First Bi-Sexual Experience

Regardless of the outcome I would confess ASAP to limit the damage - the longer you don't talk the more suspect it is and more difficult it will be to deal with. If you'd told him straight out the next morning he probably would have just been turned on - you got really drunk and lezzed out - no biggie.

You tell him 2 years from now it's going to mean you've been lying to him for 2 years....

Which do you think sounds worse?

It's not the sex that is the problem in relationships, it's the lying.

Also - if you are the type of person who can't control themselves when drunk you may need to take a closer look at yourself.

Also - bragging about rep points or using them as a rationale for whether you are right or wrong is kind of like a retard saying that he's not retarded while he mispells the word retard at the same time.

 

Yes, it is cheating. You had sex with another person without your significant other's knowledge. (Strip out all the gender there) That's cheating in pretty much anybody's book.

 

.........the best oral ever........ ok, so now youl'll settle for 2nd best for the rest of your life and do the expected straight thing. No further discussion - it's your life lady but normally if you have a super new experience you keep an open mind if you know what i mean.............

Simon

"serious doubt.........." ".....incident of this type......" ('"type" !!!!)

what r u a lawyer or a policewoman?!

 

Exactly. I dont think its for anyone else to put their own moral beliefs on others, and say things like "its not cheating" or "if the bf thinks its cheating he's lame". If you personally wouldnt think its cheating, then fair enough. Lots of people however, would, and its their right to be that way, just as it is for everyone who wouldnt regard it as a cheating.

If I ever had a boyfriend, I know I would be upset if I knew he'd slept with another guy while with me. I would be marginally more upset if it with was a woman, because at least if it was with a guy, Id know that it wasnt a problem with me as a woman, because no woman would be sufficient. But I most certainly would still regard it as cheating.

 

It doesnt matter anyway, the guys are going to assume you are going to cheat anyway, you're a girl so most of them will (wrongly) assume its easy for you to get, thats why most can be so overprotective.

Where as you girls, unless he's superhot will for the most part assume the only way he can cheat is if he pays for it, which doesnt really mean anything.

Like it or not, their is a difference there between the sexes. So you are going to limit yourself for a guy thats going to assume you've cheated anyway?

 

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I don't consider this cheating. But then again, I simply can't be in a relationship unless we're both free to have sex outside of the relationship under conditions we both agree on. This was a special experience for you, with someone you trust. It was a first, and might have made you realize something about yourself. And in the end, you still care enough about your boyfriend to be concerned about your relationship if he found out.

I don't see what's so bad about that, whether he ever joins in or not.