentioned earlier, I was a member for several years prior to dating her. I am highly appreciative of this 'place' and the relationships and knowledge that I've gained from it. I don't think referencing her, as long as I do so in a respectful way, which I have - is a crime. Especially one worthy of her making a thread, such as this one, attacking me.

I really don't feel I've created any drama in the things that I've wrote, certainly not to the extent that this thread is now creating.

I want peace and to use these forums as I always have - a sounding board for what I'm feeling. To that extent, for the most part, I'm always respectful.

 

no what I want is for you to not mention MY past AT ALL IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM , whether you think it's right or wrong because it belongs to me-not you and it obviously does not make me feel mentally healthy and as I have said I FEEL VIOLATED WHEN I READ WHAT YOU WROTE ABOUT MY PAST SEX LIFE, WHETHER OR NOT YOU USE MY NAME -it's wrong

 

i had no idea who she meant untill he popped his head intothis thread
if u read back she carefuly avoided mentioning who she was talking about & even completely avoided mentioning that he posted here

i dont thinkit was fair to post a pm.. but iunderstand it
especialy once he popped inhere & brought things out intothe open...which wasnt fair..but i also understand

its odvios avoidance is the solution & if your bothin the same space the only way to avoid is to ignore

 

iwould have to agree here.. personal private matters may be ok to discuss here..if the other person involved knew noone here..but iff she requests that u never mention something then u do even annonomously its a betrayel of trust

and you, neither of you has to leave, if you just ignore eachother & behave in agreeable ways
on ignore neither of u will know what the others saying ever..unless u break certain agreements & someone else sees & points ot out tothe other

so work out an agreement what can & cant be discussed..stick toit..& put eachother on ignore

but make your agreement public here so if either violates it someone can let the other know

 

what exactly wasn't fair about me bringing things into the open? should I have just laid back and let her openly attack me?

all I did was speak about past experiences and some of them included her and for the most part, I've been extremely respectful of her name and adtmitting to the fact that we both made mistakes.

lynsey was a part of my life. Do I wish her to be part of my life anymore? No, absolutely not because it always deterioates into blanket accusations of hate, like is evident in this thread. Niether of us need that. That's the only thing that should be avoided.

I refuse to avoid the fact that she was a part of my life for a long time though and that I learned from my experiences with her.

If she wants to do that, block our time together out, then fine. That's what works for her. I'm going to do what works for me, some of which she may not like - but I'll always be respectful.

 

I did the ignore suggestion, thank you. All I ask is that those of you who don't know me respect that I am a decent person who has a breaking point. And most importantly for the two people on here I have a friendship with and the one who knows everything about me to continue treating me as well and as gently as you always have, because you mean as much to me as my closest friends down here.

I am so happy with who I am but have a feeling I am not happy with who I was or what I went through and I just need whatever will help me regain my memory, power and normal attitude towards men in a healthy way. and this isn't healthy, what was said or this thread I started and I thank you for urging me to end it instead of perpetuating what can easily be percived as instigation if you do not know me or the history. You are more interested in me as a person than a night of entertainment or coming down on anyone. I think that is sweet.

 

upintill u poped in shed never mentioned you at all..i had noidea it was even someone fromthe forums

theres really only 1 sullution, & thats bothputting eachother onignore & avoiding any posts that youknow might cause a reaction
if that means never posting anything about certain subjects then dont post bout em..if it means never even mentioning the relationship existed then do it
if u cant dothat..if you absolutly must talk about something, talk about it in the most hypothetical way you can

as if your talking about sa freinds relationship..or a purely hypothetical one & change the details enough that its not recognizable to eachother

but really it shouldnt be that hard to just agree that its innapropriate toever mention anything about a relationship yu were in where your ex can overhear it right? especialy if shes asked you not to

how would you feel if your hangin out with freinds..&? her & her freinds come sit at a table nearby & she starts telling her freinds about 1 of her ex's has a really small penis & never once satisfied her.. her freinds might not know its u..your freinds might not either..but you would
would u like that?
would u like it if your freinds gave u a look & uthought they might know its u?


just ignore eachother..& dont mention eachother..
simple maturity

 

ahh ok good lynsey &? i'm sorry i quoted him there

now close the thread if u want & its over & done with

hugs

 

ps..that will be 45$ an hour..at say..hmm dunno i'll checkthe hours later...lol

 

do you take Kaiser insurance? d:
I mean it thank you. you didn't have to do that but you did and that's well abnormal these days...thank god I'm not working tommorow or I'd be pissed for doing ending my weekend on this note after having such a good one until today...i wish yoga clinics were a 24/7 operation...hmmmm

 

I think if you've read my posts, I've done exactly that. We spent a year together and shared a lot of experiences, some of which I'll talk about on occassion. I've moved on and can talk about those experiences openly and always do so with complete anominity. I don't post in her threads and don't respond directly to her in threads of others. There are certain topics that we both respond to, but at that - nothing I do is directed specifically towards her in an attempt to offend or disturb her. I mean no offense whatever I write and I try my best to take no offense from what I read that she writes.

if lynsey does the same, compromise should be easy, if not avoidable. there really shouldn't be anything to fight about. we wronged each other. I've learned from my mistakes, I hope she has doen the same from hers. Truly, that is all

 

she has.. shes stopped talking about you completely & put you on ignore
maybe its your turn now

 

& lynsey..it was nothin...always glad tohelp

really do wish i got some sorta degree though so i could get paid for doin what i do...lol
it sux being broke..lol
hadta rebuild my damn computer this month cause i fried the motherboard..& now i dunno if i can afford my rent (yea it was due 2 weeks ago, wanna make sure i can eat b4 ipay it..lol)
anyway glad i could help & go to bed..i amtoo..goodnight hugs