Friending A Guy Who Awkwardly Kissed Me After A Wedding.

I went to my friend's wedding this weekend and at the after party (at a bar) I sat and talked to a guy for a while. (I'm F 34, He's 36) We seemed to have enough in common, and even though he had some cheesy lines, I was interested. He seemed interested too, but he also seemed like maybe he's the kinda guy that gives off that vibe to every woman he meets.
I gave him a ride back to his car and before he got out, he kissed me. It was a long kiss, not a peck. I was NOT expecting it and was super awkward about it.
The next day we were all invited to a picnic and I pretty much avoided him. We exchanged a couple of words near the end, but I was too embarrassed from what was probably a bad impression that I left to approach him. He was also super social so there was hardly ever a moment when he wasn't in a group of people hamming it up. I should also mention that he lives in another state, but seemed open to a long-distance relationship, at least in the short-run, during our initial conversation at the bar.
Anyway, I want to add him on Facebook, but I don't know if that would seem weird or how soon I should do it. Maybe he only tried to make out because he was desperate, or thought I was, or both. I'm not necessarily interested in trying to be in a romantic relationship with him, but I'm not apposed to it either. If the weird kiss hadn't happened, I wouldn't be thinking twice about adding him. Anyway .... thoughts?

 

Hi Lilly.
It's a simple one for me-add him as a friend and see how it goes. I think he gave you a "long kiss" because he fancies you and probably wants more. Otherwise, a polite peck on the cheek would have done.
I think he will be pleasantly surprised by your friend request.

 

Just add him. Like pulling off a band-aid, so liberating. Could be hubby material.

 

Sounds like the kiss worked then

 

Do you think he knew what he was doing?

 

so basically, if he's got a shot add him, if not, then don't. seems simple enough.

 

He will probably wonder why you want to add him after ignoring him at the picnic.

 

I have known quite a few single men and women who go to weddings with the sole intent of hooking up. So, he kissed you, and the next day you avoided him. Why would you friend him after something happened that you don't seem too comfortable with? It seems pretty clear that you aren't than into him if you avoided him after the kiss. You said it yourself "If the weird kiss hadn't happened, I wouldn't be thinking twice about adding him" That is your answer right there. Now, if the kiss was something that stirred your soul, and made you curious about what came next, add him. Since you described it as "weird" just chalk it up to an awkward kiss at a friends' wedding, and look elsewhere. Just my opinion.

 

Mixed signals like that can really fuck a guys head up !
If you like him then be nice Life's too short
and Every FIRST kiss is awkward


What d o I know anyway !!

 

Never understood hooking up at a family weddings. My luck, probably end up sleeping with some ho that's a third cousin or something.

 

I've never got involved with Facebook or the like so don't really know the etiquette of these things but this would seem sound advice to me...

 

as much as i think you add him on FB to break the ice and then give it some times . if you are looking for long or short term relation ships .
always remember time open up every thing . so give it time to decide any thing if you dont want to be a broken heart.

lets try to have a good friendship control things in your way and do step by step .

humans who take time to get close stay longer . those who come close fast run away fast as well ......

 

You're spot on here (for once jk)!

 

Yeah !! Well I was Joking

 

That's pretty astute.

 

i never really understood the idea that people are supposed to hook up at weddings either. most weddings i've been to have maybe a couple single people there. definitely not enough to have remotely decent odds of pulling off any sort of a hookup.

which is why pretty much all guys' heads are fucked up. we've all been through it, in most cases many times.

 

I thought hooking up at weddings is at least half of the time merely done to have a fun one night stand. Perhaps those women that really want to catch the bouquet are the exception

That's too bad because that would make you wrong in this instance as well! :-D

 

I'm not sure he a awkwardly kissed you. Maybe you responded awkwardly to a graceful kiss.

 

As stupid as it sounds, I avoided him BECAUSE I was in to him. I was embarrassed and afraid that maybe he just saw me as easy prey (me being one of the only single women there). Trust me, I wish I had it all to do over. I'm just no good letting men know I'm interested.

 

The kiss seemed awkward to me because I wasn't expecting it and was basically like "uhhhh .... is this really happening?" the entire time. I thought my days of making out in cars was over. But now it's all I can think about.