First love

I've been in a few realtionships over the years and never really felt the love thing with them people.
Im in a relationship now however that I feel all these mixed emotions for him and yeah I do love him.
I dont think if we ever split then I would get over him easily, he will always have a special place in my heart

 

There have been times that I seriously thought about marrying the cheating ****.

 

my first love has changed so much since i met him when i was 14... but no, i don't think i'll ever be properly over him. Although I know I'll love someone else more for probably a better reason, but I'll never completely stop loving the first guy.

 

I told a boy I loved him once and now that I had broken up with him , I dont think I ever did. I don't know if I never really did or because of the issues we had before we broke up or the break up itself caused that disillusionment that caused me to even wonder what I could have ever liked about him. I think it was more of an experience than love, it was maturity stage for me. That I liked him, as hard as it is for me to even think I could have. I think at some point I did since I got with him for a reason. But love....I dont think it ever was. Appreciation , yes, perhaps. Not wanting to hurth im, definetely. But in love...I think that is something I have only had for my vurrent boyfriend. I feel it. I am not as doubtful about it and I dont have any bad doubts or feelings about the relationship. I want to be with this boy forever....whether it happens or not, I dont know. It's only 50 percent upto me but the other 50...who knows what happens life is crazy. I just dont want ot be a hypocrite and say I never loved that other kid if I did but I can honestly say I dont think I ever did. I reallllly dont want to be a hypocrite and if things dont work with this boyfriend for his reasons or life 's reasons cause it wont be for me...I will try to hypocrisize everything and say I never did when ofcourse I am in love now and will always be, feel like I will

 

do you believe on sayings "first love never die"..
honestly i don't have a lot of experiences about love but i think all love never die..i mean even though you break up with somebody they will always have a special place in your heart...love will always stays in your heart..

 

Im in love with someone right now and we've been dating for 3 months and some days and if we ever broke up i could never replace him. I would date other people and stuff but i would never love someone as much as i love him. I know that we havnt been dating that long but i could spend the rest of my life with him. He's everything i ever dreamed of and losing him would be the worst thing to ever happen to me. We see eachother everyday unless he has to work till close or i have somewhere to go but other than that we just lay in my bed all day holding eachother and then every so often we will go and smoke but thats about it.

 

So by love do you mean your first crush or your first "love", as in relationship. I'm having trouble understanding the love part. I was married to someone I didn't love, and I have completely forgotten about him trust me. But there is someone that I have had a crush on since I was 15 years old and I have most certainly not forgotten about him. I mean I remember the guy I first kissed, but I don't really care about him now. And when I was 5 I had a crush on one of my uncle's friends, but again, I don't care about him now either. Guess I never answered the question. I just have issues.

 

Well, I usually ask myself little questions like "what if it had worked out between us? Would we still be together now?"
I wouldn't say exactly that I still love her ... but I will probably never fully get over her. But when you find out that your first love wasn't exclusively yours, it tends to cut a deep wound that never heals.

 

That's easy to say whilst you're still with him believe me. I thought that about my girlfriend, then we broke up, turns out I'd rather forget her and never see her again. Maybe it's different for other people, but don't count on still being close with him after you brake up.

 

Couldnt have said it any better way.

Ill never stop loving my real first love (coz im still with him haha) but nah i think theres always something inside you that never stops loving your first love. In reality they teach you all.


Naima

 

Your first real love should be yourself. Always.

And no - I don't think you should ever get over that first real love.

 

My first love just dumped me yesterday. He's 17 and I, of course, am 15 <.<. "Technically" we were dating for around 7 months, however we had the strong feelings for one another for around 3 years. He was my best friend. I talked to him every single day possible since the end of my grade 6 (his grade 8), and we developed a very strong bond, but we knew nothing could work until he could start driving. So once he got his license, about a month after he came over to my house for the first time and I was in heaven. However, he started getting controlling and possessive, it started out with him demanding my Myspace be deleted. He then told me to quit playing volleyball and get home schooled just like he does (he lives 70 miles away from me), and not go to college. I lied to him for several months, promised I would (only because I couldn't stand it if he were to dump me), went on an amazing vacation with him about 3 weeks ago, and after that it's just been downhill since the start of school is near and I won't be getting home schooled.. So I finally told him the truth, that I didn't know his vision was what I really wanted, that I'm torn between what I've known my whole life (sports and school) and what I've just gotten into (fuck society and fuck college). He told me that he "knew I was a fake" and dumped me. He is bipolar and clinically depressed, and has been for about a year I'd say. His mom wants to send him to a depression camp in Kentucky and he's been putting it off but now said he will be moving there. I don't know if that's really going to happen, and losing all contact with him is going to KILL me. I hope he doesn't change his cell number.

 

My first love and I broke up almost 6 years ago. I have been with my husband for almost 5 years and we have been married for 3. However, I have never truly stopped loving my first love. I care a great deal about him, and we still e-mail occasionally. I'm not IN love with him anymore, I'm married and very happy. I still love him though, just not in a romantic, wish I could still be with him kinda way.

 

me and my ex have been broken up for a year (he's my first love).

i thought i would never get over him. i dont want to be with him anymore

but not for one moment do i beleive i have stopped loving him.
once you love someone, you will never stop. love can change forms aka, from friendship to romantic.


but i will never love another man the same way i loved him. not because i love him more.
but because i will love the new guy in a new way. i love everyone differently.

i am very fortunate that i am still best friends with my ex. we spend so much time together and act just like we used to. we tell each other everything and cuddle each other mercilessly. however we dont kiss... we dont whisper sweet nothings and there is no romantic relationship there anymore. just love.

he is amazing and i hope one day he finds a beautiful girl.
so in answer to your question. no you never stop loving your first love. but you learn to love them in a different way

 

Yup.

 

I can barely remember my first love. I do remember being crushed that she found another guy while she was with her mother for the summer. At the time I thought I would never get over her, but I did after I found my second love a few months later.

 

I think it all depends on how it ended.


It seems to be that if the other person finished with you, or you didnt really get closure, then it will always haunt you in a way. Or at least there will be a tiny bit of it that follows you through life.

If on the other hand you finished with them, then obviously you had reasons for that and probably had time to get used to the idea before it actually happened, it's alot easier to move on and forget about it in that instance.

Personally, by the time I have got over the previous person and have found someone else, I've already come to the conclusion that I never really loved them anyway, just thought I did.

 

I am still married to my first love. 20 years (may of this year) We have been together for 25 years altogether. I am sure I would never get over him if something were to happen.

 

I broke up with my first real love 25 years ago. Now that I am single again, I would run to her in a heartbeat and take up where it went wrong. It was pure, not so innocent and intense. She also was the best kisser I have ever dated including my ex-wife of 18 years.

 

My first love is my fiance. So I'll see where it goes from here...

Peace and love