For The Gay/Bi Married (to a woman) Men : Would You Rather Have Sex With Your Wife Or Another Man ?

I have a question for the guys who identify as either gay or bisexual and are married to a woman. When it comes to your sex life, are you satisfied and fulfilled with only having sex with your wife, or do you actually prefer to have sex with another guy ?

As a Bisexual married guy, I have asked myself this question many times, as I really enjoyed both immensely. Don't get me wrong, I love my wife very much, and Can't envision a future without her. Our sex life is pretty good, but it usually revolves around kinky fetishes we both enjoy. Very rarely is it about "making love" when it comes to sex with her these days.

To be completely honest, I love having my ass played with (fondled, fingered, even penetrated) just as much as I do getting my c*** sucked or penetrating my wife. Luckily, my wife is into playing with my ass, but sometimes, I just want and prefer the real thing, a MAN. there are also definitely times when she wants "it", and I'm simply NOT interested.

My interest/need to receive anal sex has also caused my wife to question my true sexuality. My porn watching habits don't help either when it comes to my wife questioning my preferences, as I only watch gay bareback, transsexual, and MMF porn. When we're out in public, I don't shy away from checking out hot women, but when it comes to sexual fantasies and even masturbating, my thoughts almost exclusively revolve around either MMF 3somes with my wife and another bisexual guy, or having another man "making love" to me. I also find myself fantasizing regularly about being "used" as a totally sexually submissive bottom by a "special" sexy bi or gay DOM top.

I can say with almost certainty that I'd prefer to keep my "gay side" separate from my married life. So I'm wondering how other bi (or gay) married men figure out how to either include their wives in their bisexual needs/desires, or keep it separate from their married lives

 

Mine can never know my thoughts, and at this time I only have those thoughts, no friend to be with. When I'm fantasizing about sex it's almost always bi related now, probably because I'm in a suppressed but wanting state, lol. It's just difficult to find someone like you to meet with regularly. I love my life with her very much but there is a desire that can't be suppressed away permanently. I have come to terms it's who I am, but lonely with it. I'm sure there are a lot like us but it's difficult to meet with one ongoing. And I must have only one friend. It would be too difficult and be guilt ridden otherwise

 

I write and share cuckold stories with her. She enjoys the fantasies, but that is as far as it goes.

 

I could have written this! I feel your frustrations!

 

I prefer sex with men I love my wife but I just can't fulfill my needs with a woman

 

I totally agree. I knew I was into guys long before I realized I liked women too. I come from a pretty homophobic family, so when I was in my teens, I dated and even had sex with a few different females, and tried to suppress my homosexual feelings/desires. While I had fun with girls as a teenager, it always kinda felt like "something was missing".
It wasn't till I was 21 and moved away from home that I had my gay experience, and realized what was missing. The first time I ever felt desired by and kissed another guy gave me a sense of pure joy and gave me that "butterflies in my stomach" that I'd never felt with with ANY female to that point. Being with another guy sexually just felt right, and totally natural to me, whereas most of my previous experiences with women almost felt "forced" because that's what my family and society expected of me.
When I met my wife, I again tried to suppress my homosexual NEEDS/desires. I want to reiterate that I love my wife very much, and couldn't imagine a future without, and lthough we've been together for 13 years and married for 11 years... I Will readily admit that MOST of my sexual fantasies and thoughts while masturbating revolve around gay sex. My porn preferences would also indicate very strong gay needs/desires, as I pretty much exclusively watch gay bareback, gay dom/sub, transsexual and MMF 3some porn.
Again I love my wife very much, and I don't ever see that changing, but I can honestly say that if I ever ended up single again that I'm pretty sure I would certainly persue a gay lifestyle... That's how much I enjoy being with another man. I'm not one of those bisexual guys that just wants the sex with another guy, I need/want/crave the romance/intimacy too, including the kissing, making out and cuddling.
Although I've been with/had sexual relationships with fewer men than with women,I learned a long time ago that I can be just as happy and satisfied in a gay relationship as I've ever been in a straight relationship/marriage. Even though I can have my wife any time I want, I can honestly say I constantly fantasize and crave having another man "make love" to me more than I've ever fantasized about ANY woman.
My ultimate fantasy would be to remain married to my wife, and also find myself ONE sexy dominant TOP guy that I could be submissive for, both in and out of the bedroom. Ideally, I'd try and keep my marriage and a gay relationship separate from each other... Though I wouldn't mind be sexually submissive to both my wife and another man at the same time

 

My wife is (with me) only into vanilla sex. Doesnt suck dick much. Finally let me give her anal once. I say with me because she does have sex with another guy. No idea how their sex life is other than they have sex more than she and I do. I asked what she thought about using a strap on or dildo on me. She said, "Isnt that gay?" I said, "Yep. That's the idea." Shes tried sleeping with another woman a few times and she said she was ok with it but preferred cock by far.

I found out from having sex with my neighbor that I very much enjoy being eaten out and being fucked. Things my wife would never do

 

I enjoy looking at hot women but when my cock is hard I think only about men. I masturbate only to gay porn, gay or bisexual literotica. Or just masturbate thinking about lying in bed with another man, passionately kissing, our hard cocks rubbing together, exploring our bodies with our hands, then masturbating each other until we cum all over each other cocks. Fall asleep in each other's arms then suck and fuck when we wake up.

My wife knows I am gay and is cool with it. She knows I am no longer into pussy so rarely asks me to pleasure hers. Thankfully we both love anal though I can't always stay hard inside her so I have to pull out then masturbate to a man to get hard then cum. She used to cum from me eating out her pussy but for a few years now can only cum while masturbating to lesbian porn. Win Win!

Working on losing weight and then want to find a gay lover. As the pendulum swung from me being attracted to men from women I realized that thinking about men is more pleasurable and natural than when I thought about women.

 

I would be happier if I could wake up in my king size bed with my wife on one side of me and a man on the other. I'd be happy to share him with her and her with him.

I am happy with my wife although I really, really need a good hard cock from time to time.

 

So been w my wife for 35 years had my first bi encounter at 38 I’m now 50. I have a regular guy I meet for sex and honestly it’s way better w him then my wife. I think it’s more about my pleasure w a guy and w my wife it’s about pleasing her.

 

I love my wife but I don't get it from her as much as I'd like. She will give head every great once in a while but it's ever only for about 45 seconds. I love a man that will get me going, fuck me and cum inside, then suck me off.

 

I love my wife but after menopause there's no sexlife there. So I'd rather be with my FB when as far as sex goes.

 

I’m in line with the all you guys, I came out to my wife as bi but the more time goes on the more attraction I have for men, pussy is almost repulsive anymore, I watch gay porn only, masturbate to gay fantasies and think of men when I fuck my wife. I knew from a young age I liked guys but now I’m my 40’s it’s all I think about. I love my wife very much but my gay is growing and idk what to do about it.

 

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