First Date Question...

Sometimes, people just go on "dates" to hang out then become fuck buddies.

 

Wow I'm nervous just reading it! Well my advice is let yourself have fun and if you do then she will have a great time too.


Oh don't try to lie about your past experience, be honest... and don't play air-drums!

 

Sounds like the girl said yes only because she knew you guys couldn't date due to the timing. I bet you dollars to donuts she would have said no otherwise.

 

Well, we went on the date last night...and I think it went well. It was fun, nice opportunity to talk just the two of us. She also dressed up, and this girl NEVER dresses up, so that was...hehe...nice . Anyways, we had a long chat before the date, and she cleared some things up. It definetly didn't make me feel any better, but at least I know now I guess....

Apperantly, she doesn't "feel comfortable enough" around me to really get into a full blown relationship with me. She said that people who go out should be like best friends, and best friends are ones who are both completely comfortable in total silence, and she said she isn't yet. I am, but she isn't. Also, apperantly she LOVES to argue...and because we agree on EVERYTHING, she can never argue andything with me at all, and she said it would "be like dating myself, which is odd". BUT, she also did say that, "I'm not closing any doors" and "I'm not against dating or anything along those lines"....and...."It may change over time, but basically I don't want you to have to wait up for me". So I THINK the main point was, that she thought I was thinking this date meant that it was the start of something more, which it isn't yet, and that it is possible for the situation to change, but I "had a head start" and she just doesn't feel quite that way yet. So there you have it folks, apperantly I need to go find something we disagree on....

 

boy toy?

 

First of all, Butters, take a deep breath... You're OK. It's only romance.

This is not like fixing your car... you can't just "do the right thing" and have everything work out. There are two people involved here, and people are complicated, particularly women folks! It's not just what you want and think and do, it also has to do with what's going on with her, and, unfortunately, timing and circumstances. Even if you do everything perfectly, things often don't work out.

No, I don't think you have to find something to disagree about. That's just a cover story.

It sounds to me like you may have "come on too strong." Perhaps not physically, but certainly emotionally. You wanted the big kahuna, and she could read that, but probably wasn't there yet. (I have done that too. You'll live.)

That's why the call it "taking a chance."

It took me YEARS to figure that one out. If you push things TOO fast with her, then the game is suddenly over. If you DON'T push it enough, she'll loose interest and it's over. It's a tough balancing act.

The only way you can learn is by doing. No one can explain it to you.

My best advice to you is to keep it light, stay in the game, and (this is the hardest part) don't get too emotionally invested. At least not untily you've gone out for a long time.

The other advice, I'd give is to go out more, with lots of girls. Just casually, and make it clear that it's just casual. I can tell this is hard for you, but give yourself a pep talk, and get out there and play the social game a while. You wouldn't expect to score a 50-yard field-goal without ever having done any kicking practice, would you?

Good luck!

 

that's true. because with women, there there is NO RIGHT THING.

unless your name if James Bond, or George Clooney, than you'll never have any idea what women want.

nobody does. heck, I doubt they know. but it was good practice date. I know what she means, not wanting to do the whole relationship thing.

I got the same commitmentphobia she seems to have. Just accept that maybe all you're gonna do is the friends thing. Sucks, but happens.

don't worry bout it, you'll find em' eventually.

....in that wonderful place called "college"....

 

Butters she is confused. Don't think too hard of what she ment cause I'm guessing that she doesn't know either. It's a good educating experience though!

My advice is keep your eyes open and have fun. If friendship is not what you're just looking for then approach more girls. She will then consider if she is ok with losing you as a boyfriend.

 

I think she's using you for popularity, unless that was actually her first date ever, which I don't believe :S . go to http://www.sosuave.com and get macking.

 

Buy her a dildo