Friend with benefits but we rarely have sex?!

Okay so, I need some advice.
I recently started seeing this guy, a couple of months ago. Things started off like we were gonna date, but I just got out of a relationship and at some point he mentioned "keeping things casual." Cool ok, on the same page then, we'll just fuck and enjoy each other's company sometimes like friends. Right?
He seriously only has sex with me a few times per week. He's constantly saying no--too busy, too tired, etc. When we do have sex it's amazing. I just don't get why he says no sometimes. I get that I can be a handful and would LIKE to have sex 2-3 times per day, but I'm happy with just once per day. That's not like SO much to ask.
We spend the night at each other's places a few times per week, he actually has come spent the night with no sex at all. We go out and get food and hangout together sometimes. Once we got drunk and talked about getting married (jokingly--I think).
This whole thing feels like a relationship, without the relationship part. And I'm like the dude who wants sex but doesn't get it as much as he wants (I'm a girl lol). He still posts pictures with other girls, so I'm not sure if he's seeing other people or not. I am. But most of the other guys I'm seeing aren't as available to me as he is so I don't have consistent sex with them.

Should I cut him off? Should I just get a second friend with benefits and continue the relationship? Should I set some boundaries? HELP.

 

Sounds like he he is just having sex with you but still doing single guy stuff. Like having you as a backup, unsure he wants to commit. Cut him off for for a lil bit and see what happens.

 

Well I'm not sure I want to commit either. I still do single lady stuff. I just don't know if I should try to find a new fwb or not, and if he's worth keeping around. Your vote is no?

 

I would yes he is worth keeping around if you arent ready to commit either

 

Why do you think he's not having consistent sex with me then? Like he's cool and all, but should I keep him around and also find another fwb or just stop seeing him entirely for a new one that's willing to have more consistent sex?

 

He probably is having sex with someone else, he posting pics of him and chicks online. I mean hey im available to fwb... I joke, I joke!

Its ok to have more then one FWB. Well in my book it is

 

I feel like I should cut him off then? Like I don't know, I don't really want him to be having sex with someone else. Like why am I not enough lol

 

you shitting me? dude has a life. if you want him to spend every waking second having sex with you, you shouldn't have pushed him away from a relationship.

 

Well you know most guys wanna fuck anything that walks. Might be a chick he had a crush on for years, might be a chick with a big ol booty, or big ol boobs he likes or even slutty. I dont know just throwing a few scenarios out there.

 

so you do want a relationship then. so tell him, and see what happens.

 

You sound like a thot.

 

Once per day is not every waking second? I've had plenty of fwb situations where we have sex every day. He originally said he wanted to keep things casual, so I don't know why he's acting like we're in a relationship now. Even with the less sex part of that

 

Wow! What an observation! When a girl wants to have sex once per day she's a thot right?

 

Outside of a normal, functional relationship... yes.

 

well, you were willing to settle for once per day, but really wanted 2-3.

every day sex doesn't sound like fwb to me, it sounds like a committed relationship.

 

So you think I'm asking too much of him?
And just to clarify, I literally just got out of a 5 yr relationship (we were engaged) so that's why I'm not exactly rushing to jump into a new relationship. I just like sex. Not like I couldn't see myself seeing him seriously but I just don't think either one of us is ready to commit right now?

I don't know how to handle this lol

 

as an fwb, yes.

 

What do you think I should do then?

 

Maybe just invest in a vibrator or dildo or something.

 

Anymore sex than a few times a week you're basically asking for a relationship IMO.