Do you suppose he told her, afterwards? I assuming here, that she was the one, who was or is, your best friend?
I must have missed some of this in the beginning, so to save me some time here, am I to understand that you're a woman and that your wife is a woman as well? Just asking, so that my reading here, doesn't confuse me in any way.
Luck of the draw, when going without any preliminaries, I guess. Maybe you should do a little rub a dub on it and for giving your fingers the smell test, before trying it again, next time. I mean you do plan on giving it another try, do you not?.....lol
If just looking at women counts as perving... then I'm a huge perv because I do it every day. Thousands are around me on any given day and they all are hard to not look at.