The most important aspect to keeping that sort of relationship on the level is to avoid spending too much time with said friend. When you only see them for short periods of time and most of that time is spent in bed, than it goes well. In my opinion, and experience, it is when you start doing more hanging out than having sex that it gets complicated.
Thats the second time I've agreed with you today, It may work if two people are just getting to know each other and both say they'd like some no strings attached fun, that way the friendship is being formed and created on these grounds, theres no saying that one person won't fall for the other though. starting it with someone you already class as a friend could lead to the friendship ending, then you'll miss what you had before the sex, as opposed to the friendship being formed as a fuck buddy you will only loose that if it goes wrong S
I KNOW if I were in a position where a "fuck buddy" was appropriate for me, I would definitely develop feelings for them. I can't have sex with someone I don't know well. I would have to love them before I could have sex with them. I imagine having sex with strangers would be hot and all that, but actually going through with it? Nope. I just don't work that way.
You really have to wear condoms, though, because the fuck buddy system stretches waaaaay beyond you. Think about this -- you're really fucking everyone she's ever fucked with (might be a lot, if she's really into swinging), not just her.
Are you serious? So what if you met a seriously hot girl one day that wanted to test her gag reflex on your cock and then wanted you to fuck her deep in her ass because she thinks your hot... you'd turn her away because you don't know her that well? Wtf! Would you prefer to have a cup of coffee with her first?
haha! yeah... well yes. There is no way I'd jump into bed with her immediately. I totally would want to get to know her first. You have to protect yourself physically from STDs and emotionally too. I can't have a one night stand and forget about the girl. She would haunt me forever. That's just not how I am wired. When the girl I married and I first started dating, we didn't have sex until after being together for over 8 months. Yeah, I know how ridiculous I sound, but that's me. Captain ridiculous. And on a side note, I am not a fan of anal anyway.
never appealed to me. If I don't like the person enough to be in a relationship with them I certainly don't want to fuck them.
That's kinda how I feel, Captain Ridiculous. I can't imagine myself actually having sex with someone if I didn't at least care for them deeply or love them. I mean, fantasize about 'em yeah. Actually follow through, nope
if she said that to a guy on first meeting him and wasn't joking I wonder how many other guys she's said it to, you better hope it'll be the best sex of your life, because condomless, your dick will probably turn green afterwards and drop off S
So you are saying if you absolutely adored a woman and loved everything about her but she wasn't good on bed you couldn't be with her? I guess when you compare your relationship with driving a car... you've answered my question. Hey, no disrespect dude, to each his own. I just don't work that way.
Man, it just that 8 months is a hell of a long time to me. I mean if she didn't want to have sex for the first week then thats cool. Are you guys christians?
She was brought up very Catholic. I was respectful towards her beliefs. Not that we didn't WANT it, but that we didn't feel ready for it yet. We built a relationship first and when the sex came along... wow. Ya know to this day I love long foreplay... hmmm... I also want to point out that when we were dating we were both in high school, so 8 months considering all of that... a little more understandable, no?
