Feel like the only person in the world who hates cities

I once could relate to the OP. Grew up in the countryside and postponed moving to a city as a student because i thought what's the point: i can visit anytime (already did for college) and living there wouldn't suit me. When i did in my twenties i soon felt i should have done it earlier. I went with the idea of just going for my (rest of) student years, then move back. I probably still will at some point. But im not in a rush. Love it here! Sometimes you just have to be subjected to such a change in order to make sure its not for you. The advantages outweigh the disadvantages for me at this point in life.

 

"I'm a little bit country...little bit rock n roll"...I like both worlds.....need my city fix every once in awhile ...I love Manhattan......pretty native to it there, and I love the country, too......where my noise is far enough away to not bother a single person...and I have privacy....
It helps to have neighbors that are trusted and loved, too......so having access to both worlds is great..

 

Yep. That's exactly what I did too. I actually didn't mean to give it a try, I just found myself working a job that threw me right into the middle of it. I just don't relate to a single thing a city person does, likes, or values. They think all these material surroundings is the key to fun, enjoyment, and happiness. Not a single bit of it appeals to me. You couldn't pay me any amount of money to go out to a bar or a club. I'd literally rather die than go to them. I once was coaxed into going out for a night on the town by one of my coworkers. We bar hopped all night. We ended up in this dance club. I was the only one not dancing. I was sitting to the side twiddling my thumbs. I got up and left. It just puzzles me that people ACTUALLY like to do this type of stuff. It's just a bunch of dumbass horseshit.

 

I used to like dancing at raves and clubs. Now I don't like it. Not even because it's expensive, but to some degree because it might not be very safe.

 

Oh, I don't care about bars and night life.....but I love the museums, art galleries, Broadway theatre, ect.... and innovative ideas I get in the city of Manhattan, probably my favorite city in the world.

 

I was going to say something similar. I've never enjoyed going to clubs but I love the culture you can only find in larger cities. I like the art, the architecture, the food, etc

 

I love the city for those reasons, as well. I think NYC has it all, if you want nature, go to Central Park, but you have the best restaurants, nightlife, and culture on the flip side.

 

Yeah, the food is another thing. the last time I was in Manhattan, I went to authentic Chinese restaurant in China Town......it is nothing like American Chinese food...which is full of MSG and so on.......I was introduced to bitter melon, which is kind of bitter, but I got addicted to it, and tried to make it here from a little Asian store I found some fresh bitter melon in.i Can't say it tasted as authentic when I made it , though.
Planning on another Manhattan trip here soon. There is an art gallery in Soho making miniature porcelain dolls of people....and you go in, get photographed at every angel and voila!...you have yourself in miniature, eventually...My brother''s wife had them both go to get it done, for my brother's birthday this year....and they mail you the tiny dolls of yourself......

They are so damn good that when my brother sent me the photos of both dolls, it took awhile for me to realize it was not really them.

 

I am waiting for it to be spring first. I don't need that cold, gusty Manhattan wind working through all of the buildings knocking me down, as i want to walk everywhere, when I go..

 

OP, I think you are making a lot of assumptions about city-dwellers.

Do you really think that country folk are much more interesting, unique, and "not cardboard"? In my experience, folks who live in small towns or in rural areas are a homogeneous bunch. There are plenty of misanthropic, introverted, and independent city dwellers: in fact, there are necessarily more varied types of people in the city than there are in a more isolated area.

It really seems like you dislike people, not the city in particular, as there are plenty of things to attract an introvert to a big city, many of which have been listed already. A relative sense of anonymity, the ability to exist without a vehicle, access to arts and culture, as well as a variety of high quality and global food available at your convenience. Obviously, if none of these are appealing to you, then that is another matter. I know plenty of people who feel exactly like you do.

What do you enjoy doing that you are able to do in the country but not in an urban setting?

 

I hate cities....

 

Dang that’s a lot of bottled up hatred for human interactions and socializing.

You still work as a hotel valet? Sounds to me like your problem is you’re job isn’t a good fit for you. I too have been a hotel valet and I know what it’s like to interact with people and visitors all the time.

Hopefully you can find a better job that doesn’t involve being around people so much.

 

You're so hilariously generalizing here its hard to take you serious. Just in case you are: this is obviously merely how you perceive things.

1) there are many other things to do. Far from all city dwellers love this. Some feel the same about you about these things but still love living in the city. Should tell you something huh
2) dance clubs and bars in the countryside are often ten times worse. At least in a city you have more choice. Which is actually one of the main perks of city life on itself

As usual its you and your preferences and opinion. It could relate to your social issues with lacking attention and self esteem

 

hipforums needs a 140 character limit on all posts. we should start a petition.

 

I've only passed through NYC. I walked out of the bus station in Port Authority and walked around a bit, so I could say I've been there, but I've never really been to New York.

I want to do the hip hop tour and see the Empire State building to quench my inner Kong geek. Plus, MOMA, Little Italy, etc.

Definitely a bucket list city. The opening to SNL always makes NY look so cool and inviting.

 

I went to New York in February once. It was freezing but it wasnt crowded, I thought it was a great time to visit. Even though the tall buildings create brutal wind tunnels on some streets. But the important thing is no crowds!

I would love to see NY around Christmas time and do all the cheesy NY Christmas things but not with those crowds.

 

Love NYC! The food, people, plays, culture and of course the shopping. Ugh the shopping. Need to plan a trip there soon.

 

Being in Boston was cool because of all the historical landmarks pertaining to the American Revolution. I think most people think of NYC as this ultra-modern metropolis, but we forget it is older than the US. I bet that town has some cool history.

Plus, I have this weird fascination with urban infrastructure. Something about a vertical city like NY built upon all those tunnels. I saw this cool documentary one time about urban explorers checking out these old abandoned subway tunnels. Creepy but also way cool--the urban equivalent to Carlsbad Caverns or something.

We have our little downtown core, but for the most part L.A. is so spread out and suburban. It's not as cool. But we have mountains and beaches.

But, I'm weird like that. I think cities can be as interesting to explore as nature.

 

I've been to Boston, Chicago, and Vegas. Those are the biggest cities I've ever been to. I guess they were okay. I didn't feel uneasy when I visited them because I was just a tourist. I guess it's just the concept of city life that bothers me. It just seems like a surrender of personal freedom. Nothing is yours. You're subject to the whims of everyone else. And the amenities people cite as their reason for liking the city are meaningless to me. I can have more fun with a fishing pole and a can of worms on a lake than I ever could with all the nightlife of the city. I don't really care about "experiencing other cultures". Not saying they're not entitled to them, or that I don't like them, I just don't care to see them. I don't discriminate particular groups of people, I just don't really like people in general. I wish it weren't so. It would definitely make my life much easier if I did like them, but I can't seem to shake this disdain I have for everything and everyone.