For the thrill of it. What gives you the big Rush?

Do you and your wife get into Kinky Scenarios for the Thrill of it? Wife likes it forceful and rough. One time I thought I was too tough and I stopped. Then she told me I wimped out on her and took the thrill right out of it.After that comment, I stayed comitted in our game until I was done.. Nothing gross or Very painful.
She scared me the one time she had me restrained , on my stomach and spread eagle. She played the game like an academy award actress. As her fingers teased around my hairy asshole, she dripped the cold lube on it .ever so gently fingering my asshole. Then she stopped and showed me the big dildo she was about to invade my ass with. I was thinking "OH Boy, This is going to feel good."That was until she wispered in my ear and told me I wasn;t going to be able to sit for a week. When she threw the tube of ky in front of my face telling me "If that dab of lube wasn't enough, too bad ,because that was all I was getting. I felt like she was starting a campfire with the dildo in my asshole.
We brought each other to new heights of pleasure by Heightening the excitement level and Thrilling each other