Fucking hell,

One of my coworkers is really stressed about money and I've been riding his ass hard lately about not fucking around and getting the shit done. His wife is a bitch, his ex wife is a bitch.

Anyway long story short it's 11pm and he's still at the shop and says he's going to be there all night. He's been there since 6 am.

I'm sitting on the couch and feel like I should go help him. Fuckers losing his mind, I've been there though so I'm not sure if I should go or just leave him alone to sort it out himself.

 

Would going and helping him out affect him in a negative way?

I'm confused as to what he needs to sort out. His money situation? He's working so that's good...

 

Go help him.

 

It would help him make money, but not necessarily help him feel empowered and like he can take care of his own shit. If that makes sense.

We don't get paid on hours worked. We get paid on production.

And he has a lot of stuff to sort out, which honestly, I've always done by burying myself in loud music, tools, grease and cars. That's one of the ways at least. And that is what he is doing right now. I'm just worried about the guy trying to kill himself or something, or hurting himself working beyond the exhaustion point.

 

Do you have tinnitus yet?

 

I voted yes, but just because there wasn't a button to vote for: ˝I don't know if you should, but going back and talking/listening would probably make him feel better˝.

 

Call his wife and ask her to drive over to the shop and pick his lame ass up




Hotwater

 

He is staying at work to avoid going home to his wife.

 

If you are worried about things like that, you should go help him. you can make him feel empowered by being there for him

 

If you think he's in danger of hurting himself, you're morally obligated to do something. Rather you should go there...I don't know. Give him a call, call his wife or tell him to go get some sleep, I don't know.

 

Has he actually asked you to come help him or is he just bitching for the sake of venting?

 

No.. I use ear protection when cutting, grinding or using pneumatic hammers.

My back hurts all the time though.

Yeah that's a good point. Just damn I'm tired.

His wife doesn't drive.. because of anxiety

That's part of the problem, she is 100% dependent on him. She can't ever just randomly show up at the shop with lunch or to say hi. Which is one of my favorite parts about having a woman. She works at home for less pay because she can't drive.

And his health insurance with him and his spouse just jumped up to $800/month because Obama is an idiot.

He was already at the breaking point most of the time now I am really worried.

Very perceptive. I keep trying to give him advice on how to take control of the situation, but she wears the pants.

And he got really screwed over by his ex wife and was a good man through it all, so I have a soft spot for him.

You're right. I'm eating dinner and probably going up there to talk to him for a few and basically tell him to go home and wake me up early then I'll help.

I'm a slacker. I show up at like 9 and have two alarm clocks. Lol.

Yeah, you're right too. Thanks for the advice everyone. I think I'm going to have to go up there.

 

so he's been fucking around and he dug himself a hole? sounds like his problem if that's the case; the 2% of the population that actually takes care of their shit can't babysit the other 98% of people. help when you reasonably can, but don't take everyone else's laziness on as your own problem.

 

I use ear protection on the farm, too. Music still fucked my ears.

 

What the man needs there is a cot.

 

He's not bitching at all. I keep checking on him because I know he's in a fucked up state of mind, had a lot of work to do and was staying late.

 

I Don't Think The Guy Is Lazy, In Fact Quite The Opposite, He Just

Seems To Have Had A Losing Streak When It Comes To Women...



Cheers Glen.

 

He's not lazy, he's just a legit genius and gets frazzled all the time.

Besides what we do is fucking hard, it's just about sent me over the edge plenty of times and I'm a lot better at this kind of work.

Right now he's replacing the suspension cradle and front suspension on a Honda that ran into a ditch, for an insurance claim.

And putting together a plymouth prowler with a a $35,000 500hp stroker motor from Washington State. It's a $100,000+ car and he's been behind the curve on it with everything else going on. The client is putting on the pressure now.

I feel like I should just go help him out, but on the other hand sometimes you need to just deal with it alone.

 

Just ask him.

 

alright, i was just assuming that based on this comment:

well, that and the fact that it seems like it's becoming increasingly impossible to find an adult that actually acts like an adult rather than sitting around whining and begging everyone else to take care of them.