Friend filmed me... very strange!!

The other day I went on a trip with a friend to a concert who was slightly socially lacking. This fact was highlighted on the journey. Later that night we were at a club, and to my unaware, he took a video of me dancing with a girl I was trying to make the moves on. I'd have been more comfortable if I'd have felt that he'd had his own thing going on than watching me.

The next day when he was showing me some of the vids on his phone, he revealed to me that he took one of me dancing with the girl. I said 'that's weird... delete it'. He straight away said, 'oh, I deleted it', and put his phone away. I then said 'no you didn't, you were clearly just about to show me it'. He showed me it, and it was long before I said 'okay, delete that please'. He did something with his phone and then put it away again. This felt creepy and was a certain amount for me to take in, so a few minutes later, I again said 'okay that better be deleted'. He then took his phone out and I saw what looked like him deleting a video. It's a smart phone, so it's probably never really deleted. But what I also thought was weird was the fact he pretended to delete it. I mean did he plan on studying it? or showing it to people?

I thought that the only bad thing about hanging with someone a bit odd would be whether or not you're embarrassed to be seen with them. What annoys me about it, is that I don't think I could have seen this one coming in any way. This guy honestly didn't seem that weird to me... at least not to the extent that I thought I'd be socialising with him at my pearl. Funny to think that in this case I'd have stood a better chance of enjoying myself at nightclub having I entered alone!

He's friends with some other guys who I'm now enemies with. I'd imagine he gossips to them about me as much as he does to me about them... (which I'm okay with); but now that there could be a video in the equation things are different. I don't think he's a cruel person by the way, it's just that due his weakness(and not that I'm this paranoid about it), the video could get into the wrong hands, and for the girl in question(whom I now know) to think that I'm part of it all. All of a sudden, I feel as though a bunch of idiots could potentially have the upper hand over me due to their immaturity. It annoys me because often times in life, the more mature people lose out to the hands of the idiots and the weak. Seems ironic to me.

Although I'm 24, I guess it's something that happens a lot now days with teens, and something that might have have been due to happen to me. But since I didn't exactly grow up with it, it's not something I'm used to! But I just can't help but feel violated and uncomfortable about it(perhaps for many reasons).... and perhaps more than what I should be, since in the greater scheme of things, it's nothing.

 

Jesus, people in other places have seroius problems, like "Hey, they are cutting today our heads of!"

There is a difference between being weird and being a ****.

 

i'll second this. also, so where's the vid or it didn't happen.

 

WEIRD! I would be livid and never speak to that person again, probably......but if you were just dancing.....they really have nothing on you......except your privacy was violated. I know the feeling, well.

 

Problem though is that many times in cases like these, conclusions are reached, rumors made and misinterpretations are made.....and they become the truth....and the truth gets lost.....but I will always keep trucking....as I am not ashamed of who I am ever.

GOOD LUCK!

 

You're avoiding the issue

I didn't say there wasn't

 

Hmmmm I wouldn't concern myself so much with the opinion of others. Yes, its important to an extent but all this seems pretty frivolous. Had you been captured doing something seedy, unnatural or obscene, then yes there would be cause to worry. Whats the harm in being seen dancing with a lady in a club? You end up looking like a ladies man, while the videographer looks like a creepy lurker stalker guy. I probably wouldn't hang out with the guy again though.

 

If you were a girl it wouldnt be weird but youre a dude so id chalk that friend up as a weirdo and avoid him permanently