I'm for less tongue, personally... tonguing has been sexy before, but I think I'm over it. I had a gf that wasn't into it, and it sort of shaped the way I feel about kissing. I that kissing is so special. There's something universal about sharing a kiss between two people that feels super special. When you've kissed someone in a special way, you're among the hundreds of millions of couples who have also shared a kiss with their special someone. It's like a member's only club that no one is talking about, but people strive to get into. I think kissing is abused too. I've met people who I can just tell they've kissed everyone, and it doesn't feel as special when we kiss because it's presumably just 'the same old ritual' kiss with them.
Slow....and lots of tongue too. I am not really into a sort of sword fight in my mouth. Sloooooowwwwlyyyyy!!!
I love neck kisses too. But if we're talking mouth to mouth then the wetter the better, more tongue indicated more passion which I always like, especially when the guy takes control of the kiss.
My favourite kissing is when my husband takes control and grabs the back of my head and grips his fingers in my hair with one hand and the other hand on my neck or on my bum and he proper gives me it. He licks and bites my lips and plays with my tongue with his.
I haven't kissed my girlfriend, but if & when we do, I'll take what I can get. Maybe butterfly kisses... Eskimo kisses?