Fear of commitment

I am a monogamous, committing person, with the right person. In fact I am celibate until I meet someone GOOD for me.

 

i seem to be doing this as well lately. i'm still not sure how i feel about that.

 

the furthest you can go is within.

 

commitments are scary unless you take them with a dose of your own medicine;

--on your own terms

why does everyone equate their fears of commitment to interpersonal relationships?

i think that if you're fearful of committing to relationships that would extend to other facets of life.

--work
--personal goals
--hobbies
--personal self worth


im ready to commit, like a comment on myspace to a comet from outer space.


i think im on to something.

 

Same here. Its hard to find a decent guy. But maybe we're just too picky.

 

I think people fear commitment because either they don't want to commit (which isn't a fear, it's a choice), or they have built some strange expectation up in their minds of what a commitment means.

 

commitment is super easy when you find the right person. it's all so natural and easy that you don't see any other course of action as feasible.

 

I think I want a serious relationship. It'd be fun.

 

Is it easy to have obligations that must be maintained?

 

Hmmm.I think there *are* people here, and everywhere who simply fear commitment.

I find that monogomous, time-taking commitment has been too much for me recently.
Its not fair on either party if I have other things to consider.
By mid/late Summer, I'm pretty sure I'll be thinking about making commitment of some sorts again.
In recent times, I've met numerous people I'd happily show levels of commitment to, but it wasn't practical for me.

 

hell, i've been doing it pretty much my entire life. not on purpose of course, and i know exactly how i feel about it...

i have no problems with commitment. i can commit to things i want to commit to (better than most people actually), or i can easily not bother committing to something if i don't think it's worth it. as far as relationships go, i don't even know. i'd have to try it sometime before i could tell you if i like it or not. i would imagine with the right person it would be quite nice, but i would probably also fear it with most people.

 

I fear commitment probably more than I fear anything else. I don't have faith in most guys, and I don't know why, it's one of those things I should probably get over one of these days.

However, I can be a very committed worker, friend, daughter, etc..

 

i think this sums up why i've feared commitment. i've simply never met someone i wanted to commit to. even though secretly deep down i do want that. it's just such a specific something that i don't find it just everywhere. so i feign a fear of commitment so i don't have to face the fact that i'm basically just waiting for the woman of my dreams to wake up and come love me. lol. cause somehow i equate that with loserdom.

 

I have a fear of abandonment. But I'm cool on commitment I guess, though I try not to make them (commitments).

 

I think a fear of commitment is often simultaneously a fear of abandonment. atleast I'm pretty sure that's where my fear of commitment lies. putting trust, energy, time into someone who might wake up tomorrow and tell me I'm not good enough.

 

lol. they're not obligations at that point.

 

i have a fear of not being committed. makes me feel alone and insignificant. i am a weak person and i need someone to be there for me always

 

I have no fear of commitment.

However, I do fear committing to the wrong person.

So I am selective.

But if I give someone my heart, I fear nothing.

 

that is the perfect definition:cheers2:

 

I'm really getting vague when going into detail about this but I experience this fear as well sometimes... Really good for screwing a possible relation up