So I'm new to this but some advice would really help me out on this. Thanks in advance. So a lot latley, there's been this type of; I wouldn't say tension but some sort of energy with me and my best friend. Every time he comes over we come chill in my room and either watch tv or play video games. But we're sitting in the bed, above the covers. Either I sit closer to the middle of the bed or he does and some way or another we always end up right next to one another but neither one of us moves away or gets up. He is " straight" but has confessed a few months ago of being bi-curious. He knows I'm into guys. But when we start to drink he gets a little more touchy and says things like your ass is mine blah blah blah and so on. He has completely touched and felt up on me before but nothing ever comes from it. He has a girlfriend also that he's been with for about 2 years and always come over to chill whenever she's at work. But last night he was drinking and kept getting closer and closer to me. Reached for something across from me and ended up kind of on top of me in a way, touched my thigh, no close to grabbing anything tho, then we started wrestling and instead of pushing me off the bed, he grabs me someway my legs were locked around him and picks me up kind of in a sexual position and gently lays me down on the floor and when I get back up on the bed we're back to sitting next to one another arms touching like always. I just don't know what to do about this, that has to be major signs but how can I finally make a little move that would let him know I'm deff interested without really saying hey I want your body so bad, or let's just mess around already and stop cutting to the chase ?
Sounds like you two are pretty good friends. Let him make the move, sounds like he wants to be in charge. Just let him, if he's bi-curious hes obviously always thinking about it. And if hes always thinking about it, it's only a matter of time. Just don't push him, he will regret cheating and he may regret losing his 'straightness' lol but seriously, there will be a lot of guilt involved if you push him into a corner. Let him come out on his own, be patient. Goodluck!
Thank you for that. Oh I forgot and when we're just chilling in bed watching tv, he'll usually put his hands down his pants, usually with the side I'm on... I think he does want to, but he's just scared to do so. And he knows I won't tell anyone so that's safe between us. Is there anything I could so when i think he's just scared to make the move ...?
Im glad to help! I would start showing him signs, like act really cute or something. Stick your butt out when hes looking around, things like that. Keep making him think, but dont force it on him. Just let him see what he has, and what he could have.
That's when he's drunk tho - it's kind of different sober. But ik the thought is there, just how to bring it out ...
Your friend is signalling on frequencies that he would be interested in messing around a bit. No one really horses around for nothing. You may want to tell him that you are absolutely discrete, and that what happens in your bedroom, stays in your bedroom. Do not label anything "gay", and do not create the impression that he would be obliged to carry on because he did it once. No one wants to jump into the possibly cold water, and stays there for a long time. Be prepared to cope with his possible remorse once the deed is done. Avoid putting any undue significance to what may be a simple case of situational homosexuality. KD
