Have you attempted to find your way sexually over the decades and noware still searching and finding our way.? What have you ventured into, over the years, that was mutually satisfying for both of you?
Because of our age and various medical conditions, we have adjusted things to accomodate both of our needs Did you just give up or assimilate to a mutually satisfactual means of achieving your needs? My wife says she can go without but is willing to try different things to keep me satisfied.
I tipped back to my gay side as things began to deteriorate between my wife and I sexually. I can't blame her completely - it just seemed to develop over time that she needed me to make her feel sexy and wanted, but at the same time I struggled to approach her for sex, when she repeatedly turned me down. She had various excuses, but it began to take a toll on me. She needed me to make her feel desirable, but I also was suffering when she turned me down. I finally gave in to my desires for sex with men, which she did not approve of, but I found much easier to get than any sex from my very own beloved wife. It still pains me that we could not work that out with one another
We had our issues in the past also. Rather than being left out in the cold my wife was the one who suggested trying Bi fun with our old gay friend. My wife wouldn't tolerate another woman. We went that route for a while until the well ran dry. I didn't want to try anything with Strangers , so we are back to square 1 again. The Strapon and dildos have been a great substitute, even by myself or giving her a show.
Substitute gay side with bi side and that could've been myself writing the first half of your post. I don't want to be in this same boat in my 70s when I'm nearly 50. I've already gone through numerous multi month and multi year rounds of no sex. The bi urges were always there, but satisfied with porn or internet stories. They grew the less sex I got. It's the constantly being turned down that is the worst feeling to your self worth, and ego.
That is precisely what drove me to mutually sucking with other married men, as was their reason as well. Women just don't get it, we have needs too.
What’s great about a mutual head agreement with a married guy, the fun begins right away. He walks in the room, we drop our pants and immediately begin a suck session until we both nut. Then we pull up our pants and he leaves. Pure, satisfying fun. Unlike the ongoing dating ritual in a male/female relationship. First it’s dinner. Then drinks. Then maybe stop by your apartment where you may or may not have a chance to get in her pants. Nope, us guys get right to the point.
I'm only a month away from my 60th, but it's been a 30 year struggle for me to finally find and accept my place as mostly a gay man. Part of the struggle has involved countless rejections from women, all of which led me to more and more sex with guys. But a big part of the struggle has been to accept the gay part of myself fully, that has had multiple layers of deep repression in my unconscious mind, preventing me from fully enjoying being with a man all these years. It's finally only been this year where I have leapt forward in allowing myself to not only enjoy a man's body fully, and not just his cock and asshole, and whether it's smooth or hairy, but, most importantly of all, to allow myself to fall in love with a man, which I did a few months ago, although it was unrequited. That's a long way from just barely enjoying a guy's cock alone, and often just through a gloryhole. I now feel that my 60s and 70s are going to be filled with the best love and sex of my life, and of course with men only. I finally feel content and happy in my 90% homosexuality.
That's what I loved about Craigs List back in the day. Married guys sucking on the down low (like myself) providing a photo of their cock. I could shop around and when I found one that I liked within an hour we were naked somewhere sucking each other's cocks.
I know. I sure miss those days. Every man knew about CL, even the straight ones, and would visit it. Now cruising websites for men aren’t known by very many straight guys.
No sex has taken its toll on me for years. Now 69, My wife is not into it but tries to do 'something' to satisfy me every few weeks, even though I can tell a mile off she isn't really into it. If I want any satisfaction I will have to have a suck-and-pull-off buddy. The ones I spent time with were better at sucking than any woman I've ever been with.
My wife is a wonderful woman in most regards, but not sex. She has no interest at all any more and can not relate at all to my desire for it. She has the attitude that my needs are the same as hers. I have tried to relate it to chocolate, “Imagine you cant have any more chocolate. Its not that there isn’t any chocolate here, there is. And I have it. I’ll get it out and let you see the chocolate but it is mine and you cant touch it! Its not yours, its mine and not for you anymore. And its not that I am partaking in it I’m not. But you can’t either. So the chocolate it here, and I will keep it, not use it and not let you use it either.” Well its just met with a blank stare and nothing changes. She does lots for me and is very kind but no sex.
How well I remember those days... It's almost easier now for me even though it is officially my fault that our marriage is in the shape it is in... but we have at least come to a compromise and are doing our best to live together, yet separately. I don't know how long that will last - but, such as life is at our age, I take it one day at a time.
Precisely. I'm 69 now and we're moving into a lifestyle gated community. It looks like I'll just be pulling myself off into the future unless I can find someone there who is single and has a fun bi side he'd like to explore with me. I can't just put a notice up on a community notice board for any guy who is up for it.
You can certainly get to know people with the community gatherings and walk a conversation into "How is your sex life?" It could be an opportunity for a lot of mutual sucking or be providing a lot of head to some men desperately in need.
It would be nice for one guy and me to help each other by 'sharing our loads'. In a group of some 300 men, there's bound to be a couple of unserviced members.
