Hi I put this on Facebook just now but thought it would be good to get opinions here too. I think I have a big problem with expectations. Like if I'm expected to do something, I feel pressure and then get scared of it and hide away. I always like to just "hang out", without any expectations at all (like complex etiquette). I dunno why I'm like this though ._. This is a big reason why I like hippies - fewer expectations and more chilled! Also, computers and stuff are good because they don't have expectations, they don't judge, they just do what you tell them lol That's pretty much pasted in from Facebook, but let me know what you think! Peace
Might have something to do with the amount of pot you smoke. It affects people in different ways. I haven't smoked in a while but when I did smoke a lot I might get really motivated to clean the house or go running (I love running high). And most others I'm really amotivational.
Bilby - I agree. I am something of a nihilist and a physicalist (despite being an agnostic theist... work out THAT mess! haha) so I just tend to live my life and... that's it. I don't see why everything has to be given this great meaning. I do think there may well be a god, but I have no evidence of that it's only a hunch and I certainly have no idea what he/she might be like. But I see no inherent reason to push yourself too hard or expect tons from life or whatever... we're just HERE. There doesn't HAVE to be a purpose or meaning or "right way". happilyinlove (and as a general addition to my post) - I very rarely smoke weed. I very rarely do any drugs. I like them, but I'm poor lol Even if I had lots of money I wouldn't overdo any drug as I think the body benefits from some time sober
I've known a few people who were like this, but it wasn't always a good thing. It depends on what type of "expectations" you are talking about. For example, if your wife asks you to take out the garbage, do you avoid doing it because you know that you are expected to? Or do you mean more social expectations? Can you give me an example of a situation where you have negative feelings associated with expectations?
Erm... usually it depends how it's asked really. If somebody asks me nicely and it's not phrased like an order or a true "expectation" then of course I'll do things for others - I like to do things for others I think that some people just like to bark orders though, to be honest. As for examples... I'm not so good with events on certain dates, particularly when there's a social etiquette. I just... find them awkward and I know I'll probably get SOMETHING wrong and I'd rather just not bother. To be honest, I think most of this is caused by my mum. She's pretty intense and "frantic" or "manic" or... however it's best put, and although she absolutely means well and is a lovely person, 18 years of that can take its toll. After a while I think you just hide away to escape the chaos...
Hah, I have a really bad case of this. To the point that I can get 'paralysed' and not do expected things at all. And I always try to put it away for later, but then I can't function, since the pressure and remembering it just stays with me. Weed helps. Makes you not give a fuck and just do things. Or not do anything, depending on person.
"Expectations are the root of all heartache" sir William Shakespeare Do not expect anything from anybody cause when the outcome you thought was going to happen doesnt you only end up dissapointing yourself... Smoking weed helps me function on a different level and it mellows me out to the point im not interested in anything that cant help me or i cant help it. Im just being which is a nice thing cause im not really agravated with anything lol
