Hello, I'm going to just go all out on this post so apologies if I offend anyone. My name is Rich, I'm 25 and live in the UK. I have been depressed for a number of years due to feeling "out of place". Though I am fortunate enough to find a partner we do not have any friends or group friends. We both feel like we don't fit in anywhere and dislike the whole routine that everybody seems to have, we have always wanted to be different and feel like we are different, we think differently to other people. We are a young couple with a young baby and are bringing him up in a natural way (looking into home schooling, eating natural foods etc.) but again, we have no one to talk to about this as the norm lately is to give your kids chocolate and MCDonalds and send them off to school. We can both get on with people and get on with work colleagues but that is it, none of them want to meet up with us and we cant keep friends due to our differences, maybe we are being too picky? Like many people here, we have no one we can "pop out with for a catch up" and lately I have been dreading my holidays from work, I love spending time with my family don't get me wrong but having a new child he sleeps alot (along with my partner as they sleep together), as we currently live with her parents I am finding myself confined to my bedroom watching Netflix as I do not get on with her parents (nothing wrong with our relationship but we have no common grounds, hes had the same job for 1000 years and loves football, she loves watching TV and telling me we should get a council house). Again as I have no friends I do not go out anywhere as.. well I have no one to meet up with. We feel like we... sounds stupid but are not from this planet. It just all feels very odd and no matter how hard we try, no one wants to keep in contact with us (no matter how much I talk about THEM upon a first meeting). Even people we have kept in contact with we don't stay long because they "think" like everyone else. I have discussed with an old friend (whom I do not talk to anymore) about how there must be more to life than just working 8 - 6 for hardly any money and not spending any time with my family, to which she replied "Yeah but everyone does it"... At that point I stopped talking to her, am I the only one determined to try to change our life and not just follow the herd? Sorry for the essay but was good to finally let something out that I have never been able to share. Maybe one day we will find out "tribe", but until then, it's just the 3 of us against everyone else. I would like to add I do work full time and support my family, I didn't want to come across as a young couple who doesn't work. We have thought about becoming hippies and just kitting out a van (I am a caravan/motorhome technician so will be able to build a motorhome from scratch) and travelling round Europe and the UK, just the 3 of us. Hope to find some like minded people to chat to. Thanks
There are plenty of "crunchy" parents out there, you guys should maybe check out some online parenting groups and just put it out there that you're looking for people in your area to get to know in person. Caravaning around sounds fun too if you can afford it Best of wishes!
Thanks for the reply. I have tried that but got into an argument with most of them as they didn't like the fact I was a male parent on there (obviously the majority were females).
My view of others has always been like this, even before our child. I cant explain that. I appreciate the fact life happens and understand and accept that our child will be doing normal child things (eating sweets etc.) at an older age but, I don't know what it's like where you are from but it is very common here for parents to feed their 1 year old children fast foods, mcdonalds, pots of sweets etc which is what we disagree with, nothing about being pretentious new parents surely? Just a concern for our child's health. We don't care about clothes or items, it's what goes into his mouth. Maybe you are right but I have a big issue with following the herd (what everyone else is doing and thinks is normal), maybe that's just my own issues.
Ahhh gotcha. I remember doing a parenting forum when my little one was a newborn and yeah those women can be savage But finding communities online in your area really is going to be your best bet, its not like you can go out to a bar and pick up a bunch of parents lol. Meeting people after you have children is harder than when you're young and single but the internet is a good tool. my cousin homeschools and she has a great group of homeschool parents she hangs around with, she found them through a facebook group. Maybe your wife should be the one to make initial contact since these groups generally are female dominated
My kid always had that issue staying @ other's homes. She's a VERY picky eater...some got aggravated about it.
Being different in your thoughts and actions is a good thing all round but should not be the reason for an obviously lonely and unfulfilled life. You have thoughts, you have ideas - go with them to the best of your ability! You can build a van from scratch? Do it! You want to travel? Do it! Do whatever it takes to make your family a wee bit happier. Unfortunately joining a web site where you will find people who are basically on the same planet and will, in the main, be supportive will not physically change your circumstances. Only you can do that! Remember one thing though! If your mind is in the right place you will have no need for the acceptance of others! Concentrate and deciding what you as a family want and need! Good luck ma man and keep writing here! unfortunately
Hi everyone I'm new joined a couple of days ago but I've been coming here an reading for months seems like a nice site right BUT no I'm told to piss off an leave by a lifetime supporter I don't see anything I've done wrong. I was shocked I haven't started an topics i haven't been mean to anybody.I'm just here to read an reply on topics. They really make you welcome here.it's ok for under age kids to talk about sex but not someone who just wanted to be part of hip forums an maybe just maybe make a couple friends along the way. Shocked just how people who don't know you can be so stupid.thanks for welcoming to the hip family glenglen.
From a fellow outlander, welcome. Two lines of thinking: 1) Do it, if that's what you really want, or 2) Suffer the 9-5 and find other fulfillment outside of work. Either way, no one is going to live your life for you.
