Found out my girl is talking to another man

obvious environmentalist . . .

 

ok, so hugging the tree was a little less than macho. But it seemed like it was a gesture of how much you loved your gf. I think it's better to just be yourself than to try to prove something to anyone.

Which brings me to another point. It may be a moot point, since you've already broken up with her.

Part of why your gf was flirting with another guy was because you had "treated her like shit", which means you have some responsibility for her actions (I'm not excusing what she did, it's still bad). She lied to you, I think, because she was afraid that you would be angry and break up with her, which completely back-fired on her.

Both of you fucked up. Both of you love/loved each other. While the trust is broken, I don't think you should walk away from her because you "think" it's what you are supposed to do, or should do because you want to retaliate for her lies.

I think you should only walk away because you want to, because it is clear to you that this is not a relationship that is good for you or that you want to be in.

 

send her on her way matey, sounds like a one way relationship to me. Dont be a mug

 

1)dump her immediately
2)fuck someone she hates (if she's in school she's bound to have enemies)
3)burn the memories
4)hang out with your boys for a few days
5)move on

All will be well and if it isn't, well than smoke crack and kill her.. I really couldn't care less either way

Love

 

Well, lets see, you're male

Lets say 4,000,000,000 other males in the world.

Your 18, so lets take off two zeros - 40,000,000 18 year old males in the world

You've been in a relationship with a girl more than 6 months at that age, lets say thats one in 5

So 8 million 18 year old males in the world dealing with issues in a relationship thats lasted more than 6 months - I'm sure your reactions are completely unique to the other 7,999,999

 

Lol. ok, grand master of the universe

 

vanilla-
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at your age you ought to know better.


marble-you made the right decision. there is nothing wrong with having standards. expecting your woman to be honest with you about her problems with the relationship instead of talking shit about you to a dude she sucked off in the past is about as low as your standards ought to go, in my opinion. you even gave her a chance to just tell you the truth and be forgiven, and she lied some more.

don't turn back, and don't let this guy try to convince you that what you did was somehow the wrong decision.

 

hey! I never tried to convince him that he made the wrong decision, if you're talking about me. I'm just saying I think he ought to do what *he* thinks is right, rather than doing what he thinks *other people* think he should do.

Yes, she has lied. In a previous relationship, she cheated. But we also don't know the "I treated her like shit" part. There's plenty of reason to trash this relationship. I think there was also a part about being madly in love . . .

 

shoot her in the face.

 

shes just a girl, she is not your personally property..
now if someone was trying to talk to my dog, befriend it, give it cookies,, Ima beat their fucking ass!!! stay the fuck away from my DOG!! I own it...

YOU CAN NOT OWN A HUMAN BEING.. They can do what they want..

 

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she lied.......

 

This is probably the best comment so far.
A relationship is a mutual friendship/companionship. It exists as long as you both feel so inclined. If you no longer feel as such because of her actions, explain that to her.
There's no need to go all vindictive or use all sorts of high-horse moral arguments.

Likewise all the posters saying to shoot her/hate her/steal her toothpaste/etc need to get a sense of proportion.

 

i damn may well be either the best person to ask about this or, i could be the worst to ask.

everyone gets fucked over from time to time.

in the past, it always hurt like a motherfucker!

now, getting fucked over, almost never bothers me. i have becomed too de-sensetize, jaded and, numbed to getting fucked over; in other words, i have build a wall between myself and others, or i have becomed cold blooded and thick skinned.
of course, it could also be, the longer i have lived and gained learning from experence, the better i've become at dealing with when i do get fucked.

the one thing i do know for sure, is, i'm almost never upset or, hurt from getting fucked over now!

 

Jealousy is such a nasty emotion though

And a very internal one, you can feel strongly and your actions seemingly justifiable to yourself, but end up looking like a total prick to everyone else


I think maybe everyone is supposed to get really, really fucked over, at least once in their life so they learn next time not to use jealousy as the number one motivator for their actions

Or maybe jealousy is the opposing force to dependancy, those more active and independant less likley to get psycho jealous over others. In the OPs case, 17/18 year old guys in long term relationships would be in the minority

 

I don't think you have a option as what to do unless you want to be treated like that. Get rid of her b/c there's plenty of fish the sea and especially fish that want treat you like that.

 

I would cheat on her and then dump her on front of the chick you cheated on her with.

 

Lol !!! Agreed do an ATM (ass to mouth) then bail!

 

Why did you treat her like shit?

She may not have been thinking forward.. she wanted attention; she wanted to be loved. Something a boyfriend should provide for a healthy relationship which you did not meet the meats end.

As she mentioned she wanted to cuddle HIM. not "him" but someone, and that someone should have been you. Im not sure how you're commuication was with her, but it seems like both of you didnt do it well. For some reason you treated her badly why? And she needed to express her attention to the relationship, not seek it elsewhere.

So you know what? You're a douchebag by treating her badly in anyway. If she cheated on you beforehand, or abused you in someway - then ok Im sorry. But the right answer was to break up.

I doubt you had a reason to treat her like crap. She did also play her part of the 50% and went seeking for the attention instead of talking to you. But a break up was the best choice cause I doubt you would get better in treating her right -
cause you already knew you were treating badly and didnt change anything to that fact.