Gay Parents MERGED

I live in pro-republican, very conservative, right leaning bush country in southcentral Texas. gay marriage, gay adoption, gays in general and democrats are the root of all evil in the minds of most in my community.

 

In a lot of states single parent adoption and or gay parent adoption is allowed so if a gay person wanted to adopt it wouldn't be a problem. Seems like a lot of states have a sort of "don't ask,don't tell" policy for single people. There are thousands of older kids or "special needs" kids who are considered hard to place. Agencies are sometimes fairly flexible as long as a person passes the background investigation before adoption.

 

I would want to use a surrogate mother someday to have children of my own. But that's a lot to ask of someone.

 

I can’t help but ask. Why do you live there?

I mean I lived in Sequin (near San Antonio) for a while when I was a kid and I always though people were quite close-minded. When I go back to visit (grandmother lives there) I get the same impression. I mean if you have to live in Texas why not Austin? At least there you can find some free-thinkers.

 

I live in College (Closet) Station, 90 miles from anywhere. LOL I grew up in San Antonio.

other than the conservative thing it is a nice area to live, people are polite to each other .. hold doors open, say HI and that stuff but it is closed minded when it comes to non-conservative thinking.

 

Hi I am a 25 yrd old hetero sexual female considering carrying a baby for my two dearest friends, they have been wantiing to be daddy's forever and approached me...

I am sure that the baby will be in very good hands and have no doubt it will raise to be a great human being, however sum questions arrise..

And please if my questions seem hurtfull, I do not intend to do any harm, I am just being str8 forward

Would the child hate me? Would he be teased in school? Are the daddy's to be too old? One is mid fifty the other is mid forty.

I have many more questions and would appreciate any opinion

Thank you so much

 

Is it true that the sex can be pre-determined now? they say it can, and they want to have a boy....

 

I don't really know much about the whole "deciding the sex" thing works, but it would be the most precious gift you could give them. There is no way to know whether or not the child would be upset with you. You cannot know how he/she will react until that time comes. Acceptance of the gay community is increasing evermore as the days pass, so the teasing thing is really not that big of an issue. There will be kids who will tease him/her, but that happens no matter who a child's parents are.

 

Mommy, I don't think they are too old either. I am single parenting my adopted 14 year old and I'm almost 62. It works out fine for use and I know a lot of other older parents gay and straight. The worst thing is the kid would probably be totally spoiled by two people who love him to no end. To some extent all kids face some teasing, I wouldn't sweat that. Will you be involved in the childs life? It might help the kid to know the sacrafice you made in letting him be raised by people who wanted him so badly. Lots to think about but the gift of a child to cherish and raise is incredible. Good luck to all of you.

 

I dont really think its fair to the child. They will grow up confused. With society the way it is only makes things worse for the child. I think its legal for a gay couple to adopt in some places in canada.

 

i would definately adopt when i am older - i always planned on it.

doesn't even matter if i don't have a wife by then (i am going to adopt single or otherwise) but i'd love my kids to grow up with two mummies!