Once again I've been reminded of why I hate funerals. It isn't the loss, it's the whole concept. Why spend so much time in a room grieving and mourning the loss? Why not celebrate the memories? A funeral isn't about the person whose been lost. Its the selfish wallowing in ones on grief. Droning tear filled "oh this affects ME" speeches and "IM so heartbroken" stories. Why not gather and laugh about the good times one more time? Celebrate the times you had together and the warmth you shared? Save the tears and the grief for a quiet time you have to pour your heart out to whatever afterlife you believe in. Would you honestly perfer some somber overtly dramatic spectacle when you go? Or would you want your friends and loved ones to revel in the time you had together, to toast to your life and praise the hell you raised in the name of living the life you felt best?
I Don't Know Where You Live But Here In Australia Funerals Have Really Changed In Recent Years...... Nowadays It Is Not Uncommon For A Service To Include A Lot Of Humorous Memories Of The Deceased...... I Think It's Great......Puts A Whole New Perspective On The Person Up The Front Of The Church In That Big Timber Box......Iv'e Been In Services Where Every Person In The Congregation Roared With Laughter At The Tale Of The Deceased Life Adventures...... . And When My Time Comes (later than sooner hopefully)......I Hope To Hear Peals Of Laughter At Mine...... Cheers Glen.
I guess it wouldn't matter if i'm dead. I don't really care for the whole religious sermon thing. Comes off as too fake. In my family they do both. Morn and speak of happy times. As for me, i'm pretty indifferent about death. I don't really see it as tragic or sad unless it was done by the hands of another human being.
this is 100% accurate. and i won't say anything else, because over the years i've learned that you aren't allowed to point this out, and i'm not in the mood to get into a thing over it.
My wife and I have been married for 47 years. Over those years, we've discussed our desires about services. Almost 10 years ago we both paid for cremation with the Neptune Society. And we both have wills that state we want no service at all. We've made a point of telling our friends and loved ones so that the survivor isn't seen in a bad light because of the deceased partner's lack of service. Now I'm sure cost has risen but we paid less than $5,000 for both of us. It's just one less thing for, whichever of us survives the other, to have to be concerned about.
I think circumstances surrounding the death would dictate the atmosphere of a ceremony. If someone died from murder or a crippling disease, laughter and stuff do not seem to be an appropriate response. I find most rites of passage in society kind of weird, this includes funerals, but people can get together after to celebrate, reminisce and all that, so I suppose funerals how they are currently constructed are appropriate enough.
I'd like for friends and family to get together, get really drunk and laugh at all the stupid shit I've done. That would make me happy.
I'm not a fan of religious funerals that just turn into a sermon. When my uncle died his daughter, who is super religious, planned his funeral agaibst the wishes of his other daughter and it ended up being an hour of a preacher who didnt even know my uncle just delivering a sermon. And my uncle was a super interesting guy who had collected an interesting group of friends over the years, it would have been way more respectful to his memory if his friends just delivered eulogies and told stories about him. Anyways thats just an example. I'm not against funerals in general, just when they dishonor the memory of the deceased by making it more about religion and being "saved" and less about the actual deceased person. If a funeral is done right I think they can be a wonderful step in the grief process. And by done right I just mean getting their loved ones together to share love and memories of the person
That sounds good in theory but is it really necessary to make them twice as long as they already are?
They're few and far between I went to the funeral of a lifelong firefighter last year and it was really interesting. Firefighters know how to bid goodbye to their own in style
I dunno man, I kinda like funerals in a way. Having a good old cry when the music starts is always highly cathartic!
When I die, Bury me (me) Hang my balls on the cherry tree (tree) Let them git ripe Then take a bite And if they don't taste right Then don't blame D
I kinda like funerals too. For different reasons though. And i would happily take funerals over weddings, baby showers, and birthday parties.
I was just telling a friend the other day that I don't care what happens to "my body" after I die. I prefer to be cremated but the ashes mean nothing to me. Any funeral should be to make the living happy....because it isn't going to do shit for me.
