Falling In Love In A Threesome

How many of you have fallen in love (or started to) with the other person, while you were in a threesome?

I'm mainly interested in you ladies who've been part of a steady, long-term MFM threesome. Normally, one of the men is your husband (or SO) and the other man is a more casual male acquaintance. Have any of you been in the situation, after the threesome has been going on for a while (months or more), where the fucking has started to morph into "making love" (with all the accompanying emotional elements)?

I ask because the threesome that my wife and I were in back in the mid-80s (with a close male friend) ended in part because she started to "fall in love" with him. She wasn't falling "out of love" with me, but she started to develop much deeper feelings for him, other than just immensely enjoying getting together with him and fucking. That was a threshold that I wasn't able to cross and I started to get jealous. I was perfectly happy sharing her physically with him (in fact, I wish that they'd gotten together much more often than they actually did), but I couldn't bear the idea of sharing her heart with anyone else (even if I continued to hold the leading position for her love.)

As I mentioned, I'm mainly interested in hearing from women who've been in an MFM relationship where this has happened, but I wouldn't mind hearing from men who've experienced something similar in a long-term FMF threesome.

So, comments?

 

I started to have feelings for the fellow whom my husband and I had a threesome with a few months ago. I didn't know what was going on. Then I did some reading into what happens to a woman's brain when she has sex, and was able to sort things out in my own head. Of course I told my husband everything and we had some good talks about it.

I think the problem arises when women start to mistake what they are feeling for real feelings, and validate them. Pair that with putting your emotional focus on another man, when it should be put towards your husband, and things can start to get sticky.

Now I feel like the threesome just made me closer with the man who we invited into our bedroom, and it is fun hanging out with him because the three of us have this inside joke that nobody else is in on.

 

i must say im in a relationship with scarlet johansen but our threesome with pornstar lisa ann gave me a few feelings for lisa ann - i dont know who i like better ! jk my fav celeb and my fav pornstar fantasy all in one or three? technincally deadpool ryan reynolds did already get with scarlet anyway. love scarlet and who doesnt want lisa ann...next thread alert

 

if i had a wife it would bother me if she started having feelings for another guy in a fun threeway. but sex is suppose 2b just business- no feelings involved just pure animal sex. so i would make sure the other guy even if he as a 12" cock is not a cute guy but really ugly and has no personality and def not muscles this way wifey wont care and he will just be a penis and nothing more. but thats just me. thtas how i would do it - sex is just sex but u dont want the woman u love developing feelings- hence the danger in real life sharing/cuckolding.

 

Not helping, dude.

 

I'm not talking from experience here buzzgunner but I really couldn't see me falling for another woman whom we invited to join my wife and I in a threesome.
I say this quite simply because we would invite another (carefully chosen) woman to join us because we want to have sex as a threesome, not because I want simply to fuck another woman.
Similarly, if we invited another (carefully chosen) man, it would be because I want my wife to be pleasured by two men, and not simply because she wants to fuck somebody else. Obviously, I can't speak for my wife's emotions but I hope they would be similar to mine about another woman. If I had any doubts then I wouldn't be craving a threesome in the way that I am.
Put quite simply, if I was desperate just to fuck somebody else, then I would have probably done it by now. Likewise, I guess my wife would have fucked somebody else if it was purely about fucking another man. In the grand scheme of things, I reckon it's relatively easy to find one on one casual sex whereas choosing a person, male or female, to join you in a threesome is rather more difficult.

Just to repeat, I'm not talking from experience but simply thinking out loud; what a fantastic Ed Sheeran song!

Any thoughts Mr. buzzgunner???

 

true im just saying that personally emotions and feeling matter more than sex- so if i was gonna introduce a 3rd party to "share" it would be as arnold from predator says "one ugly motherfucker" who the girlfriend or wife would see a just a penis and want nothing else from him. just me thats all- i aint not gonna get a damn brad pitt from fightclub
for a threesome

 

Based on my own research (and small personal experience), I don't believe that's a safe assumption. While there are plenty of exceptions, Men and women are quite different WRT criteria for entering into a sexual relationship. Men (generally) will fuck any attractive woman who's willing (assuming that there are restrictive factors, like a spouse that they don't want to cheat on, etc.) Woman, OTOH, usually need to look past the purely physical for something else they find attractive (good social skills, sense of humor, strong empathy for others, etc.) This is not so much the case for one-night stands, but tends to be the norm for longer term relationships (IMHO and experience.) WRT our threesome (which was my idea BTW), I'm absolutely positive that my wife would have never consented if the other man had been a stranger (or even very casual acquaintance), no matter how attractive, buff, or well-hung he was. I picked a close male friend that we'd know for years; someone she was very comfortable around, who she enjoyed interacting with socially (both individually and in groups), and who she found at least somewhat physically attractive. Even so, I had multiple talks with each of them (separately) about getting together, to make sure that they both got used to the idea and were both comfortable with it. Then, the three of us started to go out sunbathing with my wife initially topless and then, later, all three of us nude (to get them both used to being comfortable being naked in each others presence.) (BTW, the three of us had sunbathed together a lot before this, but my wife had never removed even part of her bathing suit back then.) Finally (once nude sunbathing was the norm), the two of them went out without me one time. They didn't fuck, but both applied sunscreen to each other "everywhere" (or so I was told later.) The very next time that the three of us went out to sunbathe, they fucked (in my presence) for the first time. After that, it started to take place on a regular (frequent) basis.

I don't think that it ever occurred to my wife that she'd have to work at keeping herself emotionally (but not physically, obviously) separated from our friend, so her "love" for him developed spontaneously (but very gradually) over the subsequent six months. It wasn't a problem for me until I started feeling left out during our threesomes. It went downhill from there.

 

especially fucking with rubber gloves , no way a women couldnt fall in love with that . But what if you were tyler and he just fucked how.you wanted to fuck?

 

I know from experience that my wife has feelings for our friends we share with. She is open about this to me. In a way it makes for better sex with them.

I agree Anya. My wife will tell me, if I'm not there there is more passion between them. Just as though there is more passion between her and myself when it's just us. I think it's undivided attention to only one person.

I believe that it's hard not to have feelings if it is a regular thing with a person. Whether it's a man or woman. Heck, I feel somewhat connected to them as well. It would be hard for me to expect anything less from her.

I think the main thing is communication, but that's just my opinion.

 

And therein lies the problem. If you're attached enough to the other guy that you think you might not be able to stop, it's close enough to love that the difference makes no difference.

 

Look, an ongoing threesome is a pit for falling in love. When you give someone , and they give you , sexual satisfaction and release, a bond will form. It is unavoidable. If you're going to have multiple threesomes with your spouse, change the 3rd person every time to avoid developing real feelings other than lust. That said, I would love an FFM threesome with my wife and several different friends she has, one at a time.

 

I love the fact that you're thinking about a few of your wife's friends kittylicker, not just one!

Just out of curiosity, have you put those friends in any order of preference or would you just take them as they come, so to speak?

Would you also love a MMF threesome with your wife? Much to my wife's surprise, I would rather indulge her with another man in preference to having another woman join us. Obviously I wouldn't say no to a FFM threesome.

 

I want to add comments but two herniated discs in my neck make typing difficult.

 

Aww buzz, that's a shame. I bet there's other things you can't do either! Wink, wink. Hope you're soon back to normal.

 

Running man , I definitely have an order of preference for my wife's friends. BTW, 2 of them are also sister-in-laws. Both sister-in-laws are 1 and 2 in any order. They just have to be willing to eat my wife out while being fucked or sitting on my face while I fuck my wife. I don't think I would enjoy MMF. Too much jealousy on my part and I am aware of my unevolved and selfish nature. This is why none of the FFMs will likely never cum to fruition. HA

 

BRW, I was in the room when one of her friends at a girl party in our house when one said "oh, give it up. Everyone of our husband's have beat off to everyone I this room". They know.

 

And Im guessing if you were asked to invite another female,so its you,your wife and other female,you'd be happy screwing someone who was really ugly with no personality?

 

My wife and I were in a 30 years threesome with her best friend. My wife already loved her but I also fell in love with her too. Believe it or not, it was just our normal life to us and one that we knew longer than any other type of life. I am too alpha to do a MMF threesome but have arranged some wife swapping and sex parties to give my wife the chance to sample sex with other guys. I am OK with that since I too am getting sex with someone's wife. It feels like it is submissive if I share my wife with another man and get nothing in return. Just the way I feel. My wife does not like sex with other men, just other women. She only fell in love with one and it was a woman that we both knew since we were kids and already had treated as family before we invited her into our bed.

I once mentioned a MMF threesome to my wife since she let me join in on a few thousands FFM threesomes and even let me have sex with just her girlfriend anytime I wanted to. I thought that despite my personal feelings about it, I owed her a lot more than just one MMF threesome. She wanted nothing to do with it. She has always told me that I am the only man in her life and if she saw me naked and erect with another guy, her view of me would change from her protector and provider, to something else. For a bisexual she is awfully prejudiced against bi men. I can understand it though because I knew her father and how she was brought up to remain a virgin until she married. So it will never happen.

 

Oops I already posted

 

I did, once, with a much younger couple. After a bad breakup I got into a year-long relationship with my best friend and his girlfriend. Wish it could have lasted.