Fear of dying alone

Listen, I don't think gay people should worry about dieing alone. Looking at the stats of devorce rate in married couples (most of the male-female) straight people even have this problem. Now I do not think we need for people to accept homosexuality, I do not think that a sexual oriantation should have to be popular. I myslef had feelings like this before but then I realized that are people who are friends (or more) that love me. Dieing alone should not be what we worry about, what we should worry about is dieing unhappy. If you are feeling low, just take a good look in the merroir and ask yourself the big question. Do I love who I am, if not then make the changes, if so, all the better. If one loves who they are truly than nothing else really matters - and the search for partnership will become so much eaiser. It is alot eaiser to love and be loved if you are in a good frame of mind, balanced and sure.

 

Dylan (I hope you don't mind me using your real name), I agree with you in what you say. I too would love a boyfriend and sometimes feel a bit down not having one, but that won't solve all my problems.

Dazed Lucy you make a good point too, except I disagree with you when you say that you don't think people need to accept homosexuality. People do need to. People need to open their closed minds and reject conservative values. Obviously many people have already done so and have been brought up doing so, but still, there is so much unneeded hatred going on out there that we could do without.

 

People need to accept ALL people
for what they are....

Isnt it called compassion?

What if the person who was homphobic
had a son or daughter that way gay....?

Yes indeed Andy we all need to

open our somewhat small and narrow minds!!

 

U are not alone..and yes us being gay..def gives us a smaller pool to fish in. However keep optomistic. Hopefully this will not happen for ya or me either

 

I prefer not to think too far into the future and dwell on what my future may or may not be. Sure it might not be the best outcome, but if you'll think about it too much you wont enjoy the here and now. Enjoy what we've been given now and make the most of it. Seize the day

 

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I'm not Homosexual, I am Bi though. I too have the fear of having what I call an "Empty" funeral. I desire someone to be there only because they loved me. Even as a friend loves another friend. But to die truly alone? I couldn't deal with it.

 

Dieing alone is my preference, Ideally I will be living some place where i can simply vanish. I've spent a lot of time in the Jungles of Peru and it would be the ideal place to die, amid the teeming life of the rainforest. Though gay, I have adopted and raised many sons, they all have healthy, decent lives. I'm content with that. Having a partner has never even been a dream for me. It works well for some folks, for others it doesn't. Vanishing into the forest to pass on into something else would be sweet.

 

Truth is the opposite, it gets easier when you get older.

A lot more guys are more comfortable about being gay, more seem to come out, straight guys get less annoying about, you tend to care less about sex and spend more time socialising and getting romantic.

 

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yarapario, that was really beautiful. i don't want to be worried about when i pass away, i don't want all these complications involving my body and where it will go. ideally, i wouldn't want to even be mourned. i'd much rather "simply vanish", as you put it.

whether or not there is somebody else there isn't as important to me as it used to be. it would be nice either way, I think.

people assume that if you think often about death that it makes you morbid, depressed, or unmotivated. i think the more i think about the fact that i am going to die, the more i feel the need to make something of myself, to open my mind to the possibilities around me and really become something i'm proud of. death is inescapable, but life is whatever you make it, so get out there and put on your game face.

 

lostandsafe, thank you. Death is a door I haven't gone through yet. There are lots of other doors to try before I come to that one...perhaps...or not. However it works is ok, has to be doesn't it? In the meantime theres lots of silliness to get into. Headin' back to the jungle this coming summer with my youngest son, there should be lots of adventure and laughs there. Take care, have fun, Steve