Female POV unintentional humiliation of partner during mfm

For a few years wife and I fantasized having a mfm with a guy that has much larger penis than I do. On some level there is some humiliation involved with this. but not looking for anything extreme like cuckold or her making disparaging comments to me. I just want to see her enjoy having the different type of pleasure and intense orgasms it will give her.
She contacted an old friend of hers to see if he would be interested in being our guy. She used to sext and exchange pics/vids with him regularly in the past. She said he has the biggest best looking penis she has ever seen and never got to experience it since he lived far away. After he agreed this lead to them sexting with one night while I watched. Eventually topic of exchanging pics/vids came up. He requested to see one of our sex videos. In the heat of them moment we thought it would be hot to make a new one for him on the spot. She had already told him that he was much larger than I am but when we started recorded she said make sure you can see your whole penis before you put it in. I immediately asked if it was because she wanted him to see how much bigger he is than I am? She said no, just thought it would make the video better. Wasn’t upset at all by it at all but in my mind this was an example of unintentional humiliation and she thought he would enjoy seeing how much bigger he is. Curious to get some female opinions on if my theory of why she did that is correct. Just to clarify I am not upset this is just out of pure curiosity

 

You need to help her along. Not too much pressure but give her the opportunity. My girlfriend talked about it over a year before she gave in. Her friend had more influence over her than me. But all worked out.

 

You asked a yes/no question of your wife, and she answered "no." Now you want "female opinions" from people who have never met your wife of whether she is lying to you.

What you are seeking is unrealistic. Either accept your wife's answer as being true, or continue to theorize that she lied to you. If she's a habitual liar, then asking her the question would be pointless and a waste of both of your time. I see no reason for you to believe her to be lying about this. As things are, your theory is not healthy or helpful for your relationship with your wife, nor to your own mental wellness.

Simply from a video production standpoint, it makes sense for your external genitals to be clearly visible prior to vaginal penetrative intercourse. You have seen porn. Your wife has seen porn. It's the way it's done. Porn is produced mostly to the tastes of men, because men are overwhelmingly the ones willing to pay for porn. The person requesting this was a man, so there would be no reason to deviate from the standards of mainstream porn. Men do not hide their penises in mainstream porn, and there is no reason for yours not to be clearly visible in what is essentially private porn that the two of you were producing to show to another man.

If you get better advice in the form of a "female opinion," go with that. However, if you suspect your wife of lying, why would you believe an opinion of your wife's veracity from an anonymous internet stranger claiming to be a woman?