Discussion in 'Mental Health' started by carsick, Jun 9, 2006.
why cant i maintain eye contact for more than 2 seconds?
i have a hard time maintaining eye contact with people too. painfully shy as a child and now i'm an akward feeling adult. i'm sure years of my brothers sqealing "madeline is looking at me!" didn't help either
I had that problem, but when I started teaching martial arts, a huge part was keeping eye contact with students while talking. So I got over it because of that, I like eye contact now.
Just practice it and you shouldn't have problems with it then.
I Also Used to Have this for a Long While...
hmm I don't know but if it bothers you there are people who can coach you on it. I am horribley shy but always make eye contact
i, too, was a painfully shy kid....no longer shy (though perhaps quiet) but still have massive issues with eye contact. glad to know i`m not the only one... anyone have any suggestions for becoming more comfortable looking people straight in the eye without feeling like you`re staring them down or seeing straight into their soul or vice versa?
Look at the middle of their nose,towards the top--it'll look just like you are making eye contact to them.Me-I make eye contact as long as I'm with someone.But then I'm just as important as anyone else and they understand that in pretty short order.Comes with age ,maybe.
Many times eye contact is intimidating to others.
Some times it's distracting when thinking on the fly.
Sometimes I do... sometimes I don't.
I like eye contact it tells you all u need to know
just do it and try not to think about it, I mean whats the big deal?
What does it tell you? When you see someone making eye contact.
dont know wots up with me , ive been practicing , ive always been practicing , it just feels horrible and fake, i think i smoked to much pot too young and thought about to much wierd stuff, i can tell other people think i dont like em or that im shy as fuck. maybe i am shy (wot ever that meens) but its not like the general public scares me , i jus dont like most of em, or maybe im ashamed and just feel lower than them.
Depends on their Soul.
usually low self esteem or nervousness. force yourself to look people in the eye. No one person is better than another, regardless.
Eye contact is a Western and cultural thing. In eastern cultures people make very little eye contact and it is considered something normal just like we consider eye contact something normal and necessary in the western world.
It is interesting, in Japan it is rude to look people in the eye while in the Western world it is considered something rude not to look someone in the eye or you lack self-esteem.
I think this is the exact reason people are uncomfortable with eye contact. It feels as if the person is looking right into you (or your soul) and can see what's going on. I always keep constant eye contact and am weary when it is not returned. Usually a sign of some sort of inner turmoil.
As advice, I would suggest to try and think of what it is you are scared people will see. Then remember that:
a) no one is perfect and
b) this is only a feeling; people can't really tell what's going on with you just by staring into your eyes even though it feels that way
eye contact is raw and kinda hot.
just force yourself do it and youll like it.
It's a state of mind. I find it easier when I'm confident in what I'm doing. My partner told me to remember the physical feeling of confidence and then try to remember that when I'm talking to people. Once the feeling came, so did the eye contact.
It scares the crap out of me. I can't do it.
I get freaked out when people look at me, it feels very aggressive.
But I keep trying...
I'm almost never around people, so that might be a reason. But then again, I've always been this shy, so I dunno.
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