Okay, now I'm going to talk about something that really upset me tonight. I went with my fiancée to visit her sister and her brother-in-law. Her brother-in-law's quite a nice guy, but tonight I offended him completely inadvertently. He's black, and became offended when I mentioned the word "gollywog" (refering to the type of doll) during a casual conversation with Natalie. He told me politely that he finds the word very offensive, and told me not to use it anymore; he said that he would have expected someone of my intelligence to have known better, and that he's hurt people for less. So anyway, this made me feel pretty damn shit, but not showing it, and not wanting to start any sort of argument, I appologised and acted friendly, shaking his hand when I left. So when I left, I kinda felt like the worst person on the planet almost. I wanted to kick myself for saying the wrong thing; let me get one thing straight, I'm not racist. I don't care if you're black, white, asian, or if you're green with six arms and three heads. To me your just a person. But after a while I started thinking, was it right for him to be offended? Was it right that he should make me feel so shit for using what is, by all acounts, a legitimate English word? I'm starting to wonder if I should really feel bad for using a word that offended him, or if he's simply being pretty childish... What do you all think? Would anyone on here, black or white, find the word "gollywog" extremely offensive? And if so, please tell me why.