Gender Confusion Only In Fantasies?

I am a gay man, in my 40's. And I am comfortable in my sexuality. That wasn't always the case. When I was still in high school, I thought I had to change that. So I tried, on my own at least, without much success. Anyways, I no longer feel the need to change who I am.

I have many fantasies about having sex with other men. But I also have fantasies about being fucked by a man, as a woman. This is weird. Because I have no desire to change my gender identity (although I strongly support the rights of those who wish to, of course).

Actually, I am very happy being masculine too. I have a mustache, and I am a little hairy. And I like being that way. I wouldn't have it any other way.

I also would never want to change my gender identity, just to have sex as a woman. Sorry, but that just doesn't appeal to me. Although, I do like the idea of totally immersive virtual reality, that may be available some day (presumably, in the very distant future). In such a scenario, I really could become female, just for the moment, and have sex with a man as a woman. Then of course, when out of this immersive simulated environment, I would be male again, which is what I want.

So why do I have gender confusion only in my fantasies? And how does that theoretically affect my status, in the LGBT community?

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Edit: Actually,what I would really like, is to have sex with a hot black man. Some black men are pretty hot, I think, esp. if they have big dicks. I'm sure in reality they usu. don't. But that is the wonderful thing about sex I think. It is and has always been a wonderful fiction.

 

OK.......??????......



Cheers Glen.

 

My question is where do I fit in the LGBT community. I thought I made it clear

 

Ok...my thoughts are this.

You have a fantasy. Unfortunately for you...you cannot realize that fantasy. The only way you could conceivably bring that fantasy to reality, would be to become TS/TG and then go through with the permanent sex change...and you have no desire to do so, so...

As far as the LGBT community and where do you fit...you're a gay man with a fantasy. There's nothing more than that...so that's where you fit. Live your life...

 

How do you know youre gay if you only have fantasies ?..

Bottom is a bottom whether youre naked or wearing some frilly lingerie .. getting fucked is fucked. If you imagine youre a women being fucked, whats the harm?