falling for my boss what to do

About half a year ago my manager got replaced by a new younger one.
he's about 28 and very attractive,
recently I've been having dreams about him and suddenly got very attracted by him.
Now here's the problem: he's engaged.
but he's still acting very nice and always smiling at me.

I'm really confused because I want to tell him so bad, but how? I don't want him to notice (in case he;s not into it) , I can lose my job

Another thing, we work at the gym, and therefore he has a great bod too.
In about a month we have 'personal meetings' to talk about progress and goals at the workplace.
which makes it more uncomfortable for me.

what should I do?
Should I surrender to my feelings and flirt with him/ tell him? (and how)
or should I forget it because he's engaged? (Really would hurt me , and I don't want to be a relationship wrecker)

love to hear your thoughts

 

He's engaged.

 

Move on! He is engaged to someone else the most you would be is a lay on the side for him or a home wrecker.

 

Engaged is not married...seduce him!

 

If it's meant to be for you and him his engagement will flop. The cards are played as they come I believe and you shouldn't mess with it as it is now... People tend to get engaged before marriage to put a tag kinda thing on each other and allow time before the next move.
Usually an engagement means he likes the one he's with.
And another thing, if it worked so he dumped her for you after telling her he is her's, (getting engaged to her) imagine the next one who comes along after he got engaged to you.

 

Your last sentence Sally is a fallacy, just because a guy might leave his fiance to move on to another girl does not necessarily imply a pattern of behavior.

But I agree with all else you've said.

@OP's he's engaged don't mess with it, if fate has plans for you then it his engagement will flop without any meddling from you and you can make your intentions known that you're open to dating him.

Until then do NOT flirt with him and risk your job and emotions; it's just a crush.

 

Could say it's a fallacy but in all reality if you steal a man from another woman (or visa versa) beware that person could go on to another just like he came to you. I know a few who jumped to cash in the old one for something new and then did it again.

 

Homewrecker.

 

There's no home. There's no kids. There's no marriage.

There is an engagement, which is only a step up from BF & GF

"Homewrecker" is hardly appropriate

 

you don't know any of that for sure.

and in any case, your definition of a "home" is subjective.

 

No I don't. I just assumed the OP would have mentioned those things

And so is yours.

 

he is engaged, if you flirt with him and hes says hes not interested you will be hurt, i would forget it, better to keep him a fantasy

 

Get a firemen's calendar and put it in your desk. Look at it often, bets are there's lots of guys in there better looking, this will give you time to see others around that will interest you as much or more then your boss and move your mind forward while you keep your job and haven't ruined anything by him knowing should he shrug you off for his girl.
I have fallen for a boss here and there and it's hard knowing they have an SO and you can't have but someone else can get you past that, mind you when the mind wants something really bad you may miss what others have that could attract you.

 

Just because someone is nice to you and smiles at you does not mean that they're interested. It usually just means that they're a nice person.

 

I don't think there's anything wrong with flirting with him. I wouldn't suggest making any moves though

 

I think it usually means a little bit more than "like".

 

Of course and then it's more a risk he will reject her if she tries.

 

thank you for the replies.
some of them are quite helpfull.
thank you

its just that he never talks about her around me.
and co workers even mention his flirty behaviour towards me.
I know im totally wrong with having these feelings so there's no need to judge me more, im already doing it myself.
however I still want to confess, so he can maybe think twice before he says something flirty to me?
because it only makes me more confused

 

How old is this guy? (your boss)

It's very possible that he himself, is still learning social boundaries himself when it comes to his own actions and relationships, that he is a cheater and has low personal morals to his fiance, and/or his overtly friendly nature, is being misinterpreted by others as "flirting" per the norms of your culture.

There are also cases were flirting is just flirting, provided it doesn't pass certain boundaries (intimate contact like holding hands, kissing or anything more serious).

The risk is still high for you.

I believe firmly that lots of our comments sound harsh, but they are not meant to be judgmental. Just harsh to point out the negative realities of consequences that we have to assume you might not have perceived being caught up in the crush you have.

We aren't in your or anybody else's head.

 

If he is flirting with you and something goes too far, like when you know it's more then kidding around stop him and tell him because he is engaged you want to keep a good working relationship with him and this seems wrong.
Maybe he will say something that helps like they aren't working out, then you could have him once you know for sure he is done with her. That's in a perfect world tho,,, but it's possible.