Excited But A Lot More Nervous About Experimenting With Gf

New to this forum so dont really know where to post this

My girlfriend and I have been going pretty strong. Talking about marriage. We've both had our sexual exploits in the past. I've had an FFM threesome once but didnt really enjoy it (both girls were hammered pretty bad). Anyways I'm the kinda man who keeps his life private and I do believe that the past is past.
My GF however wants to tell me everything (not that I asked her to) so I dont have hear it from others.
Now she has FFM, MFM threesomes, FFFM foursome and an orgy under her belt. Oh and a couple of times in public
It doesnt really bother me. If anything I am glad. There are a couple of things I've tried and couple of things she has (she's never tried anal or light bdsm)
Now she is trying to arrange an ffm 3some for us ... but her ultimate goal is to take me to an orgy sometime

Now I'm a bit of control freak. So that means I'm totally fine having a threesome with her and another guy cause in a way I can guide (not control) what the other guy can or cannot do. An orgy means everything is out of control. To have sex in a sea of penises and watching her get f**ked by different guys is something that makes me very anxious. Maybe because I'm a little bit self-conscious about my penis. Or maybe cause I just dont like crowds.

She hasnt arranged anything yet but she keeps giving hints that she wants to try it with me. We agreed that we need to try 3somes and 4somes before we move on to an orgy ..... but it still makes me nervous. Even when I watch orgy porn, I get more anxious than horny thinking about it. Is it cool to not switch partners in an orgy ? We wont be going to an organized orgy party. More like a group of drunk guys and girls who'll just get horny and start fuckiing

 

Why so you feel like you can't tell her this stuff? For obvious reasons, never tell her about your dick insecurities, but why can't you tell her the truth about your feelings regarding orgies?

 

Three issues

1. I've never been very open about my feelings (maybe that says a lot about why my previous relationships have failed). Although I have been a lot more open about my sexual fantasies with this girl

2. I've always been very confused about orgies. As in it looks good in porn but the intricacies of implementing it make me anxious.

3. I feel this subtle pressure cause she is doing something that I have tried several times (anal) so I thought I should try something that she wants me to. But I am not a 'peoples person'. Dunno how comfortable I would be with group sex

 

I meant to ask if anyone has been in an orgy and didnt switch partners

I feel that maybe for the first few ones .... I really need that to understand if I'm comfortable or not. I ask this cause I know orgies can be wild and out of control within a matter of seconds. I dont want to be the guy who is warding off dicks

 

Of course. There's different ways to swing.

 

Hi there. I was very insecure in the past as well. After having many 3somes with my wife, all MFM, it's no big deal. Some guys are bigger, some are smaller, some are wider, some are shorter. They all are going to feel different to her and that is why we do it. We make it all about her. I get off watching her take a guy's cock out and get it hard and watch him enjoy her blowjobs. I love seeing his dick penetrate her for the first time and her face as she feels that brand new strange cock enter her soaked pussy.
With orgy's. you can just go watch, you don't have to participate, especially in a group at a hotel. A house party is going to be smaller and likely more pressure to participate. You and your wife need to create and share a google document, we have several, to describe the do's don'ts and rules. We have one, Rules of Estrangement, for what is allowable to take place. She can't switch positions or start anything unless I am there. We have rules for how we are ok with her fucking on vacation if I am not there. She'd have to tell me she met a guy, they want to have fun. I need a picture of him, I need to know BEFORE they plan to go to the hotel. I need pictures of her in each position, oral and sexual. Preferably texting me as they are happening. All other sex rules apply, like no kissing on the mouth and no cumming inside her. She knows if its the morning she's leaving, he has to cum on her and leave it there until she gets home and I want a picture of it! I want to know she's sitting on the plane with some guys cum on her and when she gets home, she's going to get fucked good.
Some sex rules we have: Pictures every time, so we can remember and revisit the fun. No meeting others without the others knowledge. No secrets. We both have a section for things we will do, would do, want to continue and things I want her to do alone.
Your rules will change regularly as you become ok with what's happening and develop more sexually. Were flipping 45 and sex has never been better. We've learned she's a squirter, I've learned how to go from lasting a few to 20 minutes to being able to last literally 3 hours. YOUR confidence will build when you see that other guys banging her with all their confidence have times when they last a few minutes and you'll see others that amaze you and they'll give you some tips on their success!