Have you ever lost contact with a friend and then had an overwhelming desire to find them? I had a good friend in college back in 1987. We went our own way and I never heard from him. Twenty years later, he came to mind. I had to reach him. I just had to hear from him. I searched but couldn't remember the spelling of his last name and gave up. A year later I tried again and sent 3 messages to people on Facebook with the same last name. I got his brother!! He responded. He told me that he had died a year ago of cancer. I was stunned. It was exactly a year ago that I was trying to reach him. Coincidence?... Who knows?
Ah something good to look forward too...enjoy. I talked on the phone to my first bf from elementary school a couple months ago, he never left our home town and I did and we are both 82 and he sounded good too...he was our class president for many years, small class in my years. I think he's still catholic as people back in that town don't change too much...too much change is not good to them...
I know you should trust in your experience of Light . You may reason that in your friend's last moments of Life you were thought of kindly and importantly .
I've had many similar experiences over the years. It's really about following your feelings, or trusting in your experience of light, as you so nicely put it.