Friend has exhibitionist tendencies at nude beach

Perhaps it would be a nice idea to have a section of a nudist area designated as "boner beach" where men can have their things bounce proudly and free...


Wiggling bare toes (and just those, at the moment...)

~*Ganesha*~

 

I agree with ganesha1967; at least one nude beach nearby where I live has an "unofficial" boner area where you can lie down, sunny-side up, with a raging hard on and not feel you're about to be clobbered by it. For me, though, once is enough: I'm not having my pecker used as a perch by a seagull. That hurts!

 

if you have an issue or problem with seeing an erection you could go home leave the beach

 

Hmmm, perhaps I should have used a instead of just a to make it clear, that I was making a humorous statement.

I, personally, have no issue at all with seeing erections, since I know that they just happen, sometimes even without a conscious sexual context.
I remember being nude in a very beautiful place in nature, when I suddenly felt having one myself, just like that, being overwhelmed by feeling so great in this place. It was just that flow of happy feelings taking hold of my body - all of my body, literally.
:sunny:
When that happened, I was alone there and therefore did not need to hide anything. But even if there had been other people, I would have explained why it happened and not feel ashamed about it.

Wiggling bare toes,

~*Ganesha*~

 

I thought you wanted to segregate the men because they had an erection at a nudist beach

 

An erection can happen anytime it is a natural so what is the fuss all about?

 

the issue is some people think erections should be covered up (hidden from view)

 

flaunting an erection should be a non issue or non problem unless he's drawing attention towards it

 

In fairyland this might be the case, but the reality is that you live on planet Earth where sexual norms and behavioural expectations over-rule the individual's right to do as he/she pleases.

Flaunting an erection is only appropriate at sex clubs. Not on public beaches, unless you want to be deemed a pervert and driven off. Flaunting *is* about drawing attention to oneself.

Case closed.

 

flaunting is playing with erection, pointing at erection, touching an erection

to be classified as a pervert would be taking photos of nudists without consent

 

the people that find erections unacceptable should be flexible and tolerate them or go home

 

a guy should have the right to walk around a nude/nudist beach with an erection (erect penis)

 

May I Ask You A Question Jason, Do Any Of The Beach's On Which You Take Pride In Flaunting Your

Erection, Have Familys With Children On Them...???...



Cheers Glen.

 

Ten years later, I wonder if I can res-erect this thread!

in just about every thread I read, everybody has their opinions of who are and who aren’t “nudists,” Everybody has opinions on what limits should be and who should or shouldn’t be there.

To purists (and I believe that many who claim to be purists are far less purist than they claim to be). Some nudists are purists, some nudists are strictly exhibitionists, some exhibitionists liked to be watched having sex, some don’t.

Some are offended by erections, others aren’t. Some like them. The thing is, you never really know why a lot of people are actually there.

My wife and I are NOT purists. We love the all-over tans and we like games. Our limit is children. NO children around or no game. Plain fact is where we go, there aren’t any. We don’t go as a couple. I enjoy watching her walk around nude, watching the attention she gets, and having her talking with guys, whether she initiates or the guy does. When she finds her target, THAT’s the guy she’ll spend time with and the game really begins. There is nothing overtly exhibitionistic, but the goal is to get the guy to have a full blown erection while they are walking down the beach or standing at the water. Glancing at his penis when she knows he sees her, things like that. And she gets turned on doing it as well, which has an added benefit because her nipples “pop” as she gets excited. I don’t mean literally pop, but if you are standing in front of of her, it is impossible not to notice her nipples as they push out at him. Her excitement only helps his. Enough of her techniques. She lets the guy know she’s married at some point and he pretty much knows she isn’t heading home with him. We space out which beaches or resorts and timing (and different games in other venues), because just like us others return too. So far it hasn’t been a problem. Then we take it home for ourselves.

Now this guy apparently gets off on talking to people while sporting his erection. If this makes a companion uncomfortable then I’d stop going with him (I suspect that’s what happened years ago).

There are all kinds of reasons people get nude in a social setting but you never really know what is going on.

So, live and let live.

 

Don't know how that happened.... but here's my reply.
Glad you resurrected the thread. Certainly an interesting anecdote!
There's an entire thread about erections but I thought I'd attach to this much shorter one. That other thread contains all of the points I would make, as does this one, to a lesser extent. But allow me to summarize.
(I was last at a nude beach or similar venue in the 1980s. Then married to a "prude" who wouldn't have any part of it. Now happily married 2nd time and wife is fine with going to Playalinda Cape Canaveral when we get the chance.)
I never witnessed any form of inappropriate, by general consensus, "flaunting"- men getting way too close to women, masturbating, et cetera. Let's face it- if people on a beach are averaging 50-100 feet apart and an upper- middle- aged man with a beer belly plops down 5-10 feet from a woman/women, that's creepy- nude or not, erection or not! So please understand that I'm NOT defending any guy who gawks/leers at women in an overt and "creepy" way, or gets too close to them, et cetera- nude beach, textile beach, the Mall, Post Office, Bank... I think you get the idea.

I WOULD like to reiterate that healthy men can and will have erections while enjoying being nude. It's that simple. Are we "aroused"? Yes, but that's where it gets complicated. We are generally NOT having overtly lustful/sexual thoughts about the women around us. In my youth I experienced much CFNM, decades before it had a name. My parents were not nudists by any stretch, but my brother and I were allowed, even encouraged, to be nude around the house especially in summer. Erections were never commented on by our mom, let alone discouraged. They were a non-issue so we grew up not being ashamed if/when they happened. In my 20s I'd often be nude, by permission, while my female companion for swimming, sunning, canoeing, et cetera, remained clothed or in a swimsuit. The inevitable erections were always greeted with a smile if not a compliment. I was simply enjoying the combination of being nude in a relaxed setting with a female friend-companion. I wasn't hard all of the time, but always part of the time, and it was never a problem. Go figure.

At the beach (Playalinda) or clothing-optional springs, I was for the most part flaccid. But- I did have an occasional erection. Here's the part that is significant to me, at least: It was ALWAYS when I was "approached" and "chatted-up" by women who clearly wanted to share my company- they would enter my "space" and spread out towels etc. We would usually then spend the rest of the day together. Eventually as we got comfortable with each other there would be glances which turned to looks followed by compliments and the inevitable would happen, followed by more looks and compliments...

I wish, in a way, that the Subject didn't exist. If the aforementioned creepiness by a few didn't ruin things for the rest of us. And if everyone understood that nudity on a beach is the ultimate expression of individual freedom, and acceptance by similar-minded others. And that the physiology of erections involves LOW blood pressure, which is favored by being....RELAXED! Then having a good time and being free wouldn't have this "ginormous" asterisk hanging over half of the population...

Just sayin"...

 

Excellent (1st?) post Jim270. Welcome to the forums.

 

You can usually find a guy friend that will relieve his erection behind a rock. Win,Win for both

 

I'm 55 years old now and I've NEVER had a woman come over to me to "chat me up" in just normal textile life and especially not in a nude resort or beach setting. I don't think I would know how to react to that.

Women just come up to you out of the blue like that? Dang, you must look like the sexiest man in the world.

I did see my first bit of shenanigans at Haulover today. Man and woman probably in their early 30's or so set up about 50 feet away from me. After a few minutes she's topless but he's nude. She stands up behind their area and starts stretching. He comes in behind her and starts reaching around feeling her breasts, kissing her neck, etc. She turns around and they really start heavy kissing. When she separates from him he's clearly excited. About halfway excited if you get my drift. They went swimming after that. Later in the day he starts giving her a massage on her frontside and he kept reaching across her kind of staying across for a little bit so I have a good feeling of what was happening. Plus her hands were roaming around on him too.

I left before they did so I'm not sure if it was still going on but I clearly think they were exhibitionists.

 

Which is why I put, “...you never really know what is going on.” Lots of hidden games going on.