Fuck buddies who want to kiss and cuddle...

It's clearly past my bedtime, because I'm so confused....

I thought OP was concerned that their fuck buddy was wanting intimacy, no?

 

yea.. it's past my bedtime too and you know i'm drifting off to sleep n snapping myself awake over n over n i'm going to bed after THIS post..
but I read what gongshaman wrote different.. yes, the OP was talking about just that.
but look @gong's words. That their love buddy wants intimacy. LOVE BUDDY... INTIMACY...
isn't gonshaman talking about something different?
then "if you catch my drift"... you really aren't reading it as I saw it?

good night! lol *bashes head*

 

that chick wants more than a fuck buddy situation. Been there, done that.

 

I think you answered your own question there.

There are more people who tend to want something more than simple masturbation, but not necessarily to be involved in a relationship.
The desire for sex is a natural instinct in all of us, and to conciously deny oneself can cause psychological & physical harm, whereas this is not necessarily the case for ongoing relationships.

Sex is a pleasure to be shared between two people. The relationship those two people may have is a different thing altogether. Admittedly, if the relationship is a close one, then the pleasure is likely to be greater, but when this is not available, there is nothing wrong with opting for the next best thing.

 

I agree completely, and I'll add that sometimes the physical intimacy is as or more important than the sex

 

Intimacy and fucking can coexist, but both people NEED to know the deal. Talk it out before and after the first session, a day or two later for a quick minute.

Things could get weird fast. My best friend had a fuck buddy, 2 years later he married her. Great couple tho.

Personally, I like the intimacy, i love the connection and I got no problem getting up and saying thank you, see you tomorrow.

 

^Basically be on the same page, and constantly check up on that status to make sure you both of you are on the same page.

That's kinda of a sweet story though Homie, how long they been hitched?

 

its been a few years, bout two actually. Last week he called and told me they're expecting.

 

Um.. that didn't explain anything. How does cuddling = relationship?

 

So I've been in the market for a fuck buddy (well I guess a friend with benefits since I'm fishing in my pool of friends for reasons I could explain, but I'm trying to be brief.

I've only ever had one, 12 years ago and he was my best friend.

So I've had sex with 3 different friends recently.

The first was one of my best friends and we were not terribly good in bed together, the second was more of an acquaintance and we were ok together, the third is a guy I don't really like that much because he's kinda bummed all the time and we were pretty good together.

I'd screw any of them again because I just want to get some sometimes, but is it weird that I prefer kinda lame sex with a friend that I like a lot (no crush) vs pretty good sex with a dude that I don't like that much?

 

It's that female thing: no sex without love. That always gets in the way.

 

Yeah I guess but we already had sex and I'd do it again so it's not really in the way.

 

Not as in completely preventing you from having sex.

But it's not preventing you from having lame sex either.

But then .... it's a brain game from what I hear.

 

Personality contributes to a person's attractiveness. I think this is true for guys and girls.

I ideally I'd like someone good looking, with a sunny and laid back disposition and a nice, healthy cock that is willing to come over and get me naked and sweaty during the little 3-5 hour windows in which I can actually have sex.

I'm just working with what I have at the moment.

 

Now you sound frustrated, almost bitter.

Oh, hang on it's tuesday .... you get be a star.

 

man i miss having one of these (fuck buddy). I miss the late night creep at one in the morning then go home.

 

I wouldn't call that lame; I see that as more sincere, caring and groovy.

 

Have been without internet for a while and have only just caught up with this thread.

My concern was that the intimacy meant that he wanted more than sex as all other similar arrangements I have been a party to did not involved any level of intimacy.

Given most comments here it is clear that intimacy does not necessarily equate to the desire for a relationship.

I'm perfectly happy with the way things are going and he says he is to, so everything is rosy.

 

It would seem strange to me to have sex with someone that included no affection. How can you not feel some affection towards someone who wants to share a pleasurable experience with you?

 

I don't know why you wouldn't want to kiss someone while fucking. The cuddling is more of an issue but also not a huge problem.