For bi men whose wife is still "in the dark".......

What do you mean by "blood kin?" Despite this - and pending further explanation - a scorned wife could very well out him to everyone she can think of. Just go on Facebook or any other social media platform and tell the whole planet that her soon-to-be ex-husband is gay. I've heard stories about a wife outing hubby to one and all but it's never happened to anyone I personally knew.

But if you mean what I think you mean, yeah, that could be an immeasurable disaster...

 

KD23:

By "blood kin" I was referring to the husband's parents (if still living), siblings, etc.

That could indeed truly TEAR a family apart, and I certainly wouldn't want to be the poor fellow "outed", that's for certain..............

 

Yeah, that's what I thought you meant. I'll leave it at that.

 

KD23:

I hear you, friend....that's ONE scenario you hope NEVER happens to any one of your married buds (or yourself, for that matter); you don't even want to imagine the toxic fallout after something of that magnitude.....

 

Something I must mention, here..........

If the "wife kept in the dark" is also less-than-warm to interracial relationships, one cannot even BEGIN to describe the ten hells breaking loose if she if she came home early from, perhaps from a weekended getaway with girlfriends, and finding hubby in bed with a BLACK man!

Man, talk about the shit REALLY hitting the fan!

You WOULD think that, by 2025, that we could FINALLY embrabce "TOLERANCE", in EVERY sense of the word, regarding, race, ethnic background, and sexuality.

Thinking of such a massive nuclear meltdown, I once again am MORE than grateful that I was raised to be "color blind"........................

 

All the more reason to continue to keep her in the dark, wouldn't you say? You would think that we'd be long since past those days where anything interracial was frowned upon and could result in violence and even the deadly variety. If you realize that you could be married to a racist, well, shit - if your male lover isn't of the same race as you are, you might not want to let her know that since it'll just add fuel to the fire when she burns you alive for cheating on her in the first place.

We consider ourselves to be enlightened and civilized and, obviously, not all of us are. We haven't been able to get past our fear of the other or being of the mind that if you're not like or with us, you're against us and will have to be dealt with.

 

KD23:

Agreed, 100%, my friend.

Love is like lust; neither one could care less about the skin color of a potential partner.

I HAVE seen interracial (m/f) couples in several tv commercials, but am STILL waiting for one of these big corporations to depict an interracial MALE couple, or BLACK male couple, or, for that matter, a WHITE same-sex male couple (buying a car, buying a home, new appliance, going on vacation, etc)

I've seen plenty of "gals out of the town" commercials, but NOTHING with only MALES.

Hell, you WILL see two men at a theme park, a beach, etc, and, of course EACH has to have a FEMALE at his side!

GOD FORBID two MALES are seen together, NO WOMEN, enjoying each other's company!

Even seeing THREE MEN together is virtually unheard of in commercials (thankfully, I watch very little TV, maybe just a couple of hours each week; I much prefer a DVD or a good book)

Sometimes, homophobia is NOT all that subtle, especially when you're "in the know", so to speak.

Hell, their money is just as good as any heterosexuals!

At least I thinks so...............

 

I've ALWAYS lived steadfastly by my credo for life in general:

"FAIR is FAIR"

Cannot be simpler than that, folks..........

 

They mix it up in TV commercials - you just gotta see the right ones where you live! I see so many of them that I no longer really pay attention to them. So, if you were married to a woman, she wasn't giving you any, you decided to get some cock - and a nice, big Black one - would you be worried about what your in-the-dark wife is going to think or say about you having a Black male lover (with a huge cock)?

 

While I get the notion of “fair is fair”, it seems it rarely is. And for me I suppose I have lost the expectation that it’s going to be. It’s not that I don’t believe in justice, I do. I just don’t always see I working that way.
So in the arena of looking for what’s fair in the sexual aspect of my marriage I have opted to go with peace. What keeps the peace in my household. Going down the road of what’s fair in this situation will most likely end up not being settled. The result being a ruined marriage, damaged relationships with my children and grand children. Not to mention friends. All the while me beating the dead horse of what’s fair.
Sure I have made a big compromise. But I have to live in the reality of my situation. I understand the dynamics of my reality are different than everyone else’s. So I navigate the minefield that I have.
Maybe at some point I will loose my sex drive and won’t be driven to make the decisions I do. Haha.

 

Just have to throw this one into the ring............

Imagine during the wedding reception of a bi man and his new bride, sometime late in the recption, the new bride discovers her new husband in a utility room at the hall, tux pants and shorts down, on all fours, deep-throating his best man and getting his butt plowed by one of the groomsmen??

TELL ME this wouldn't be the BIGGEST clusterfuck of ALL TIME!!!!!!!!

I MUST admit that this m/m/m scenario is NOT one of my usual imaginative doings, but, instead, comes from an "album" of photos I came across quite awhile back on some really cool m/m porn site on the 'net!!!

All kidding aside, I HAVE, in all honesty, read several true accounts on the 'net (a number of years ago) of gay/bi guys getting it on with the men in a wedding party........(!!)

Then, too, gotta think of the newly-married bi guy finding time for a quick m/m encounter (or two) while on their honeymoon, when wifey is busy on a few shopping excursions.......

 

How would she know to look for him in a utility closet? This sounds like something out of a gay porn script! Weren't you told not to believe everything you see on the Internet? Does shit tend to happen at weddings? Sometimes it does... but not like this (that I know of). Just me but there's a time for getting some dick after you get married... and it's not on your honeymoon. Not exactly keeping the wife in the dark, well, not that first thing anyway.

 

KD23:

BELIEVE ME, I KNEW what I was seeing was nothing more than a testesterone-charged, highly-imaginative "porn photo scenario"; I LIKED what I was seeing (a LOT!), BUT, I KNEW that it was just something for "entertainment value" only.........(like virtually all of the porn world!)

The SAME way porn never stops perpetuating the eternal myth (which, of course, refuses to die) that EVERY black man packs a 12" trouser python, as we have discussed at length (pun not intended!) elsewhere, in the past.

But, as you and I BOTH know, the gullible are everywhere, accepting fantasy as reality............

 

It's still one of those things that, were it true, you might not want your wife, who is comfortable in the dark place you've put her in, to find out. I don't think I know anyone stupid enough to do something that stupid on their wedding day...

 

KD23:

I am in TOTAL agreement with you; but, as you know, sometimes, too many (idiots) guys think with their DICK, instead of their brain, especially when they are in OVERDRIVE!

Again, you are right on the mark; a guy (bi or otherwise) would HAVE to be BEYOND insane to fuck up his wedding day, aspecially with a few hundred guests milling about in the hall........perhaps the ULTIMATE example of IMBECILITY..........

 

I loosely know of a couple who had that happen! The husband had a gay gang bang run on him the day of the wedding! ... But they were bisexual swingers, and she loved watching it and had an orgy herself at the wedding reception!

 

AAhhh, so there IS some "insanity reality" taking place out there, of a m/m sort!

Talk about "male bonding!"

Well, I guess the old saying IS true (at least in SOME situations):

"......truth is stranger than fiction......"

Then, again, TOO MANY of the truly gullible totally accept what they see in porn as REALITY, instead of FANTASY......even I know there is a HUGE difference.......

 

If there were ever an ADULT version of Disneyland/Disneyworld, rest assured that "Fantasyland" would be, without a doubt, the most POPULAR area of the park, MORE than dominated by fantasy-inspired porn!

 

Speaking of "fantasy"..........

I think this word aptly describes a bi married man's frame of mind (when his wife still is unaware of his true sexuality) and, in his "fantasy", "coming out" to her, and her being totally supportive and totally OK with his having sex with other men.

Again, there is a WIDE line indeed between "fantasy" and "reality..............

 

That's the moment where (1) he learns that he didn't know his wife as well as he thought he did and (2) that he should have kept his big mouth shut and take it to the DL and stick a dick in his mouth instead.