First time coming out as Bisexual

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Something funny just happened the other day. As I mentioned in a post a couple of months ago here in this thread and before that elsewhere, I have come out to my girlfriend-to-be just before we were about to have sex, back in 2016, and a lesbian friend of mine a few weeks ago (plus a couple of therapists years ago). My girlfriend had told a couple of other mutual female friends and acquaintances: let's call one of them Girl#2. But it seemed to be really restricted to them alone.

But another mutual friend of Girl#2 just asked me last week, after we had not seen each other since before the pandemic, how life is going for me; is there any new woman in my life, any new man? What?! Did I hear that right? But I didn't question it at all, and just replied, "No, no new woman or man in my life." Yes, I was taken aback internally, but I played it cool externally. But at the same time I also internally didn't really care whether she knew that I was bisexual.

I think I've gotten to that place over these last few months, where the true gay side of myself has much more fully emerged and been accepted by me, even rejoiced in. As I mentioned in my previous post, I was falling in love a few months ago with a guy I started getting to know, something that had never happened to me before. Up to then it had only been a physical (really, only sexually physical) thing with guys, and initially for the first 20 years only genital, gradually evolving to my liking more and more of a man's body in person. Now I was actually developing desire for a man like I have developed desire for women. However, it looks like that guy that I was falling for is straight, and besides, he just moved 5 hours away from me this past weekend. But that experience has led me to believe that I'm very capable of--and in fact looking forward to it--falling in love and having a serious relationship with a man.

And then a month ago I had sex with a more masculine, hairy guy, and for the first time desired that kind of thing, or really just liking and wanting him, despite his body, or because of his body, just really accepting and desiring the whole him. I think it was an internal acceptance and having desire for the masculine.

All of this has been a more and more coming out to myself. I believe these 2 recent events have allowed my gay side to be more fully actualized, leading me to not being concerned with this other woman knowing I like women and men. Besides, it didn't seem to affect her behaviour towards me anyway.

I'm not sure how my coming out (to other people) process will continue from here, but I think as I come to more and more love my true self--which is just fine to me to be more gay than straight--the more comfortable I will be in not needing to hide it from others.

 

I admitted I had bi interests to a close female friend recently and was shocked it went well! This was the first person outside of a therapist, who knew my full name, details.
It helped that she was also bi and had been married to and dated bi men before.
She took it without missing a beat. She didn't understand why I was so worried about it because I knew she was bi herself? Told her I've seen many articles and posts by women, bi ones who refuse to date a bi guy.
It was a great relief to share this with a regular person and it go well. I sensed a slight distancing from my therapist when I shared it to her recently, despite listing herself as an ally.
If only I could've shared this small part of me to my wife earlier on? Wish I could have her drunk, tell her, so she'd forget if took it badly. Then tell her again sober if it went well? LOL!
I generally don't care for most anyone to know, as it's a small part of me. But it feels larger, the longer I don't have sex.

 

I'm glad you did that with your bisexual female friend: good on you! And to be totally accepted is an awesome thing.

I did the same coming out conversation with a lesbian friend of mine over dinner a few months ago. Even though it's almost a certain positive outcome, it still felt good to tell her, and go through the practice of doing that, which I've only done with my now ex-girlfriend before we had sex the first time, and two therapists. And, like your friend, she totally accepted it and was happy for me.

The other aspect of what you wrote is the bisexual woman part. Even though I'm presently only interested in sex and possible romance with men right now, if I should put myself out there again for women, which would only be for casual sex (I don't think I could ever try to be in a long term, monogamous relationship with a woman again, like with my last girlfriend, because my gay desires are just too strong, and I can't go without having sex with men), then I would be most comfortable with bisexual women, not for any kind of bisexual MFF or MMFF possibilities, because I probably wouldn't be into that, but just because she would have more understanding, especially at the subconscious level. Even though my very straight girlfriend accepted my bisexuality on the surface, I believe deep down it caused issues in our relationship, even though I was faithful, except for gay porn and forums like this. Then again, at a casual sex level, it wouldn't make such a big difference going forward, would it?

 

I’m 75 and just now wanting to try m2m encounter. Wife gave up sex five years ago. She has agreed to let me play as long it is not with another woman. So I am now looking for an older guy to play with. Love gay porn and masturbating to it. I want to suck my first cock as soon as I find the right guy. Wish me luck

 

Same here

 

I’m looking too… I’m a 65 year old man